It took me ages to get over my last relationship, which I was in for like 5 years. I eventually started dating again and found this one girl that really stood above the rest....and we hit it off amazing. The basic signs were there: eye contact, chemistry, and plus we were intoduced through a coworker.
As we started talking, she was always complaining about having nothing to do. It was almost too easy to ask her out. Finaly got the nerve and we made it happen...easily the best date I've even been on. I sorta decided to take it slow because I knew the girl to be shy and I suspected she had trust issues, and frankly I was rusty after the ex.
We never really got to hugging even until we randomly bumped into each other in a club a few weeks after our second date. Again, I never really made much of a move on the second one either...just took her out for dinner and showed her a good time. I figured for sure I would make the move on the next one.
Turns out exams came along and through a monkeywrench on my whole game. She got legitmiately busy and I was starting to feel like the guy who was asking too much. So my instincts kicked in and I backed off, tried to forget about her, play it cool, and look elsewhere.
Bear in mind the whole time I have never told her much about how I felt.
Over the next 6 months we would run into each other in the oddest places and she would hear about me and what I was up to through friends we didn't even know we had in common. Bottom line is, she would talk about me a lot...one dude even referred to her as one of my "ex's", which leads me to believe that she gave that impression-- girls are not likely to mislead about who was an ex, right? If anything...I thought she woulda made me look more like a buddy....
Anyhow, after all that time, we ended up having a natural convo and I asked her to hang again...she ended up FORGETTING about that date. She had asked a friend to hang out instead. She apologized and asked to make it up the week after...I got this vibe that she wasn't really game so I kinda....never showed up. I guess my goal here was to get my power back...worst case, I would just move on.
We never talked about that missed "date" again.....and everytime I would run into her, she would start showing me more and more attention. But I've been playing it cool and indifferent the whole time...
We're at the point now where we've sort of hinted at hanging out....but the spectre of her getting busy with school/work still looms above.
But every girl has stuff to do...I feel I'm just being paranoid and am just afraid of rejection.
And I KNOW I'm playing games here and I want to get this done with.
My question is at this stage, when the intial spark is long past but the situation is still interesting enough to pursue: do my playing-it-cool actions hurt or help me? The key is I never became a buddy.
Yeah there are other chicks in the picture but this one is at the top of my list.
As we started talking, she was always complaining about having nothing to do. It was almost too easy to ask her out. Finaly got the nerve and we made it happen...easily the best date I've even been on. I sorta decided to take it slow because I knew the girl to be shy and I suspected she had trust issues, and frankly I was rusty after the ex.
We never really got to hugging even until we randomly bumped into each other in a club a few weeks after our second date. Again, I never really made much of a move on the second one either...just took her out for dinner and showed her a good time. I figured for sure I would make the move on the next one.
Turns out exams came along and through a monkeywrench on my whole game. She got legitmiately busy and I was starting to feel like the guy who was asking too much. So my instincts kicked in and I backed off, tried to forget about her, play it cool, and look elsewhere.
Bear in mind the whole time I have never told her much about how I felt.
Over the next 6 months we would run into each other in the oddest places and she would hear about me and what I was up to through friends we didn't even know we had in common. Bottom line is, she would talk about me a lot...one dude even referred to her as one of my "ex's", which leads me to believe that she gave that impression-- girls are not likely to mislead about who was an ex, right? If anything...I thought she woulda made me look more like a buddy....
Anyhow, after all that time, we ended up having a natural convo and I asked her to hang again...she ended up FORGETTING about that date. She had asked a friend to hang out instead. She apologized and asked to make it up the week after...I got this vibe that she wasn't really game so I kinda....never showed up. I guess my goal here was to get my power back...worst case, I would just move on.
We never talked about that missed "date" again.....and everytime I would run into her, she would start showing me more and more attention. But I've been playing it cool and indifferent the whole time...
We're at the point now where we've sort of hinted at hanging out....but the spectre of her getting busy with school/work still looms above.
But every girl has stuff to do...I feel I'm just being paranoid and am just afraid of rejection.
And I KNOW I'm playing games here and I want to get this done with.
My question is at this stage, when the intial spark is long past but the situation is still interesting enough to pursue: do my playing-it-cool actions hurt or help me? The key is I never became a buddy.
Yeah there are other chicks in the picture but this one is at the top of my list.