"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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a womens true colors arise

frivolousz21

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so Ive been dating this women for a little over 3 weeks.

its going faster than Id expected...nice fun ride.


anyways...I have a female friend..well I dont know if I would call her a friend..she is nothing like my guys friends in terms of closeness.


she is engaged...and in deep denial....her marriage if it happens wont last the guy isn't in love with her...and she is nothing of her former hot self.

all of a sudden this "nice" friend of mine now that she knows I have gotten into a relationship...

tells me how its to fast, not real, she is probably lying to me...

and she now freaking brags about her relationship and pending marriage and sex life..I have never heard about her sex life..I do not give a FYCK about her sex life.



so after talking to one person for so long...this completely other side I never saw in FOUR years of talking comes out.

I must say it makes me want to cut ties.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ohhhhh you think your grass is green, nahhhhh uhhhhhh, my grass is greener.

most (immature) chics are like this.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Sounds like you're in the wake of her trying to convince herself that her marriage will work.
 

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it went from her talking about normal life..being a positive person..and yea she told me about her guy and admitted its not working.

as soon as I go passed dating and into something a little more substantial all of a sudden she changed fast.

it almost feels like she is jealous..but I dunno
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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frivolousz21

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MacAvoy said:
She wants her cake and to eat it to. Are you going to be
dumb enough to give it to her?

I think you mis - read.


I am currently dating a new girl...the one I am talking is just a friend..we haven't had any physical contact in years.


I was just commenting on how her attitude drastically changed when she noticed I was into someone new.
 

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I didn't misread. She wants her fiance and she wants you to be her surrogate, which means she doesn't want you to have a g/f, she wants you all to herself.
 

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frivolousz21 said:
I was just commenting on how her attitude drastically changed when she noticed I was into someone new.
If you have sexual tension with a woman, whether or not you have never had sex or not had sex in a long time, you're raining on her parade when she feels that tension being directed somewhere else.

In other words, she might not necessarily WANT you, but she doesn't want anyone else to have you either. Just part of the game when you keep women in your circles. Use it to your advantage.
 

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STR8UP said:
In other words, she might not necessarily WANT you, but she doesn't want anyone else to have you either. Just part of the game when you keep women in your circles. Use it to your advantage.
Yep, a lot of women like to collect AFCs and make sure they never get any action.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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it is funny how her "interpretation" of her relationship as completely changed.

im curious on why you want to cut ties with her though. If she cant come to terms with her reationship, so be it. why does this affect you in any fashion?

dont take this as a stab at you. i am truely curious
 

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This is why its rare for men and women to be true friends.

Most of the time, the guy just wants to bang the girl, or vice versa. Othertimes, its the girl that just enjoys the attention. There could be multilpe reasons for her stance though. 20 bucks says she is jealous that you have the attention of another woman, is feeling insecure about her own relationship and is just plain ****ed in the head.

Why let it bother you?
 
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Yeah, I have decided to not EVER be "friends" with a woman again. This fat b!tch was supposed to be my "friend". I had a hot date with someone she knew this Sunday.

The fat b!tch overheard me saying I wanted to get with the girl sexually. My date didn't show up, and when I called her she got p!ssy with me, and I knew what happened.

My "friend" c0ckblocked me for no reason, and told her my intentions. The fat b!tch even has a man (poor b@stard). She had no reason to do it. The fat one hadn't even talked to my date for a long time, and she must have contacted her for the sole purpose of blocking me.

Some friend. My new motto is if you can't f/ck it, eat it, or piss in it... get rid of it!
 

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MacAvoy said:
I didn't misread. She wants her fiance and she wants you to be her surrogate, which means she doesn't want you to have a g/f, she wants you all to herself.
THis is exactly what she wants . She wants TWO sources of emotional connection - she wants her B/f for what he brings to her table and also you for what you bring.
She is no true friend.. A true friend would welcome the news that you had a new relationship . YOu have to ask yourself why she is hostile towards you having a G/f ?
Easy answer - your new chicka will now get the attention which your "friend" previously got from you ,and she is pissed.

Sometimes you guys forget how bloody minded and selfish women are.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MacAvoy said:
I didn't misread. She wants her fiance and she wants you to be her surrogate, which means she doesn't want you to have a g/f, she wants you all to herself.
Too true and honestly, that's pretty immature and selfish of her. Typical of some women!
 
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