"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I've been doing an interesting little experiment, I've been rating the hottness of women I've been seeing out and about. This has lead me to reconsider our rating system. Let me see if I have this correct: We're using the standard 1-10 scale (1 being horrible, vomit inducing and 10 being model hot), pretty common in all BS ranking systems. So by that logic an HB5 would be exactly average? At least that is the mentality I'm using when thinking about this.

If this is the case, how many HB10's have you HONESTLY seen in the world? I'm trying very hard to think of some that I know but ZERO woman are in this category. In fact when I think about it I only know a handful of chicks that would be an HB8 on this scale.

Do I have it all wrong?!

Judging by the posters on this board (note: I take EVERYTHING I read on here with a grain of salt for sure) they seem to encounter them often. In the grocery store, at the bar etc. Also dudes are supposedly banging these HB9's on the regular? I've even heard guys talking about HB9-10's they've met on POF and OKC. I've been on both those sites and I've never seen a girl above a HB7 PERIOD. And those chicks had 4 kids, no job and no car.

So am I too critical when rating women or are my standards too low? Because I have no problem slamming a girl that I've rated a HB6! :D
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I don't use HB 1 - 10 or whatever it is.

I rank them thus

Yes (I would fvck her)
and
No (I wouldn't fvck her)
 

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Average for me is 6-7. An 8 is overall attractive with no visible flaws and a 10 is a ****ing goddess like some fairy tale ****. Anything below 6 is bad.
 

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HB numbers

1 - one look and you are scarred for life. Hideous.

2 - look at porn or turn gay

3 - look at porn and continue to enjoy the dry spell

4 - in case of ten year dry spell, break glass

5 - not too bad if you can get a boner

6 - average

7 - very cute

8 - hot

9 - super hot

10 - rare genetic perfection
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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apprenticedj said:
I've been doing an interesting little experiment, I've been rating the hottness of women I've been seeing out and about. This has lead me to reconsider our rating system. Let me see if I have this correct: We're using the standard 1-10 scale (1 being horrible, vomit inducing and 10 being model hot), pretty common in all BS ranking systems. So by that logic an HB5 would be exactly average? At least that is the mentality I'm using when thinking about this.

If this is the case, how many HB10's have you HONESTLY seen in the world? I'm trying very hard to think of some that I know but ZERO woman are in this category. In fact when I think about it I only know a handful of chicks that would be an HB8 on this scale.

Do I have it all wrong?!

Judging by the posters on this board (note: I take EVERYTHING I read on here with a grain of salt for sure) they seem to encounter them often. In the grocery store, at the bar etc. Also dudes are supposedly banging these HB9's on the regular? I've even heard guys talking about HB9-10's they've met on POF and OKC. I've been on both those sites and I've never seen a girl above a HB7 PERIOD. And those chicks had 4 kids, no job and no car.

So am I too critical when rating women or are my standards too low? Because I have no problem slamming a girl that I've rated a HB6! :D

Depends in my view. If she looks good in here pictures she may start higher. Meet in person and not as good but body is slamming. lowered two points. chick has issues, kids etc. lowered even more.

It's a sliding scale.

Depends where you live with online dating itself. There are some 9s but not many. Big cities or places in the US by the water.

In real life? Much better chicks out. Especially in big cities where everyone's trying to make it and compete for the top spot.

Even still if a chick has issues, baggage, kids, is a moron, known slvt butt etc. that immediately changes the view of them and ranking in my eyes.

Unless you simply base everything off looks and don't actually talk to all kinds of women then that's all you have to go off of. (Not necessarily you but dudes who just see looks and either ignore everything else or simply look and never ever have talked to that "9-10")
 

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Eternal_water said:
I don't use HB 1 - 10 or whatever it is.

I rank them thus

Yes (I would fvck her)
and
No (I wouldn't fvck her)
^^^THIS!!

REPPED +1

(although I use the system for educational purposes)
 

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I mean if we are going on just looks, then Mike32ct has it down.
 

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I use what I like to call the "Jones Scale". Star Jones is a 0. Catherine Zeta Jones is a 10...or used to be in the Zorro movies era. Everyone else is somewhere in between.
 

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It's subjective, hence it's stupid rating a girl.

Besides on different days, I find different things more attractive. Some days I want a taller girl, other days big boobs, another day a rounded behind. If your plates reflect your variety, you're doing it right.

Sometimes when guys post pictures of "super hot" girls on here, I cant help but think that some of those girls would be towards the end of my Christmas list because they'd have to be really naughty since they don't look nice :crackup:

Hence why the yes/no method works the best. Plus that gets the whole "omg shes a 9, I have to get my best game on" or if you get rejected by a 6, you wont get all vaginal about it.

Happy hunting
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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apprenticedj said:
I've been doing an interesting little experiment, I've been rating the hottness of women I've been seeing out and about. This has lead me to reconsider our rating system. Let me see if I have this correct: We're using the standard 1-10 scale (1 being horrible, vomit inducing and 10 being model hot), pretty common in all BS ranking systems. So by that logic an HB5 would be exactly average? At least that is the mentality I'm using when thinking about this.
I rate 5's and 6's as average. There's nothing extraordinary about these chicks. Average looks, average titties, and an average a$$. These chicks are so f*cking plain that you wouldn't even notice them in the street.

The exception being chubby chicks (i.e. THE DOMINICAN CHICK that I'm practicing on or the Thai chick on the left. http://i850.photobucket.com/albums/ab64/OmnipotensMaximusRex/TheThaiChicks_zps5f9c09f5.jpg. When like this (though smashable,) don't come in higher on the Hot Babe scale because they're overweight. If they drop some pounds, they might come in a point, maybe a point and half higher.

7's are your basic cute chicks. For example, Taylor Swift http://www.resimdeki.com/foto/Taylor-Swift-Resimleri-5.jpg

Jennifer Lawrence http://www.hdwallpapersdj.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/Jennifer-Lawrence-Hot-6.jpg

or Chloe Moretz https://static.squarespace.com/stat...o-join-denzel-washington-in-the-equalizer.jpg

I would say that 7's have a girlish innocence about them.

Then you have your 8's. Chicks that are nicely proportioned and look very womanly. Chicks like Beyonace http://blog.northjersey.com/thebeat/files/2013/08/fanpop.jpg

Selena Gomez http://www.theimproper.com/film/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/SelenaGomez-Bikini-SpringBreakers071.jpg (though Selena looks like she's 16)

I would say that Kate Upton and Scarlett Johansson are 9's

http://25.media.tumblr.com/ff23786d4a5d4b2225d51112bdff77ca/tumblr_mtyufgPtIY1ra1vdmo1_1280.jpg

http://www.sumcss.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/scarlett-johansson-height.jpg


apprenticedj said:
If this is the case, how many HB10's have you HONESTLY seen in the world? I'm trying very hard to think of some that I know but ZERO woman are in this category. In fact when I think about it I only know a handful of chicks that would be an HB8 on this scale.
I have. Once at the Metropolitan Avenue train station there was this Spanish chick about 5'4" 5'3", big titties, big ass, long black hair, light in complexion.

Another time was in the nudey bar I used to frequent, the one of the working girls was just straight BAD. She was built the same way as the fore mentioned Spanish chick and she was absolutely gorgeous. I would to the nudey simply to look at this chick.

Kim Kardashian (pre baby) Kim Kardashian is exactly how many fantasy b*tch is built. The only thing she's missing is green eyes.

This chick was a 10 at 15 http://blogs.bet.com/entertainment/spotlight/bet-blog/assets/2008/10/kim-k-15yr-old.jpg

http://i850.photobucket.com/albums/...e-2548-474c-a01b-0962e891a939_zps58e8b81f.jpg

http://img18.imagevenue.com/aAfkjfp01fo1i-31856/loc671/96348_tiara470_123_671lo.jpg

^^^ That's Tiara my godkids auntie. The first picture is of about 14 or 15 in high school and the other one is one of her modeling pictures. I always thought she was a 10.
 

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Making a scale implies there is universality to this concept, e.g. whats true for you is true for me.

But that clearly isnt the case. So...
 

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LandingWood said:
Average for me is 6-7. An 8 is overall attractive with no visible flaws and a 10 is a ****ing goddess like some fairy tale ****. Anything below 6 is bad.
Espi said:
I've yet to consider any woman a "10."
Both of these. A 10 to me is a woman who is literally physically perfect in every way. That doesn't exist.
 
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