"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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About not complaining!!!

NoMoreAFC

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You guys say that a guy shouldn't complain about problems he is having in his life to his g/f. i mean i became unemployed and thought i could talk about it with my ex but instead she cut contact with me, i dont know if a similar experience happened to someone here but in my eyes, girls most times have problems and like to talk about them with us, they want us to listen and once in a while give a piece of advice and comfort them and know u are there for them. when a guy has problems they want us to stop talking about it, to suck up those problems, to stop complaining. i mean that's not very democratic and it should be a process of mutual comprehension but its not


so what do u do when u have your ****in' problems, you keep them for yourselves?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Blue Phoenix

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Originally posted by NoMoreAFC

so what do u do when u have your ****in' problems, you keep them for yourselves?
You must avoid bringing problems to your relationship(s). Try to solve them by yourself, or ask for help from your friends, family, etc. But not from your GF, she's your lover not your mother or therapist. Be careful with that.

You WILL low her attraction to you as soon as you start showing your weaknesses.
 

Caveman

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I understand where you are coming from, NoMoreAFC.. I lost a g/f in a simular situation some years ago. You are partly right though.. You can talk to your g/f about your problems but don't b!tch and complain about them. You can share difficulties you are going through but you need to have her think you are still in control of this situation. And prevent talking about it too often.

You need to be careful not to turn into a negative whining little b!tch because she will lose her respect for you.
 

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NOMOREAFC, Im gonna be honest with you, you are probably one of the biggest AFC'S I have ever heard of and seen in my life. Always on this piece of **** site likes it will help you, well guess what, its not, you have to help you. I will tell you this however, you have potential I belive every man does. here is my

philosophy; looks do matter, and as far as I can see you, you do need just a lil more hair, no offense, an example I had 2,3 HB10's checking me out at school today, I need not even say a word, my sense of style and just the way I carry myself does the talking for me.

your brain; this ones for anyone, if you feel bad about yourself, your gonna fail, dont expect ANY broad to just jump on your ****, it wont happen, while looks do matter and can even get you laid without much effort, attitude is just as big, as for me, I am EXTREMLEY ****Y, but I care about others at the sametime, I love my pals.
Oh Yeah, one huge thing again now is being a MAN OF ACTION, if you cant stand up for yourself, you WILL NOT SUCEED, people will take advantage of you, and they wont like you, I tend to speak loudly, and I say whats on my mind, Im not scared one bit, if someone starts talkin ****, Im gonna make them look like some kind of idiot/fool, another example, if a broad is checkin me out, Im not letting my eyes off until she does, no matter how hot, A MAN OF ACTION.
last thing. if you are depressed, specifically to NOMOREAFC, take care of it, because your self esteem is beyond low, Im helping you and most other below average ACF's because I FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR ASSES, NO other reason. NOW get your she-male asses off of this site and do something, I no longer want to care for any idiot on this site bc noone appreciates it.
 

NoMoreAFC

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lol i need more hair? lolol


ok man, i'm 29 i'm receding, i need to do a buzzcut or something so it wont notice more and u say i need more hair? i say **** it, im ok with what i have, if the *****es dont like it i couldnt care less. its all about me now, ME not THEM ok.

thanks for the advice though
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Big Eee Zee

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I disagree. It can be a good thing to do that. It all depends on image.

If you are a hard ass, strong and silent kinda tough guy who isn't fazed by shyt (or at least if your g/f thinks you are) then if you open up to her with your problems she will feel very special. Its like no-one else knows but she is special enough to hear it. It often makes them very happy, and can lead to very good sex. I'm not saying use your problems for your own advantage tho, thats just beyond wrong. But it is nice to have someone to help you cope with those problems.
 

frivolousz21

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philosophy; looks do matter, and as far as I can see you, you do need just a lil more hair, no offense, an example I had 2,3 HB10's checking me out at school today, I need not even say a word, my sense of style and just the way I carry myself does the talking for me.
im 22 and am going bald..I shave my head low and im fycking bad ass.


:cool:
 

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Telling people you problems reveals your weaknesses if a person knows your weaknesses they can easily control and destroy you if not intentionally they will do it subconsciously its human nature. Also if a girl knows your weaknesses it lessens her attraction levels. So its vital you don’t show your weaknesses. On the other hand look for your GFs weaknesses so you can control her.

The other thing when a girl tells you her problems she’s not looking for advice she’s looking for someone to listen to her. Don’t give her advice just understand or even disagree but don’t give her advice.

Ninja out
 
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