Accept yourself!!! do you know what it means?

[pipe007]

I want you guys to think of this word
"accept yourself"

its not just a saying. really think of it, it is only when you trully accept yourself that you are on your way of building an identity for you.

"I accept myself with all my flaws and strengths"

accepting yourself is the first step on personal growth and self improvement.
if you have an inner game issue, if you lack self esteem, self confidence, if you are anxius, have a mood disorder, or any disorder for that matter that would make you unattractive to the opposite sex.

ACCEPT YOURSELF, forgive yourself for having been critical in the past, i would suggest to just close your eyes for a minute, and just say to yourself

"I accept myself" and say it with power, and FEEL it in all your body, feel what it feels like to accept yourself at whatever level you are at right now, and MEAN it!!.

this should be your mantra from now on "I accept myself, I appreciate who I am, I like myself"

this is a quick tip i wanted to share, but I think the message is big if you internalize it, most inner game issues come from lack of self acceptance.

people are running around looking for other's aproval for self acceptance.
the minute you learn to fully accept yourself, 100% unconditionally:

- your self esteem and self confidence increase.
- you relax and let go and enjoy situations more fully
- you are less self conscious since you know you are ok and you accept it. (even if you have flaws)
- the less you care what other's think of you.
- as you accept your flaws, you can begin to work on them as well.
- you can change faster.
- its the first step to building an identity for yourself, "This is who I am, I accept it, and nobody will ever change me."

the stronger the self identity you have, the more attractive you become in general.

so the tip of the day from me is

ACCEPT YOURSELF, your present and your past, accept how you feel most of the day, your social skills, your job, your car, everything you have accomplished so far, the girl you have or not, ACCEPT IT, forgive yourself.

you are ok!, if you accept it.

good luck!

 

[Big Overseas 1]

Good post! As long these fellas don't use what you just said as an excuse not to keep workin' to minimize their flaws & keep gettin' better. Cuz complacency is for losers.

 

[Alchemystic]

I hope they do not misinterpret your advice to mean to accept yourself as being a wimpy Nice Guy to women and be a slave to women.
I wonder if Nice Guys have a certain Domination-Submission complex?

 

[Alchemystic]

P.S. Overall it is a good post.
I just hope they do not misinterpret it and make it as an excuse.

 

[Bodhi]

This is a pretty damn good post. I believe everyone can grow from taking a minute and seriously give this some thought

 

[pipe007]

Ok i never intended to say that accepting yourself means comformity and getting lazy about improving one's self.

but it's the first step to creating true change!.

in order to solve a problem, you have to accept that you have one in the first place!.

if you truly accept yourself, you will be more likely to enjoy and put more effort in your actions towards self improvement.

 

[Lateralus]

I think many people already do this: building an identity. But where most of them fail is when they get stubborn and unwilling to further grow and learn. So don't you think you should find kind of a balance in this?

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

Accept yourself while holding the idea of "constructive discontent" as Rollo calls it.

This is something I am working on, it's hard for me to "accept myself" when my ambitions are so high. I think a man should be hard on himself until he gets where he really wants to be, which for me is self-made millionaire and captain of industry.

He who would achieve much must sacrifice much; he who will achieve little will sacrifice little.

I think we are more likely to accept ourselves, even in the (as-yet) absence of the positive results we seek, if we are making progress towards definite and worthwhile goals.

 

[pipe007]

true, but you are still future focused, waiting for the day you will ultimately "become" that ideal self.

ideals self don't exist, and we never "get" there, the self is not perfect, but we try to do the best that we can and to continue evolving in our paths, yes

going for what you want in your chosing field and doing it confidently while enjoying the process in the present moment comes from more personal power and self assurance which HAS to come from some type of self acceptance.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Here's a secret - there's no such thing as contentment. Being content implies that life is static, it's not, and to be honest, how boring would that be anyway? Life consists of varying states of discontent: why else would you bother doing anything? But the good news is that it's more fun and more beneficial to manage discontent than to endure contentment (which you can't anyway since it's transitory at best).

The trick is to understand that there are 2 kinds of discontent - creative and destructive discontent. What you choose to do with that discontent makes all the difference in the world. You will only get what you've gotten if you keep doing what you've done. Don't allow yourself to fall back into old destructive habits of dealing with discontent. Don't bother with anti-depressants and self-help books when a good hard workout at the gym would serve you better.

The truth is I'm always discontent, but constructively so. The minute you can look yourself in the mirror and be happy with what you see you're sunk. You can always improve, even after achieving things that were once very important and difficult to attain. Happiness is a state of being, it's in the 'doing' not the 'having done.' It's not about endlessly chasing your tail, it's about being better than you were the day before.