I go to a small local college, and already I've noticed that acquiantences that I knew from high school are getting in the way of meeting new people. This morning before class started, there were some cute girls, but this girl I knew from high school spotted me and started talking to me etc. So of course we sit next to each other...whilst I'm thinking this sucks because I would rather meet some new people instead of hanging out with people who I KNOW i am not friends with/never will be. I mean we may have hung out on occasion in the past, but it was always in a group environment and we were never really true friends ever. Then as we sit down...ANOTHER guy I went to high school with enters so he sits next to this other girl. So already two people which I 'know' I will be next to so that greatly reduces my opportunity to talk to others. If it was an actual buddy of mine that was in my class, that would be totally cool but if it's just some acquaintence from a while ago I would rather not waste my time and would like to meet someone else. But of course I don't want to be mean and switch seats, plus the seating arrangements are almost set based on where you sit on the first day so it's almost like jacking someones spot. Anyone else feelin this?
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Acquaintences getting in the way
- Thread starter green69
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I guess its something you have to deal with if its a small local college.
However, take up some other sorts of stuff that really is different. I mean stuff that no one else you know would be involved with.
Other than that ...if there is a greek life ...join a frat
.h2o
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Hey, I've felt this, and it might suck temporarily, but maybe it can be good. First off, read what needshelpdj wrote me in my thread, which is on a similar topic: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?threadid=82995
Basically, if you know two people in your class already, you've created some value (or an air of mystery) for yourself. That's good, because the girls/guys you may want to talk to could like you right off the bat. Sort of like the same thing you replied to me with in my thread...
...and instead of getting to know them in class, try after class. Or, you may see these classmates on campus, chat them up then.
good luck to you (and me to
)-h2o
Ok well things are looking a little better now I guess. Maybe that day was just an unlucky bad day. My acquaintence that sat next to me in one of my classes had a friend with her (she missed the first class) and she was pretty cute so of course I had an opportunity to talk to her a bit after class. I also bumped into this girl I know from high school (who is SUPER hot) and she sat with me on the bus. Again, no complaints here from me yet. And I ran into some people who I knew as well in the hallways. Okay so maybe the situation isn't as bad as I thought...