"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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mr.uk

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1. Are girls who sit on your lap always interested?

2. If you get a hard on while a girl is sitting on your lap (a girl who you have not been getting with) and she feels it poking her will she be freaked out or will she quite like it? considering that it was her choice to sit on your lap in the first place...
this is probably better answered by the women of the site! thanks
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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BlakeW5

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I don't see how they can always be interested. Yes, it can be indication of interest, but perhaps she is just comfortable with you as a friend or feels unthreatened by you. In general though I take it as a good sign. Really just depends on the situation and context of whats going on.

In general I try to avoid popping wood. You never really know how the girl will take it.
 

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mr.uk said:
1. Are girls who sit on your lap always interested?

2. If you get a hard on while a girl is sitting on your lap (a girl who you have not been getting with) and she feels it poking her will she be freaked out or will she quite like it? considering that it was her choice to sit on your lap in the first place...
this is probably better answered by the women of the site! thanks
From my experience, a girl will sit on your lap because she is either very comfortable with you (read: she sees you as a friend) OR she likes you and is flirting with you (read: she is teasing you, sexually enticing you).

That said, most women I know don't go around sitting in a man's lap (friend or not). So you may want to consider the calibre of the said woman if she is sitting in your lap and you two just met or are acquaintances.

In terms of her feeling an erection... If she's bold enough and suggestive enough to sit in your lap, chances are she'll be excited/flattered by the erection. BUT always be prepared for a freak out (a strange look on her face), she may back off thinking you are too easy to excite.
 

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You're 18, so I am assuming the girls in question are about the same age.
Sitting on a lap is usually flirtatious, if you had been friendzoned that much, you'd know. So, if a girl you do not know since childhood, sits on your lap: she is flirting. A hard-on might not get you applause, anyway, because it's too much, too fast. Sitting on a lap is playful flirtation. Showing her you have an erection is foreplay.

Try to have some unsexy thoughts and go for the phone number.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Papermoon said:
You're 18, so I am assuming the girls in question are about the same age.
Sitting on a lap is usually flirtatious, if you had been friendzoned that much, you'd know. So, if a girl you do not know since childhood, sits on your lap: she is flirting. A hard-on might not get you applause, anyway, because it's too much, too fast. Sitting on a lap is playful flirtation. Showing her you have an erection is foreplay.

Try to have some unsexy thoughts and go for the phone number.
Yeah, she may not be used to it and may therefore get weirded out. So think about something else.
 

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If you get a hard-on - which isn't something you can fully control (if we could, we wouldn't get those Viagra spam mails) - the key thing to remember is to be nonchalant about it. Be playful & joke around if she is uncomfortable (I doubt it - the ones who sit on your lap are sh!t-testing you & they know what'd happen). You're a man, an attractive woman sits on your ****, you get a hard-on. That's perfectly normal. Do not be ashamed of your sexuality. Society tries to make men embarassed for being men. Don't let it affect you.
 

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I say if an attractive girl sits on your lap let it affect you, because it's natural! (Unless you hate her! XD)

And when it affects you, (It will :D ) don't let THAT affect you! (If you get it...)

But take it in moderation. ;)
 

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I agree with krazy:

You guys are pondering and analyzing this too much... remember how the wise men of this site told/keep telling you that you should embrace your natural self, not be afraid of your testosterone, let your sexuality flow............. does this ring the bell??

How come we forget this knowledge, at moments like these. If I'm in the club and im dancing with a girl and my **** is like half-hard, and she can feel it....... i NEVER act "ashamed" or "embarassed" about it. What, now you are gonna start apologizing for having a dyck??

Girls don't want u to apologize... they'll pretend to want to do this, in order to filter out the chumps, dweebs, etc
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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krazyboy99 said:
yeah if you don't pop a woody if her ass is on your c0ck she'll probably figure you're a fag!
I've had this happen where a girl said something, lol..

At a party some girl comes and sits on my lap and kinda slides over and then puts her hand on my d!ck and gives me a really funny look. I say what? She says how come you're not hard? I laugh and tell her I just got done fhking to give me a minute.
 

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I used to be afraid of the woody in high school, now the woody is afraid of me!
 

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damn armadon, kinda early for that isnt it? ur 32
 

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She should know what she's getting into if she is sitting on your lap. You will be doing her a disservice if you don't get a hard on.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If she's the girl your gaming and she sits there its IoI :D .

If your not gaming her she's sitting there for other reasons ( no other place to sit , to give you fake IoI's , make someone jealous , being friendly with you , kinoing you and other reasons like this )

Just as Purple Haze said . They are just comfortable with you .
But being comfortable around you can be great advantage sometimes :D .

About getting boner , i dont wanna get boner because i try to play cool , like its something normal that happens to me everyday. But if it gets , just put it in the right position (not in her ass lol) and continue talking and joking just like nothing happened :D.
 

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mr.uk said:
1. Are girls who sit on your lap always interested?

2. If you get a hard on while a girl is sitting on your lap (a girl who you have not been getting with) and she feels it poking her will she be freaked out or will she quite like it? considering that it was her choice to sit on your lap in the first place...
this is probably better answered by the women of the site! thanks
1- She probably sees you as her gay little brother. Think about it...unless that girl is already involved with you or unless she is kind of "loose"...the likelihood of she sitting on the lap of a boy she likes are slim (I mean, she probably feel shy).

2- You might freak her out. But who cares? She should have known better...after all, she is sitting on your lap. It is not as you stood behind her and rubbed your groin against her arse.
 

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Note: You can control your erection. You can control ANYTHING you want with your sexuallity. It just takes experience. If you have had sex for over 1000 times...and for many years...you can rest assure that you can control your erections and even the time you want to ejaculate during intercourse.
 

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^^ Interesting, Latinoman. I can control when I nut, but my boners are another story. I guess I'll find out through more experience.
 

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mr.uk said:
1. Are girls who sit on your lap always interested?

2. If you get a hard on while a girl is sitting on your lap (a girl who you have not been getting with) and she feels it poking her will she be freaked out or will she quite like it? considering that it was her choice to sit on your lap in the first place...
this is probably better answered by the women of the site! thanks
Any girl who sits on my lap will get fondled... Cause that is what she wants.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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