"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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There's a girl I've been talking to for a while and whenever we talk there's always been flirting, teasing, etc. Things always go well and I enjoy talking with her and I'm sure she does too.

Today when I saw her in the halls she greeted me in a very shy manner which isn't like her at all. It's usually in a very cheerful way and she always hugs me. I see her again later on the day and she's walking toward me so I start walking directly at her, she smiles and kind of avoids me when I'm infront of her and she gives out a very light chuckle. It struck me as completely odd. One day she's completely cheery around giddy with me and the next she's acting completely different.

Part of me just wants to ask her why's she's acting different, but I'm pretty sure it's not something I should do.

Any idea why this happens?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Probably just another sh!t test. Continue greeting her as usual, show her that it hasn't affected you :yes:
 
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I'm in the Mood

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If she keeps doing it tell her: "I've noticed you haven't been as cheerful as usual. Is everything ok?"
 
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Allurre

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lol, next time you see her, stop at her her tracks.

Ask her how she is. Indeed, it could just be a test to see how much you care for her.

Perhaps she wants to take things further, or see if you have any real emotions developed for her.
 
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dannowillbookem

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maybe her nana died. maybe her sleep apnea is acting up and she just doesn't have the energy. maybe she missed breakfast and it's throwing her off. maybe her best friend's boyfriend said something mean to her best friend who told her about it two minutes before you saw her and she was trying to figure out why her best friends boyfriend would be just such a gosh darned jerk.

maybe you should be thinking about other things. seriously.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jayhood

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its call flirting. She is doing the push and pull technique on you. Don't act like you are being affected by it. Don't ask her if there is anything wrong. Trust me, if her behavior does not make sense, it means she is playing games with you. So play back with her.

Here is something you should do. The day she tries to act giggly and open to you, avoid her. And the day she is acting cold, tease her for acting so shy.
 
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An ugly spitting image of a **** test. Don't let it phase you and you win.
 
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