"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
About to confront a cheating girl
- Thread starter Greasy Pig
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Haha! Close, but Borderlines are de-void of any emotional capacity period. The goal with plate theory in general is to keep emotions in check. By their very definition Borderline's are the ultimate plate theorist, but I'd say they should be in a special category since they are able to do so without absolutely no remorse.
And god damn these crazy byatches are EVERYWHERE! Thx god I have the eye for it now.
PIMP
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
As one guy said on Rollo's blog, if you react, her hamster jumps off the wheel, kicks back with a mojito and relaxes without a care in the world while you are still somehow invested or at least gave her the impression you're still invested.
You've played your cards and left nothing for her to think about really.
And was it Rollo's sig which states: "the best way to get back at an ex is to live on inside her head".
I know you can never expect a woman to react logically, but I know she knows what she did was wrong. I think that giving her a dose of truth was exactly what she needed to be honest.
I was also completely blindsided by it, and I didn't have time to calculate a response, it just happened and what can you do. It is done now.
Next.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
But I feel more empowered just ignoring her. I like to think it's doing her head in and that every time her phone beeps she'll think it's me replying to her last text of a half-hearted apology (sorry you got hurt, more than sorry I hurt you).
Even if she isn't, I know ignoring her would definitely have more of a long-term psychological effect than arguing and allowing her some closure and therefore allowing that hamster to kick back with a mojito.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This is a chick that was boning another guy then jumping into bed with you like nothing was going on. In fact I think it's pretty unlikely that she is wondering anything about you, or that my chick is wondering about me at all.
If anything you / I just made their lives easier. One less headache.
The way I look at it, she made her choice and showed me all I need to know through her actions. What she said / says doesn't matter.
Telling her that she is full of ****, a liar and a ***** is just giving her the truth. I don't care if she feels justified, I don't care if she can tell all her friends that I went crazy and that she did nothing wrong. It's all bull****, and she knows it.
I just wanted her to know that I know it too. And that I know that she knows.
Then I stopped responding to her. I haven't heard from her for 6 months now, I doubt that I ever will, and really, the only thing I would want to do is punish her one last time with my **** and then walk away but I guess that is unlikely.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
I'm due to see her at an industry training course on Wednesday so that should be interesting. I'm really looking forward to completely ignoring her.
Treating low-quality women like lepers is something I'm very comfortable with.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
This is genius. In the past two days after two weeks of NC she has sent me two texts and two emails.
The last text ended with: "Please reply. I miss you."
I want to say: "Well you should've thought of that before being a slvt" but I realise now that going full NC immediately moves all the aces to your deck.
She always tried to maintain an air of cool calmness but now I can see that the hamster in her head is truly running amok and driving her insane.
My best mate's record is not replying to 13 texts from one girl over a month.
Her last text was: "Please just reply so I know you're not dead".... But he still didn't. Kudos to that muthafvcka.
So the upshot of it all is that NC works, even on the most seemingly unaffected of women.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
typical
Master Don Juan
Yup always always go NC. If and when she fu(ks up she is dead to you no matter what she says or does afterwards, it is just not worth the trouble, just go on a huge self improvement session for a few months/years.Greasy Pig said:
Cause I can tell you first hand that the look on their faces when you bump into them months/years later is priceless especially when you decline to "meet up later to catch up" or taking her number.