"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Acting standof ish and distant to gain back attraction..help

rsebast20

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I sort of blew most of this attraction this girl I was seeing had for me. I was the one in control and she was the one texting all the time until I got clingy and needy and ruined it. Now I'm trying to gain attraction back by not answering right away and not thinking about "oh did she text ? oh is she thinking of me ?" and **** like that. My mentality is different and it seems to somehow work, but I have two main doubts.

1) What if she is trying to do the same thing, being distant and playing hard to get. wouldn't it turn into a staring contest? who ever blinks first loses kind of thing ?

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2) I don't want to come of as rude of course , so I've been giving short answers to her questions but I feel if I do it wrong she will just think I definitely don't care at all. She asks "hey so what's up " and i say "not much , drinking with homies". But she seems to try to do the same saying "Fun!" or "Cool" and the conversation ends in "lol okay" or "yea lol". any advice on how to get her talking a bit more ? or what is it that I'm doing wrong.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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sylvester the cat

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you care too much. it's already over. you're best off forgetting about this one.

it's not that you have to stop contact, it's that you have to stop caring.
 

JoeMarron

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Who cares if she's doing the same thing, texting between dates isn't necessary anyways. You don't judge interest by some silly texting bullsh!t. As long as you're still giving her the D as much as you use to and she's still enthusiastic about it then that's all that matters.
 
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