"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Acted like an idiot with my girl..

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In person, things are great, but when we're texting, things sometimes seem f*cked up..

We did end up getting together last night.. Once I got there, everything was cool. We had a fun night.

She DID bring up what happened last week. She asked me how things were with my dad, and also told me that me just ignoring her and her friends without letting them know anything about what was going on upset her. She also told me that at some point her girlfriend said to her "well, I guess Jhcl4000 doesn't like you anymore!"


PrettyBoyAJ said:
Her: gives command
OP: yes master

And you wonder why she puts other friends before you
Her: Can you call and ask them what time they close?

Her: I think they must be closed.

Me: Yeah, they're closed.. We can always pick one up next week, though.


What SHOULD I have responded?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jhcl4000 said:
In person, things are great, but when we're texting, things sometimes seem f*cked up..

We did end up getting together last night.. Once I got there, everything was cool. We had a fun night.

She DID bring up what happened last week. She asked me how things were with my dad, and also told me that me just ignoring her and her friends without letting them know anything about what was going on upset her. She also told me that at some point her girlfriend said to her "well, I guess Jhcl4000 doesn't like you anymore!"

trust your gut.
 

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st_99 said:
trust your gut.
My gut feeling about the texting yesterday: bad - she might be losing interest.

My gut feeling when we were hanging out last night: great - everything's fine.
 

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Jhcl4000 said:
My gut feeling about the texting yesterday: bad - she might be losing interest.

My gut feeling when we were hanging out last night: great - everything's fine.
so your gut is telling you inconsistency, that IS the message. She isn't sold on you and her interest is 50/50.

having said that you should not care either way, thats your job. not to care.
 

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BillieAnn said:
I am girl. Sorry if I disturbing man's chat :) I just whant to say .. you are sure that just your acting was a problem, or just reason for her left without you? You got my point?
Oh, please. Stop with that small talk.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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JHCL, it's too late.

Why the hell would a girl even ask you to do something like that? Thats very fishy. She acts like she is a princess or something. Because you treated her like one from the get go..

You

Her: Can you call and ask them what time they close?

Her: I think they must be closed.

Me: Yeah, they're closed.. We can always pick one up next week, though.

AJ in this Scenario

Her: What time is Gamestop open till? Extended hours this weekend perhaps?

Me: IDK, Get on the Computer and figure it out.

Her: I'm still waiting to hear if my swimming date with *friend* is still on or not. I'm mildly drunk.

Her: Can you call and ask them what time they close?

Her: I think they must be closed.

Me: What the hell I look like..... a goddamn operator?...

Her: Boo.

No textback..... If she wanna see you she is going to call you and or ask to come through.

and here is my million dollar question to you.

How many times have you slept with this girl? Once or more?
 
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PrettyBoyAJ said:
JHCL, it's too late.

Why the hell would a girl even ask you to do something like that? Thats very fishy. She acts like she is a princess or something. Because you treated her like one from the get go..

You

Her: Can you call and ask them what time they close?

Her: I think they must be closed.

Me: Yeah, they're closed.. We can always pick one up next week, though.

AJ in this Scenario

Her: What time is Gamestop open till? Extended hours this weekend perhaps?

Me: IDK, Get on the Computer and figure it out.

Her: I'm still waiting to hear if my swimming date with *friend* is still on or not. I'm mildly drunk.

Her: Can you call and ask them what time they close?

Her: I think they must be closed.

Me: What the hell I look like..... a goddamn operator?...

Her: Boo.

No textback..... If she wanna see you she is going to call you and or ask to come through.

and here is my million dollar question to you.

How many times have you slept with this girl? Once or more?
Haven't they been seeing each other for six months or something?
 

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Korrupt said:
Haven't they been seeing each other for six months or something?
Yeah, around 5-6 months.

PrettyBoyAJ said:
JHCL, it's too late.

Why the hell would a girl even ask you to do something like that? Thats very fishy. She acts like she is a princess or something. Because you treated her like one from the get go..

You

Her: Can you call and ask them what time they close?

Her: I think they must be closed.

Me: Yeah, they're closed.. We can always pick one up next week, though.

AJ in this Scenario

Her: What time is Gamestop open till? Extended hours this weekend perhaps?

Me: IDK, Get on the Computer and figure it out.

Her: I'm still waiting to hear if my swimming date with *friend* is still on or not. I'm mildly drunk.

Her: Can you call and ask them what time they close?

Her: I think they must be closed.

Me: What the hell I look like..... a goddamn operator?...

Her: Boo.

No textback..... If she wanna see you she is going to call you and or ask to come through.

and here is my million dollar question to you.

How many times have you slept with this girl? Once or more?
I've lost count..
 

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cordoncordon said:
First, stop catering to her every whim and desire, stop with the cute little baby talk texts, and STOP CONTACTING her period. IF she contacts you, don't be in any hurry to answer.

This girl's IL in you is very low right now, but she knows she can basically say to you "eat that pile of dog sh!t" and you will. IF you want to have any shot with this girl, back off completely. A gf should make you happy, should be there for you, should WANT to do things with you. She sounds like spending time with you is pulling teeth at the moment.
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