"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Act like you have a girlfriend

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Act as though you have a girlfriend. Yes, even if you don't. you now have one. You have yourself and that is your girlfriend. A funny thing is that once you act like you have a girlfriend you lose desire for other women. You will be able to talk to women normally and they will become attracted to you.

Once they are attracted to you, then you are in the drivers seat to get an actual girlfriend.

Personally this week I got approached by women six or seven times this week. women become attracted to things that they can't have. Works for me all the time (I actually have a girlfriend though but if I wanted to get a number I could very easily get one because they are doing all the work. The number would be what they are hoping that you ask for).

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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Act like you have a girlfriend? You mean pretend? How exactly do you imprint this into a girl's mind without confirming to her that you have one (i.e., lie)?
 

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Originally posted by AmIAFC
Act like you have a girlfriend? You mean pretend? How exactly do you imprint this into a girl's mind without confirming to her that you have one (i.e., lie)?
It's psychological. You don't have to actually "imprint" this into her mind, psychology does.
 

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It's psychological. You don't have to actually "imprint" this into her mind, psychology does.
So, basically, act busy? How do you distinguish "acting like you have a girlfriend" from "acting busy"?

I can't pretend to be something I'm not, or have something that I don't.
 

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Originally posted by AmIAFC
So, basically, act busy? How do you distinguish "acting like you have a girlfriend" from "acting busy"?

I can't pretend to be something I'm not, or have something that I don't.
Man I would take this advice with a grain of salt. It's not that crucial.

Acting like you have a girlfriend = In your mind, when you come home, you have a girl who you can f*ck. Which might help reducing you needyness, which makes you more attractive.

Acting busy = Your other things/arrands are more important than her.

This is just a minor thing that improves your outer game.
But sure, it _MIGHT_ help if you need a one night stand real bad.

And yes you CAN pretend that you are something you're not. You CAN control your self-image.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'll back up this advice 100% because every time I do have a girlfriend, I always find I have women all over me.

I've been seeing someone for around a month now on a casual basis, but since then women have been flocking round me. I've been asked on dates, had girls texting and calling me persistently, had 3 straightforward sex propositions and so many women flirting with me.

The thing is I haven't actually told people directly I'm seeing someone. They just know there's a woman in my life.

My mindset is different too and my friends have pointed out that I'm overflowing with confidence right now...which may also account for the increased attention.
 

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So, basically, act busy? How do you distinguish "acting like you have a girlfriend" from "acting busy"?

I can't pretend to be something I'm not, or have something that I don't.
When you have a girlfriend you are supposed to be desireless (at least in my mind) toward other women. This showed me what Pook had been saying. He said, don't have ulterior motives and women will come after you like nothing. You won't have desparation either.
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basically what I am saying is when you have a girlfriend you don't act needy or desparate. You are desireless and not looking at every girl that you see.

If I was single I would just pretend (act) like I do now because I would be getting so much more action. The only difference between not having a girlfriend and having a girlfriend is that you don't have to be tied down. Personally I like being tied down but I know there are people out there that want to get many many chicks. This could help them.

It works for me.

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Originally posted by MightyMate
Get a gf instead of acting like You have one.
I have one already but I am promoting more of a mindstate. It will help attract girls to you because they will have do the work.

This works and worked for me.

Besides many on here say fake it until you got it. This is the only time that i actually say "Fake it until you got it!"

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Kind of like implicity and explicity.

Explicitly you are not actually seeing anyone, but the implicit aura you give off - i.e. attitude - is that you do. Kind of a mind trick or frame of mind thing. Like a placebo effect to some extent.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by Rovalier
Kind of like implicity and explicity.

Explicitly you are not actually seeing anyone, but the implicit aura you give off - i.e. attitude - is that you do. Kind of a mind trick or frame of mind thing. Like a placebo effect to some extent.
exactly

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I think this sort of thing works only if you actually DO have a gf, a piece of ass, or some casual FB's. It a mindset. You have something already, and it's not critical and you don't have a needy desire to acquire one. I've sensed it in myself often enough. Somehow this projects to women. Don't know if it's through movement, conversation, facial expressions, or some kind of vibe. Maybe you don't secrete that AFC pheromone when this happens!;)
 

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It's possibly the fact that you're just more relaxed and calm when you have a g/f.

Facial expressions, relaxed shoulders, straight posture, and not slumped. Probably all of these physical signs of confidence that give off the cues that you're not needy and more of a laid back chill guy with nothing to prove to them.

It's something I aspire to anyway, even though I just became single again as of a month ago.
 

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one of the best advice you can find in sosuave...
i realized this by myself this morning and now i read it in the forums:)

the worst thing is that i actually have a girlfriend, but i like to hit on other girls... and probably that's why people get p1ssed at me sometimes
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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