acting differently w/ different types of girls...?

[golf299]

i recently went out with a girl who i would consider a good-girl. shes really nice, well rounded and respectful and she has high morals. as such, i was a complete gentleman around her (opening doors for her etc...)

now, tomorrow i have a date with a girl who is kind of the complete opposite. she likes to party a lot, she's kind of crude, she likes to curse, she's younger and a bit more immature than the previous girl.

so, would it be appropriate to change my actions on the date to be more like her in order to have a more "successful" time? like not opening doors for her and things like that....?

thanks for the help guys!

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

I normally dont change for a girl. If they dont like me for who I am then ... BUH BYE.

 

[JSH]

If you switch tactics around different girls, then change your actions. However, if you are set in your ways, changing your actions will show (unless you are a very good actor) and it would look too hard like you were trying to please this girl.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Treat women, accordingly, with the respect that they deserve - don't handle or talk to a unvirtuos woman as a virtuous woman and likewise dont't treat a good girl with morals like a ho that has little regard for moral standards. Be the same person as you are but have discernment (i.e. have good insight and judgment).

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Paid, Laid & Made
I normally dont change for a girl. If they dont like me for who I am then ... BUH BYE.

Would you say that again, just a little louder!

 

[madgame]

No dont change your ways - "Just be yourself"

 

[Snoopy]

Yeah, but

As the rican lover was trying to say, you can still use your judgement on how to treat different types of girls. Being yourself doesn't mean being exactly the same to everyone. You don't treat your mom the same way you treat your girlfriend, so why should you treat all girls the same way? Different girls invoke different types of feelings in myself so i treat them accordingly. I think that's the best way to go. I you find yourself doing things you are uncomfortable with that doesn't mean you aren't being true to yourself, you are just pushing your comfort zone. So do what you want to do, and she'll do what you want her to do .

 

[coldcoal]

I agree with PuertoRican_Lover. Treat a woman with the respect she deserves.

Men do what works in order to score a woman. It is the very reason this site exists. It is also agreed mostly amoungst men here that a man should not do more than is required; that overkill is an "AFCish" mistake.

Unfortunately, many men here think when to hold a door open or not is equivelant to cutting your hair or changing your wardrobe to the likes of a whimisical woman. It is not the same kind of change. Your question is about adaption, not change. It is a healthy and good question.

My answer is no, do not be over-accomodating with gentleman proceedures. But, when I say this, I do not mean never be a gentleman. In this case, I would suggest that if you are the first to the door, hold it, but don't run ahead of her to be the first to get to the door.

 

[Chewy Bagel]

Chameleons make miiilleeons.

The better you are at adapting to people and your surroundings the more money or poon you'll get.

 

[Crusader]

Every girl is different, unfortunatly they don't come with a manual!