"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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A Woman Tells You Why You Should Buy Her A Drink!!!

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ketostix said:
Oh that's the only reason a girl gives up the booty, so the guy will like her. :rolleyes: And not because she's horny and it feels good to her and she just plain wants to do it.
Hmmm. I am pretty sure that is NOT what I said. I am pretty sure that I said:

the iq said:
Well... she shouldn't be giving up the booty JUST to get a guy to like her. (This is common.)
I will give you the remix:

the iq (remixed) said:
Well... she shouldn't be giving up the booty JUST (errbit erribit, scratch) JUST JUST to get a guy to like her. (This is common.)
And to further break it down:

ketostix said:
Oh that's the only reason a girl gives up the booty, so the guy will like her. :rolleyes:
Well, young K, there are probaly a million and one reasons why a girl gives up the booty, so obviously this isn't the ONLY one. I believe what I said was:

the iq (remixed) said:
Well... she shouldn't be giving up the booty JUST (errbit erribit, scratch) JUST JUST to get a guy to like her. (This is common.)
ketostix said:
And not because she's horny and it feels good to her and she just plain wants to do it.
This reason is one I did not mention, and in my opinion is fine and dandy.

I will not be surprised if you still can't comprehend the words that are coming out of my keyboard. Since you can't read very well, I will stop trying to communicate with you. I can't remix everything I say.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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LOL I know what you said. And I also can read between the lines of what you're saying. Anyway your analogy was faulty because it was apples and oranges and that's what I was pointing out.

My point is people do a given action for a lot of reasons usually, but they're usually trying to reach a goal. But specifically your point is if you do something for a girl such as buying her a drink and even if she accepts she shouldn't feel obligated to buy you a drink let alone sleep with you. That's true. But my point is she wouldn't feel obligated if she has an interest in the guy. So it's like Interceptor explained until you have rapport and she is showing an interest, it's best to skip the problems of obligation all together. It's best to avoid buying a girl drinks. If she likes you, it'll be for other reasons as it should be. If she's sitting on the fence or not into you, doing nice stuff like that will just work against you.
 
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