accidental mistake.. how to rectify it?

[drift king]

i made an accidental mistake replying to a text to one HB when it was meant to be for another..

this one HB replied to me about 8-9hours after my first msg (she usually responds within like 20mins) i had to send a text to another HB i was suppose to see today but i accidently sent the other one my text.. its ok as it was literally 'thats ok, i went out with my friends last night. im busy today, but lets meet up tomorrow if you're free'

i sent that half an hour after she responded to me but it was in complete error (it was suppose to go to the other HB i was meeting today), i may look too keen now. what should one do if you've made a mistake like this and she doesn't respond?

 

[drift king]

i made fatal error of sending a text just now saying 'hey i made a mistake in my last text.. i meant to say to meet monday cos im busy today.. if you're free tomorrow lets meet up around 8pm, cool? i got a fun night planned so be prepared. haha'

i just realised after it may look as if i waited for a response till now and then decided to text her again.. might look a bit desperate especially how it was worded.

it would either have been better sending it straight after the last one (though potentially could make me look too full on, so a risky option) or sending it before the end of today (as to look as if i waited till the last possible moment for her to reply then when that passed tried to make arrangements for tomorrow)

i was just unsure and a little peeved that i was set back due to human error, really i should have left it for today and tomorrow to pass and then on tuesday reconvene and make arrangements?

i've only met her once so im walking a tightrope. as to not make further errors should i just leave it at least a week now?

(bear in mind i know she has another guy she's kind of seeing and im the new guy who's only met her once.. within a week those 2 could be a couple so i feel as if i need to get at least a 2nd date to establish myself)

 

[pete101]

I think you are over thinking it dude...

 

[TheEdgeOf]

yeah, seriously. Over thinking to the max. Just stop worrying about it. Breaking a few rules once in a while isn't a fatal mistake, just don't do it often.

 

[drift king]

well she hasn't got back to me, so how long should i wait to contact her again?

i obviously don't want to look too desperate and full on which i guess i've done and i realise now that after sending that accidental text i could have just left it till tuesday to contact rather than what i did which has left it all up in the air.

is it sometimes better to change the topic of convo via text if you feel as if you've been too keen.. i.e. the next text i send her should be more of a hey how you doing? type of message rather than straight into a let's meet up if you're free..

 

[drift king]

yep she still hasn't got back to me.. any suggestions as when it's ok to contact?

 

[DJCT]

Stop texting girls. It is a waste of time. Wait a day or two and then man up and call her to set up a get together.

 

[drift king]

Stop texting girls. It is a waste of time. Wait a day or two and then man up and call her to set up a get together.

you don't understand, she never picks up her phone and told me specifically not to call her. she's foreign and her english isn't great so is a little embarrassed by it so tells me to text her only..

i can try calling but she won't pick up and will have to text her again.

she text me back saying she couldn't meet tonight but no offer of another time, i text back saying when she was free this week. no reply.

in these circumstances how do you man up and make it clear you'll walk away so that she thinks she'll lose you?

i.e. what do you say?

 

[uhm]

you don't understand, she never picks up her phone and told me specifically not to call her. she's foreign and her english isn't great so is a little embarrassed by it so tells me to text her only..

i can try calling but she won't pick up and will have to text her again.

she text me back saying she couldn't meet tonight but no offer of another time, i text back saying when she was free this week. no reply.

in these circumstances how do you man up and make it clear you'll walk away so that she thinks she'll lose you?

i.e. what do you say?

Go get you something else man. Don't screw with this. You are setting yourself up for oneitis and getting in the LJBF zone texting constantly without making some physical contact. Just game your other HBs and let this one come to you (or go away) who cares? You're the catch, right? Not them.