"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Abusive Neighbors

Razor Sharp

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For those who find it odd that someone with a prestigious background lives in such a regular place, I feel compelled to point out that this weekend the cops found a bunch of squatters in my neighborhood - roughly 20 kids living in a 2-family house. You'd think they would all be drug addict losers, but it turns out that most of them are "trustifarians" - rich little momma's boys who live in the lap of luxury, but think its cool to be "street". I see a lot of people with serious cash living under such circumstances that you'd never suspect their net worth!

As for my neighbors - I still have not heard anything from them in days now. Seems like they are on vacation and the silence is very much welcome, albeit maddening. I can't stop thinking about that poor kid, and all I can do is pray that she's alright.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Powerlifter

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I personally feel you are between a rock and a hard place no doubt and I won't dispute your claims here on the forum but my gut tells me regardless of what law protects this dipsh*t and what laws you break to save this little girl from abuse and evidence shows it is in effect abuse a court of law in the states would overturn it and public opinion would support your efforts and I would be the first on the list.

You also have a right to the quiet enjoyment of your place by the way regardless of who your neighbors are that is if you signed a lease or an agreement prior to moving in.

Keep us updated.

Powerlifter
 

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**UPDATE**

No way in the world I could have seen this coming. Still in shock and trying to process what has happened.

After weeks of silence from the neighbors. I heard some movement on Wednesday night. There were no arguments, no violence - just typical sounds you'd expect from normal neighbors.

"Are these new people?" I wondered

Yesterday I got a knock on the door. I open it and much to my surprise it's Mr. Wifebeater himself asking if he can come in. Dumbfounded I just gesture him in and he starts talking.

Dude: First of all I would like to give you my humble apologies for everything that has happened. I am an alcoholic and currently in a program to fix this and part of the process is asking forgiveness. I now realize how difficult I have made your life and for that I am terribly sorry. It will not happen again.

Me: ...

Dude: Secondly I'd like to give thanks for acting out the way you did. When you hear something from people you love its funny but you almost ignore it. But hearing it from a total stranger, in such a blunt manner was a real wake-up call. I don't know if I would have checked myself in unless you had intervened. Seriously, thank you

Me: ... you're welcome? (still unsure whether this was a joke or not)

We talked a little bit more, but he could tell I felt shocked and a bit awkward so he left me there swimming in my own thoughts. All that time they were away he joined AA or some other program to deal with his drinking (which I found ironic considering muslims can't drink.) I was hesitant to post this as I almost thought this was a trick. But so far there have not been any incidents, which is HUGE considering they fought every damn night. I even hear the daughter laughing for the first time, and a massive weight has been lifted off my chest (this has really been bugging me the last couple of weeks)

Morale of the story - never stay quiet or ignore this type of sh*t. Even if it's uncomfortable or difficult to face, it's your responsibility as a citizen and human being to show zero tolerance for violence and injustice. Not enough people stick their necks out and that's why this BS is so common.

BTW, I mentioned in passing this incident to a girl I been trying to get with. She's been showing a lot of initial resistance, but we finally hooked up the same night I told her this story. I reckon that being a man who is willing to protect the innocent is a total aphrodisiac for women.

This whole thing has me in the best of moods - I had to share. Thanks to everyone who has posted/PMed their support.
 

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Haha that is truly amazing, we can all learn ALOT from all this. Not only that we must always stand up to bullies and protect the weak, but also that no person is incapable of redemption

Also Razor, you should be really proud of yourself, as your actions potentially saved this child's life, and you've given her a chance to have a decent upbringing. If I ever meet you I'm buying you a drink :up:
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You're like that little girl's guardian angel.

You rock!
 

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Razor Sharp said:
**UPDATE**

No way in the world I could have seen this coming. Still in shock and trying to process what has happened.

After weeks of silence from the neighbors. I heard some movement on Wednesday night. There were no arguments, no violence - just typical sounds you'd expect from normal neighbors.

"Are these new people?" I wondered

Yesterday I got a knock on the door. I open it and much to my surprise it's Mr. Wifebeater himself asking if he can come in. Dumbfounded I just gesture him in and he starts talking.

Dude: First of all I would like to give you my humble apologies for everything that has happened. I am an alcoholic and currently in a program to fix this and part of the process is asking forgiveness. I now realize how difficult I have made your life and for that I am terribly sorry. It will not happen again.

Me: ...

Dude: Secondly I'd like to give thanks for acting out the way you did. When you hear something from people you love its funny but you almost ignore it. But hearing it from a total stranger, in such a blunt manner was a real wake-up call. I don't know if I would have checked myself in unless you had intervened. Seriously, thank you

Me: ... you're welcome? (still unsure whether this was a joke or not)

We talked a little bit more, but he could tell I felt shocked and a bit awkward so he left me there swimming in my own thoughts. All that time they were away he joined AA or some other program to deal with his drinking (which I found ironic considering muslims can't drink.) I was hesitant to post this as I almost thought this was a trick. But so far there have not been any incidents, which is HUGE considering they fought every damn night. I even hear the daughter laughing for the first time, and a massive weight has been lifted off my chest (this has really been bugging me the last couple of weeks)

Morale of the story - never stay quiet or ignore this type of sh*t. Even if it's uncomfortable or difficult to face, it's your responsibility as a citizen and human being to show zero tolerance for violence and injustice. Not enough people stick their necks out and that's why this BS is so common.

BTW, I mentioned in passing this incident to a girl I been trying to get with. She's been showing a lot of initial resistance, but we finally hooked up the same night I told her this story. I reckon that being a man who is willing to protect the innocent is a total aphrodisiac for women.

This whole thing has me in the best of moods - I had to share. Thanks to everyone who has posted/PMed their support.

Oh that's really good to hear, I was thinking about this the other day wondering what had happened since, thanks for updating. And well done again for what you did, it's pretty incredible the impact you've made on the family and the little girl's childhood.
 

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You're damned right a man doing the right thing is sexy as hell.

And I second the drink thing. One on iqqi if you are ever in my neck of the woods!
 
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