Aaaaahhh. Another thread about this chick.

[Adam B]

OK, so I started this other thread about this girl and how I started shaking when I was kissing her and ****.(She let me off the hook for that one.)

Well, she invited me to this youth thing at her church on Sunday. The thing ran Monday through Thursday. So, I decided to just go on Today(Thursday), since I had other commitments the other days.

I knew that church was very important to her and that she would probably be very busy, so I decided to bring a friend. Figured that would make things less awkward. Thank God I brought him too, because my girl barely ****ing talked to me the entire time. She didn't introduce me to anyone, or make me feel welcome or anything. I understand that she does a lot at her church and is a little busy and everything, but it would have been nice if she could have at least acknowledged my existance. We seriously hardly talked at all the whole time. She would WALK RIGHT PAST ME. WTF?

I mean, I really did have fun there. I made some friends and hung out with the guys there, but seriously, she was being a *****. We were fine just a day ago and then she pulls this ****. Speaking of ****, I think it might jsut be a **** test.

So here are the options I have contemplated.
1. Ignore the whole thing and act like nothing happened.
2. Get mad at her and start an argument. Maybe threaten to break up with her.
3. Just ****ing break up with her.

I think I might just have to go by how she acts the next time I'm around her, before I decide, but I would like some input from you experts.

 

[KontrollerX]

If she eventually tries to bust your balls over the shaking thing tell her that you drank a whole bottle of jolt cola before you two locked the lips of love lmao.

 

[Adam B]

If she eventually tries to bust your balls over the shaking thing tell her that you drank a whole bottle of jolt cola before you two locked the lips of love lmao.

lol, I'm pretty sure her behavior tonight had little to nothing to do with that.

Seriously, which course of action would be most suitable?

 

[SinJester]

What you did wrong was allow her her to take you into her world. You brought a friend along and that helped but you will always be at a disadvantage in these sitations. She will know everyone there and you wont, she will have the social value and therefore the higher value. She will be leading and you will be hanging off her. This isn't very attractive.

Next time take her into YOUR world. Take her somewhere where YOU know people, around YOUR friends, to something YOU want to do. Go to a place where YOU hang out and do something that YOU think is fun. It may seem counterintuitive at first but this is the truth and what you have to do, at least initially with a girl. It's actually what she wants too, even if she doesn't know it conciously.

EDIT: WOO Didn't realize this was my 1000th post!

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

What you did wrong was allow her her to take you into her world. You brought a friend along and that helped but you will always be at a disadvantage in these sitations. She will know everyone there and you wont, she will have the social value and therefore the higher value. She will be leading and you will be hanging off her. This isn't very attractive.

Next time take her into YOUR world. Take her somewhere where YOU know people, around YOUR friends, to something YOU want to do. Go to a place where YOU hang out and do something that YOU think is fun. It may seem counterintuitive at first but this is the truth and what you have to do, at least initially with a girl. It's actually what she wants too, even if she doesn't know it conciously.

This is good advice. Happy 1k post btw.

I already commented on your shaky situation before , and I will again. Don't let on that you were bothered in the least by this. That will lead you down the wrong path. Just act like nothing happened; you were fine just hanging out with your friend and meeting new people. Last I heard you hadn't even kissed this girl, so how would you "break up with her"?

 

[Adam B]

What you did wrong was allow her her to take you into her world. You brought a friend along and that helped but you will always be at a disadvantage in these sitations. She will know everyone there and you wont, she will have the social value and therefore the higher value. She will be leading and you will be hanging off her. This isn't very attractive.

Next time take her into YOUR world. Take her somewhere where YOU know people, around YOUR friends, to something YOU want to do. Go to a place where YOU hang out and do something that YOU think is fun. It may seem counterintuitive at first but this is the truth and what you have to do, at least initially with a girl. It's actually what she wants too, even if she doesn't know it conciously.

EDIT: WOO Didn't realize this was my 1000th post!

Well, luckily I figured it would be bad early on and decided it would be best to just chill and play carpet ball with the guys instead of trying to hang off her. So i basically kinda did my own thing there, which I think was a good move. It just doesn't make sense for her to ask me somewhere and not want to hang out with me.

Next time I'll drag her along and make her hang out with my friends. This advice is golden.

 

[Adam B]

This is good advice. Happy 1k post btw.

I already commented on your shaky situation before , and I will again. Don't let on that you were bothered in the least by this. That will lead you down the wrong path. Just act like nothing happened; you were fine just hanging out with your friend and meeting new people. Last I heard you hadn't even kissed this girl, so how would you "break up with her"?

Yeah, I think I handled the situation well. And yeah, I guess you could say that by high school standards that we are "going out", thus making us boyfriend and girlfriend. And I have kissed her a few times since that happened.

I would rep both of you guys, but I have to spread.