About to confront a cheating girl

[SSBS]

What happened to my post?

Damn, no motivation to retype all that. Oh well.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

There's a term for this, Histrionic/Borderline Personality Disorder.

Haha! Close, but Borderlines are de-void of any emotional capacity period. The goal with plate theory in general is to keep emotions in check. By their very definition Borderline's are the ultimate plate theorist, but I'd say they should be in a special category since they are able to do so without absolutely no remorse.


And god damn these crazy byatches are EVERYWHERE! Thx god I have the eye for it now.







PIMP

 

[Greasy Pig]

Spot on, Danger.
As one guy said on Rollo's blog, if you react, her hamster jumps off the wheel, kicks back with a mojito and relaxes without a care in the world while you are still somehow invested or at least gave her the impression you're still invested.
You've played your cards and left nothing for her to think about really.

And was it Rollo's sig which states: "the best way to get back at an ex is to live on inside her head".

 

[SSBS]

I don't know. Unloading felt pretty good, and the end result is the same.

I know you can never expect a woman to react logically, but I know she knows what she did was wrong. I think that giving her a dose of truth was exactly what she needed to be honest.

I was also completely blindsided by it, and I didn't have time to calculate a response, it just happened and what can you do. It is done now.

Next.

 

[Greasy Pig]

I agree, it does feel good to unload and try to gain the upper hand with a good dose of truth.

But I feel more empowered just ignoring her. I like to think it's doing her head in and that every time her phone beeps she'll think it's me replying to her last text of a half-hearted apology (sorry you got hurt, more than sorry I hurt you).

Even if she isn't, I know ignoring her would definitely have more of a long-term psychological effect than arguing and allowing her some closure and therefore allowing that hamster to kick back with a mojito.

 

[SSBS]

It's a nice theory, but I think that you are deluding yourself. I don't think that going ghost will necessarily have the effect on her that you think it will.

This is a chick that was boning another guy then jumping into bed with you like nothing was going on. In fact I think it's pretty unlikely that she is wondering anything about you, or that my chick is wondering about me at all.

If anything you / I just made their lives easier. One less headache.

The way I look at it, she made her choice and showed me all I need to know through her actions. What she said / says doesn't matter.

Telling her that she is full of ****, a liar and a ***** is just giving her the truth. I don't care if she feels justified, I don't care if she can tell all her friends that I went crazy and that she did nothing wrong. It's all bull****, and she knows it.

I just wanted her to know that I know it too. And that I know that she knows.

Then I stopped responding to her. I haven't heard from her for 6 months now, I doubt that I ever will, and really, the only thing I would want to do is punish her one last time with my **** and then walk away but I guess that is unlikely.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Fair enough. To each their own.

I'm due to see her at an industry training course on Wednesday so that should be interesting. I'm really looking forward to completely ignoring her.
Treating low-quality women like lepers is something I'm very comfortable with.

 

[SSBS]

word.

 

[SSBS]

Well it's too late for me this time. Can't put the genie back in the bottle so to speak.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Update:
This is genius. In the past two days after two weeks of NC she has sent me two texts and two emails.
The last text ended with: "Please reply. I miss you."
I want to say: "Well you should've thought of that before being a slvt" but I realise now that going full NC immediately moves all the aces to your deck.

She always tried to maintain an air of cool calmness but now I can see that the hamster in her head is truly running amok and driving her insane.

My best mate's record is not replying to 13 texts from one girl over a month.
Her last text was: "Please just reply so I know you're not dead".... But he still didn't. Kudos to that muthafvcka.

So the upshot of it all is that NC works, even on the most seemingly unaffected of women.

 

[typical]

Update:
This is genius. In the past two days after two weeks of NC she has sent me two texts and two emails.
The last text ended with: "Please reply. I miss you."
I want to say: "Well you should've thought of that before being a slvt" but I realise now that going full NC immediately moves all the aces to your deck.

She always tried to maintain an air of cool calmness but now I can see that the hamster in her head is truly running amok and driving her insane.

My best mate's record is not replying to 13 texts from one girl over a month.
Her last text was: "Please just reply so I know you're not dead".... But he still didn't. Kudos to that muthafvcka.

So the upshot of it all is that NC works, even on the most seemingly unaffected of women.

Yup always always go NC. If and when she fu(ks up she is dead to you no matter what she says or does afterwards, it is just not worth the trouble, just go on a huge self improvement session for a few months/years.

Cause I can tell you first hand that the look on their faces when you bump into them months/years later is priceless especially when you decline to "meet up later to catch up" or taking her number.