"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Acted like a needy ***** (need help)

Imlearning

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Hey guys, new here and want to learn and if possible to turn things around with this cheek so be gentle with me.

Been dating a cheek for 8 months all was perfect suddenly no sex **** you im distandt attitude.

She was chasing pretty much all the way. My mistake was always available no mystery and too much corey wayne nice guy book reading attitude.

We went out she told me i dont feel the spark chemistry i was shocked ofcourse cause in my mind i thought all was perfect.

Then she told me some bs i want to go home we can sleep i told her nah aint sleeping again either im ****ing you kinda atitude or go wonder she sudenly changed attitude and guess what? we had the best sex ever.

Then a week later her chasing me we got together 3 days in a row no excitment what so ever and no sex so i said **** it call me when u want what the hell you want. I was tired of that bs.

Then the weak needy ***** got into me, called her after 3 days and got a date in advance 5 days.

In the meantime i was not chasing then suddenly a text comes with some mixed signlas crap text its my fault i dont feel it i just wanted to let you know.

I ignored it and responded the next day told her to figure out what she wants and call me. And then the mega big beta thing happened cause i could not handle it anymore yeah i acted like a weak *****.

I called her later that night to ask her out and that i wanted to see her she was the most unenthusiastic cheek iv ever seen in my life dissenterested and bored.

I called said "hey wats up"
Her "hey"
Me "can you talk"
Her "yeah im with some of my girlfriends"
Me" i want to see you when you are free
Her "well i dont know im coming back monday.."
Me " well i just want to see you no serious stuff just to meet and have fun"
Her" yeah well i dont know... its me the problem not you"

Moving on i got the date on monday @ 10.

Point is being needy never works i realize it the hard way. ****ed family made me needy as ****.

Good thing im trying to learn most guys die like this.

Anyway to the point i have a date @ 10 monday with an unenthusiastic cheek so whats the call here?

Thanks.. and yeah punch me i deserve it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wifehunter

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You turned her 'off', learn to turn chicks 'on'.

Forget about this one.

Chicks will often reflect your life back at you, with their attitude. So if she's "dissenterested and bored" It’s likely an indicator of the direction you're headed.
 

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Cancel date, admit to yourself that this was over the first time she tried to dump you
This. Don't go on that fvcking date man. It's done. You're basically begging to see her and she's caving in while also looking for (or maybe already has) other c0ck.
 

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Hey guys, new here and want to learn and if possible to turn things around with this cheek so be gentle with me.

Been dating a cheek for 8 months all was perfect suddenly no sex **** you im distandt attitude.

She was chasing pretty much all the way. My mistake was always available no mystery and too much corey wayne nice guy book reading attitude.

We went out she told me i dont feel the spark chemistry i was shocked ofcourse cause in my mind i thought all was perfect.

Then she told me some bs i want to go home we can sleep i told her nah aint sleeping again either im ****ing you kinda atitude or go wonder she sudenly changed attitude and guess what? we had the best sex ever.

Then a week later her chasing me we got together 3 days in a row no excitment what so ever and no sex so i said **** it call me when u want what the hell you want. I was tired of that bs.

Then the weak needy ***** got into me, called her after 3 days and got a date in advance 5 days.

In the meantime i was not chasing then suddenly a text comes with some mixed signlas crap text its my fault i dont feel it i just wanted to let you know.

I ignored it and responded the next day told her to figure out what she wants and call me. And then the mega big beta thing happened cause i could not handle it anymore yeah i acted like a weak *****.

I called her later that night to ask her out and that i wanted to see her she was the most unenthusiastic cheek iv ever seen in my life dissenterested and bored.

I called said "hey wats up"
Her "hey"
Me "can you talk"
Her "yeah im with some of my girlfriends"
Me" i want to see you when you are free
Her "well i dont know im coming back monday.."
Me " well i just want to see you no serious stuff just to meet and have fun"
Her" yeah well i dont know... its me the problem not you"

Moving on i got the date on monday @ 10.

Point is being needy never works i realize it the hard way. ****ed family made me needy as ****.

Good thing im trying to learn most guys die like this.

Anyway to the point i have a date @ 10 monday with an unenthusiastic cheek so whats the call here?

Thanks.. and yeah punch me i deserve it.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/need-urgent-advice-for-a-chick.249796/

You aren’t new Alex.

Why did you make a new account and give the same story. I knew I was having deja vu.

Follow the advice in your first thread and OWN the name Alex lol.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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And this dude was blowing my inbox up looking for advice.

The beta life is very sad.

Go chase her some more Alex lol
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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