About marriage,family,etc...

[GuyInNeed09]

I mean, that's the goal right? To find someone,love them,they love you,and start a family, but there is alot to go into all of that. I mean, when you see people you're own age or younger doing all that,maturing,etc, and yet you feel so behind because of you're own situation,what are you to do?

 

[MisterMcGee]

theyre gonna get divorced cause they arent enlightened and will fall for a bunch of stuff i wont get started on. marriage is something that requires education and lots of other things. today, if youve got a mindset raised solely on the media and sensationalist ideals, a marriage can and will be destructive to your life. it's the case with tons of people

 

[KontrollerX]

"what are you to do?"

The same thing I did when I saw all the fvcking idiots I went to highschool with doing drugs or becoming alcoholics.

Which of course was not bending to peer pressure and living the clean healthy life that I wanted to lead that made the most sense to me.

I have never seen the appeal of getting fvcked up on drugs or drunk on alcohol.

I can understand why people do it as well get drunk but what I mean is even at my lowest moments in life I'd sooner eat a bullet than smoke a joint or down a case of Budweiser.

So anyway the point is you need to stop looking towards your peers and society as your guide as to what you want to get out of life and rather start looking for what you really want.

People can get fooled and think they want the married life or whatever else society promotes but in all actuality that may not be what they really want if they get married rather maybe they just want to finally be free of the stigma of not being married and fit in.

Fvck that.

Again.

Do what YOU really want to do, that would make YOU happy and holy sh!t if I capitalize anymore words I'm going to feel like I'm channelling that squirrelz poster here.

 

[GuyInNeed09]

As for alcohol, it's been a bit of a problem over the years,as in I have found myself doing it too much, and there has been some trouble at times. It was my choice, and wasn't pressured into it. However, it is now more an escape that at times has made me angrier.


As for what I really want, it has pretty much always been a successful career, which is something that has been sort of been put on hold, a good education,again, on backburner, and a happy,loving,commited marriage,or is that just unrealistic? Of course, when you lack above said things, or are just not all that active in the dating game/scene, what is one to do?


Alot of it is just waking up every day and feeling negative and miserable, like I don't know how to expel all that when everyone else is happy,succesful,etc. Alot of it stems from feelings towards sex,and how I feel I missed out,etc,inexperience,I mean,always hearing about how people lost it at like 12,13,even 16,17, and I am still in this like kid mode if you would. How do I expel this? go out and try and bang as many chicks as possible?