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“My mind is telling me no…. But my body is telling me yes”

Stop focusing on how unfair women are.

I was thinking back to how I used to be in regards to women

Thinking that they care about morality and values of honesty we as males value.

But we grossly misunderstand that they are emotional. Not logical

Values and morality is masculine. It is rooted in logic and masculine language that her dad taught her.

Always taught to not be an hoe, lock him down. He doesn’t respect you if it’s easy.

She wants to live in these masculine virtues… but her body and emotions says otherwise.

Think. We as men could care less if a ***** is bat crazy if she’s hot.

Rationality and logic is out the door in terms of our sexuality.

It’s the exact same thing with women.

Shes a raging hoe waiting to be unleashed to the man who makes her feel good.

Her moral compass is how she feels.

Accept it.

She’s not your property, you cannot control whether she cheats on you behind your back, etc.

Our frustration comes from our lack of control in this.

If she’s your only one in a relationship you already lost cause she dictates the rules of sex, etc.

And idk. If I commit to one girl and she cheats? Damn. I’m hurt.

If your like me and have had grown in a feminine only environment, it’s hard to accept a girl doing nasty things behind your back.

But the more I just don’t care and encourage it, ironically the more loyal they are.

a girl I was with for awhile to go see other guys and that I don’t care.

She told me she went on a date with this one guy and she became even more attentive lol.

Cause I thoroughly don’t care. I love pleasing her.

I don’t need to own her lmao.

You don’t truly love her. If you really love her you would be unattached.

Which brings me to my rule of not committing to one girl.

if your a monogamous typa guy like me, 3 girls minimum.

Don’t commit and attach yourself to 1 girl lol. She ends up controlling u.

“But Xavier, when u attach to 3 girls, don’t they control you?”

When that happens you switch the dynamic from trying to get sex or whatever to her trying to get your attention.

Any guy who gets tons of girls like celebrities have girls clawing for them why?

Because their attention is valuable and becomes “validation” to them.

Validation for women provides reassurance for their ego.

Female ego is fragile as hell. I will write another thread on this.

But main point is they understand there is a hot girl competing for you and on her best behaviour and that your very presence is something that girls value.

Again girls think in terms of group think.

if your tryna get sex from her it doesn’t work. Cause the dynamic switches where she becomes the “supplier”

Always be the supplier. Never be the buyer.

You have what she needs.

Stop complaining and hating on girls for being girls.

it and use that info to win.

Accept the worst case scenario and that anxiety and that resentment vanishes.

Being a natural isn’t always about being more.

Sometimes it’s done by ruthlessly cutting out all negative assumptions and resentment you have towards women.

Women are not loyal to you. They are loyal to their emotions.

When you accept it. The illusion of the “One catch” falls. And you realize the truth and wisdom behind kings having multiple wives and concubines throughout history.

Monogamy is invented by controlling hoes.

if a girl loves you she will share you and have threesomes. Best believe this.

“oh no she’s a good girl, she won’t do such a thing”

No. She is a girl.

When you truly internalize this it’s gonna be difficult and bitter. Then you’ll be free and truly not give a F.

You become free and not even caring.
You become the sexiest man alive to her because from that abundance of positive emotions you have… you just transfer it to her.

Her moral compass is how she feels.

understand this and never lose a ho
 
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Are you buzzin_frog back from the dead?
 

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Which brings me to my rule of not committing to one girl.

if your a monogamous typa guy like me, 3 girls minimum.

Don’t commit and attach yourself to 1 girl lol.
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In all seriousness, though, one girl I dated literally said, "I don't care about ethics. I just follow what I feel." She was a very free-spirited type.
 

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Hahaha yes bro I am monogamous I prefer 1 at a time ;)
 

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In all seriousness, though, one girl I dated literally said, "I don't care about ethics. I just follow what I feel." She was a very free-spirited type.
That is because she knows that guys will accept anything

If she knew that guys would not put up with her sh1t, she would have a baseline for ethics :)

The OP is right till a certain point, but exaggerates when he says that you have to put up with their sh1t. That is how we ended up in this sh1t in the first place, being to thirsty for sex and accepting sh1t

Also funny thing is that we like to think about men that they have ethics and stuff like that, but you realize that in the vast majority of cases all ethics disappear when it comes to money or women

Women deep down want to please a guy, that is why they do anal sex, blow jobs, and a lot of kinky stuff. If they did not want to please a guy, they would do only missionary, maximum doggy :)
 
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Right on the money.

Girls fall in love by chasing you and doing stuff...

More they invest, more in love they become.

So when you invest too much early, that equates to you loving them and falling in love which looks like you're needy as hell.
 

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exaggerates when he says that you have to put up with their sh1t. That is how we ended up in this sh1t in the first place, being to thirsty for sex and accepting sh1t
It's a vastly different frame.

Again. Not looking at action.

Looking at frame which is 2 layers above action.

It goes like this Frame > Behaviour > Action.

Frame dictates your behaviour.

So the action of putting up with her BS:

Care what she thinks about you > wanting to make sure she likes you > putting up with her BS

Now.

Don't care what she thinks > accepting that she is probably lying to you > completely unreactive to her BS and total nonchalance because you are not attached to her
 

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Don't care what she thinks > accepting that she is probably lying to you > completely unreactive to her BS and total nonchalance because you are not attached to her
And most importantly next her if she starts having bad attitude, especially for no reason . Initially you can tell her that yoj do not like it because X,Y,Z ( but it has to make sense) , and if she continues just next her for good or unless you see her really wanting to improve her behavior ( but accept this maximum 1-2 times)

Who ever dumps first does the emotional damage to the other one, and somehow she will respect you for dumping her when she behaved poorly

The irony

Sometimes jerking off is more respectable than putting up with a lot of sh1t, especially when it is for no reason ( like most situations )
 

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There is a reversal to this.
Action breeds inspiration and then feeds a solid emotional frame.
Think you have that backwards.

If you leave action last a whole lot of lazy has time to set it. With anything.
Then your frame takes a hit.

I would argue in the context of dealing with women. You can't build frame unless there are women around you.
It’s a feedback loop bro

cause feeds into effect and effect feeds into the thoughts.

It starts with your thoughts first.

you start a biz or anything it starts as a thought then belief and action

start taking action by changing your thoughts and beliefs.

I believe it’s healthy and refreshing to exercise > I workout everyday.

Going to the gym is too hard and tiring. It’s dumb weights. > skipping gym sessions and procrastination
 

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Girls fall in love by chasing you and doing stuff...

More they invest, more in love they become.
I watched fifty shades of grey recently on Netflix. Guys just think the whole point is that women want get dominated by some rich psycho. However, the whole plot of the movie was a girl attempting to tame this bad boy American psycho guy.
 
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