"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Abundance is poison ( in defense of women)

Pandora

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 11, 2008
Messages
3,729
Reaction score
3,565
Age
41
What is Poison?
He replied with a beautiful answer – Anything which is more than our necessity is Poison. It may be Power, Wealth, Hunger, Ego, Greed, Laziness, Love, Ambition, Hate or anything


There have been periods in my life where I have experienced sexual abundance. These periods are rare and fleeting. I suspect that I am about to experience another brief period of abundance. Abundance is like a drug. You can not pick one female when you have 3 other attractive females to pick from. You always have the fear of missing out. Most men who say they will show sexual temperance are liars. It is easy to say that you will pick only one Brazilian bikini model when you have none.

Lets extrapolate this to hypergamy. I suspect that the hypergamic drive is as intense as the male sexual drive. If this is the case, then how can we blame these women? I can not show sexual temperance in the face of abundance so how can I expect them to? It is too difficult. Lets not be solopsistic. This is why the Chads have such a difficult time settling down. They are essentially hot women.

The only way to solve this is to limit the access men and women have to each other. Some how we need to reverse the sexual liberation for WOMEN and MEN.

The most successful couples are the ugly couples. They know that they are the best that they can get. They know that they dont have abundance. So find you an ugly girl lol.
 
Last edited:

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Genetic Error

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 23, 2021
Messages
160
Reaction score
81
only way to be happy in this life is to be a rare commodity. aka top 1% in something that increases SMV. anything less and you wont be valued by women, you'll have to cope with 'game'.
 

SargeMaximus

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 14, 2020
Messages
3,847
Reaction score
1,943
Age
38
Funny because Charlie in two and a half men says hot girls are lonely because most guys are too intimidated to talk to them.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

DEEZEDBRAH

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 24, 2017
Messages
6,066
Reaction score
4,846
Age
36
Haha this just sounds funny but you might be on to something lol. Just be the Chad of butt ugly girls. I think that might get depressing though haha. You have a harem of 4/10's.
Homely /10. Lulz
 

Barrister

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 28, 2018
Messages
2,855
Reaction score
5,081
Age
40
I think it comes down more to the man himself and what he wants long-term -- if he does want something long-term. Many guys on SS are about plate-spinning, so I think what you say holds a lot of validity for them. But I, for one, have fun plate spinning for awhile, but I find it is a lot of work and time and prefer to have 1-2 women as opposed to 3+. My tendency is to end up whittling it down to the one I like the most, usually the hottest, but this is not always the case.

Ultimately, having an abundance mindset is what is important; not necessarily the abundance itself. Knowing there are always more women out there is important; not necessarily that you have access to them in the immediate here and now.
 

ThisIsSparta

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 3, 2020
Messages
980
Reaction score
1,713
Age
48
The most successful couples are the ugly couples. They know that they are the best that they can get. They know that they dont have abundance. So find you an ugly girl lol.
The most successful couples are a man that has a SMV 2+ points higher then his woman. The woman in this relationship knows her place, is compliant and doesnt ask questions when her man comes home late as long as he returns to her bed for the night and fux her good.

So depending on the SMV in your area, you might have to find an ugly girl or could get away with a 5 or 6, maybe even 7.

After 5 years of marriage, ill take the compliant 6 over the bitching 8 every time.
 

bmp2cpm

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 24, 2009
Messages
427
Reaction score
512
Location
PA
The most successful couples are the ugly couples. They know that they are the best that they can get. They know that they dont have abundance. So find you an ugly girl lol.
I agree that the most successful couples are the ones who get the best they can.

However, women do not care much about looks, they care about securing a man’s resources.

If the man is committing to sharing his resources, he should get the best looking woman he can get, ie who he is most attracted to.

Otherwise, what is the point of committing? The woman shares the physical with the man so the man shares his resources.

An ugly couple only exists when the man is low value resource-wise.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

ThisIsSparta

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 3, 2020
Messages
980
Reaction score
1,713
Age
48
What if a 6 isn't quite as compliant as that, and you have to choose between the compliant 4 over the bitching 8?
For compliance the woman has to think that you are the best that she can get and she has to know you are ready to walk away if she ever acts up.

If you are a 10 , the 8 should be compliant enough at any point, because there arent that many "high value men" out there in her reach.
 

Bokanovsky

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 7, 2012
Messages
5,519
Reaction score
5,697
The most successful couples are a man that has a SMV 2+ points higher then his woman. The woman in this relationship knows her place, is compliant and doesnt ask questions when her man comes home late as long as he returns to her bed for the night and fux her good.
Yes, but the man in this hypothetical relationship, unless she has low self-esteem, will never be happy and will always feel like he's missing out. It's like buying a 40" TV and then realizing that your room can easily fit a 65".
 
Top