"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Aaaand breakup

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So, Tuesday we broke up. This girl I had been seeing for a little over a year. Things were awesome for most of it, but they had gone downhill lately. In short, I lost my challenge and eventually some respect. (and attraction!)

I'm not upset at her. In a lot of ways I feel like we were great together, but the situation was getting rough. I miss her and still care about her, but the more I read on this forum, the easier it is to accept that it's over and to move on.

It still sucks seeing her at school, we havent really talked at all for two days. It feels weird because we've always been great together. But I'm sticking strong with no contact.

She was my first everything, and it hurts. I can't stop thinking about all the great times we had. Is it normal that I went through times when I felt like we would always be together? I know she felt the same way.

Also, we are going with a group to a week long trip in march. How do I handle this?

No matter how much I tell myself it's over, in the back of my mind, I cant help feeling like it's not. I know that whatever happens between us, it's time for me to focus on myself.

I guess I'm just looking to vent. Heh, I sound like a girl. Thanks guys.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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sounds like you're handling it with the exact right mindset. every experience you have makes you more ready for the next one, and this relationship appears to have run its course.

all you can do is enjoy that time for what it was; a good time in your life that you hung out with a cool girl.

as far as your trip in march, you should be out doing whatever will make you feel better between now and then (other girls being included in this may or may not be the case, depending on when you feel like you're actually over your ex gf.) but i would just continue no contact, and be polite but not in a way that makes her think you want to be friends. (unless you're REALLY over her and DO want her as a friend) and if you take care of business and hit the gym, hang out with your friends, you should be back on the ball by then, and maybe not even caring about it so much. good luck. stay strong bro
 
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