"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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About one's <<Gut>> and instinct

Pozitron

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OK so I'm really not into techniques and all that stuff. I think is useful if you know them. Ex: You face a situation. Never done it before. Solution:
1) You must know what to expect, what to do( that's why I think some of the articles here are useful) . You shall have knowledge.
2) You must put that knowledge into practice aka Taking action. That way you have wisdom.
Knowledge + Wisdom = True DJ.
3) You must go with the flow. Focus on the now, Focus on the task in hand ( I find this useful im most situation--- eliminates worry and unnecessary thinking---).
This is the very short version of my philosophy ( for now).

----> What do you think of the above?

Relating to point " 3) ": I really think one should follow his instincts and his gut since most of the times in this way you take the right action.
Now... the actual reason of making this post: I am kind of confused of what instinct and " trust your gut" really means.
- sometimes you have that voice inside your head that suggests you things. Kind of like an wingman saying: " Now do kino" " hold hands" " go to her and introduce yourself" " Make eye contact". Should one listed to that voice? Is that the "gut", you instinct?
If not, what is it?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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NorwegianDJ

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Pozitron said:
If not, what is it?[/B]
I'd say your instinct and your gut is what you think/do before any filtering comes into play. Im not even sure if you think it. You just do.

The more time you spend in the field, the more gut feelings you get, or you just know when to do stuff. It's all calibration.

It's kinda a stripping proces. No, not that kind of stripping. Imagine peeling of the layers of an onion. We're peeling of the layers of conditioning, and find our true core.
 

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Ok so it does or doesn't have anything to do with that voice I mention I hear sometimes:
sometimes you have that voice inside your head that suggests you things. Kind of like an wingman saying: " Now do kino" " hold hands" " go to her and introduce yourself" " Make eye contact". Should one listed to that voice? ]
?
 

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I dunno, I feel a twitch in my fingers when I should touch a girl and a whipser in my head that says what I should say. Sometimes you ignore it, but it's usually right.
 
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