A Woman’s Expiration Date

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A Woman’s Expiration Date — SO SHE SLAYS

In 2 days I will be turning 22 years old. As someone who grew up in the performing arts, always wanting to be center stage and celebrated, you’d think this was something I’d be excited for. But I am filled with nothing but dread and resentment for this 22nd cycle around the sun. As a kid

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In 2 days I will be turning 22 years old. As someone who grew up in the performing arts, always wanting to be center stage and celebrated, you’d think this was something I’d be excited for. But I am filled with nothing but dread and resentment for this 22nd cycle around the sun.

As a kid, birthdays were the most magical day of the year. A day full of gifts, friends and family, parties, candy, cake, ice cream etc. It was a day all about you. What more can a kid wish for? But there comes a time in everyone's life where this special day loses its charm. The magic disappears and it just becomes another day of the year.

This transition, however, takes the biggest toll on women everywhere. As a woman ages, society places a time bomb on her. The less youth she possesses, the less value she serves. Once the signs of aging begin to show in a woman, she begins to face the struggles of not only being accepted by society but also desired. And this transitional period only comes earlier and earlier as the years go on.

This is an issue for all women created by sexist ideals and the male dominated society. This is harmful to women of all ages, though. The younger this transitional period begins, the more dangerous it is for young women all over. If men no longer find themselves attracted to women their own age, they will obviously be looking for a woman much younger. This is a dangerous and predatory standard and men only continue to date younger and younger women, resulting in very harmful and inappropriate relationships between a man and a young girl.

Women become overlooked and disrespected as they age, not only by the people around them, but by themselves. What this issue does to women’s mental health and self esteem is extremely sad and harmful. Women suffer from eating disorders, spend thousands of dollars on surgeries, and suffer from severe mental illnesses because of this societal time bomb placed on them.

Women offer so much more to this world than just their physical appearance, yet are constantly being diminished down to only that. It is extremely exhausting. Life feels less exciting when you know you are just waiting for the days of your youth to slip away.

When I think about aging, it’s ingrained in me to think of it as a bad thing, but men seem to have the opposite problem. Men are celebrated for their aging proof. silver hair and hunky dad bods, and hairy chests are things women celebrate in a man. They are believed to look handsome with their aging. Women have created an safe and accepting environment for older men, but women will never be able to experience that environment for themselves.

I’m turning 22, and I’m terrified. Terrified to lose my youth, my charm, my beauty. All because society believes a woman over a certain age has no more value left to offer. It is sad to think that I have a whole life ahead of me full of milestones and accomplishments I can’t even predict yet somehow it feels like I have already reached the end of “the good ol’ days.”

If you are scared too, I hope you learn that the value you provide is for no one but yourself. Your beauty, your youth, your shine is only there for you to use and admire. Age is just a number, the life you put into the number is what truly matters.

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Thoughts?

 

[LTG71]

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A Woman’s Expiration Date — SO SHE SLAYS

In 2 days I will be turning 22 years old. As someone who grew up in the performing arts, always wanting to be center stage and celebrated, you’d think this was something I’d be excited for. But I am filled with nothing but dread and resentment for this 22nd cycle around the sun. As a kid

www.sosheslays.com

In 2 days I will be turning 22 years old. As someone who grew up in the performing arts, always wanting to be center stage and celebrated, you’d think this was something I’d be excited for. But I am filled with nothing but dread and resentment for this 22nd cycle around the sun.

As a kid, birthdays were the most magical day of the year. A day full of gifts, friends and family, parties, candy, cake, ice cream etc. It was a day all about you. What more can a kid wish for? But there comes a time in everyone's life where this special day loses its charm. The magic disappears and it just becomes another day of the year.

This transition, however, takes the biggest toll on women everywhere. As a woman ages, society places a time bomb on her. The less youth she possesses, the less value she serves. Once the signs of aging begin to show in a woman, she begins to face the struggles of not only being accepted by society but also desired. And this transitional period only comes earlier and earlier as the years go on.

This is an issue for all women created by sexist ideals and the male dominated society. This is harmful to women of all ages, though. The younger this transitional period begins, the more dangerous it is for young women all over. If men no longer find themselves attracted to women their own age, they will obviously be looking for a woman much younger. This is a dangerous and predatory standard and men only continue to date younger and younger women, resulting in very harmful and inappropriate relationships between a man and a young girl.

Women become overlooked and disrespected as they age, not only by the people around them, but by themselves. What this issue does to women’s mental health and self esteem is extremely sad and harmful. Women suffer from eating disorders, spend thousands of dollars on surgeries, and suffer from severe mental illnesses because of this societal time bomb placed on them.

Women offer so much more to this world than just their physical appearance, yet are constantly being diminished down to only that. It is extremely exhausting. Life feels less exciting when you know you are just waiting for the days of your youth to slip away.

When I think about aging, it’s ingrained in me to think of it as a bad thing, but men seem to have the opposite problem. Men are celebrated for their aging proof. silver hair and hunky dad bods, and hairy chests are things women celebrate in a man. They are believed to look handsome with their aging. Women have created an safe and accepting environment for older men, but women will never be able to experience that environment for themselves.

I’m turning 22, and I’m terrified. Terrified to lose my youth, my charm, my beauty. All because society believes a woman over a certain age has no more value left to offer. It is sad to think that I have a whole life ahead of me full of milestones and accomplishments I can’t even predict yet somehow it feels like I have already reached the end of “the good ol’ days.”

If you are scared too, I hope you learn that the value you provide is for no one but yourself. Your beauty, your youth, your shine is only there for you to use and admire. Age is just a number, the life you put into the number is what truly matters.

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Thoughts?

Sounds like this performing arts direction is not getting the results she hoped for. She’s not the “main character“ and is whining about it. Most women have the world by the balls at 22. She fails to consider that a 22 year old guy isn’t worth sh!t unless he has gotten educated and started some type of career or trade. Men have to earn everything and are not handed value. Now she is blaming the “male dominated society“ for her lack of praise. She has the drama thing down pretty good. Women don’t even see 80% of men so this notion that men have it so easy is naive. “Dangerous and predatory,” more of those drama skills showing through. Those are the facts of life honey. We all become less desirable as we age. And a lot of these beauty standards are intersexual competition and men could care less. No man that I know has ever said, “she would have been hotter if she had bigger eye lashes and two inch nails…”

 

[The Duke]

Notice how the author is happy when the world is centered around her:

- A day full of gifts, friends and family, parties, candy, cake, ice cream etc. It was a day all about you.

- As someone who grew up in the performing arts, always wanting to be center stage and celebrated,

She makes the connection that her looks are her value, and its the man's fault!

Well I have news for sweet t!ts that my mom once asked me about modern women after hearing me complain about what they offer.

My mom said, how do these women think they can keep a man once their looks fade if thats all they offer?

My mom knew her role, could cook like Grandma, clean, run a family and home, keep her emotions in check, look pretty, fix stuff, work her nursing job, saddle her own horse, build treehouses with her kids, and figure out whatever else she needed if my dad was away making money.

The older I get, the more I require from a woman that I should have required many years ago. But I want some one that brings as much to the table as I do.

It's rare to find women that offer much more than companionship and their looks. I want an asset, not a liability.

 

[LTG71]

Notice how the author is happy when the world is centered around her:

- A day full of gifts, friends and family, parties, candy, cake, ice cream etc. It was a day all about you.

- As someone who grew up in the performing arts, always wanting to be center stage and celebrated,

She makes the connection that her looks are her value, and its the man's fault!

Well I have news for sweet t!ts that my mom once asked me about modern women after hearing me complain about what they offer.

My mom said, how do these women think they can keep a man once their looks fade if thats all they offer?

My mom knew her role, could cook like Grandma, clean, run a family and home, keep her emotions in check, look pretty, fix stuff, work her nursing job, saddle her own horse, build treehouses with her kids, and figure out whatever else she needed if my dad was away making money.

The older I get, the more I require from a woman that I should have required many years ago. But I want some one that brings as much to the table as I do.

It's rare to find women that offer much more than companionship and their looks. I want an asset, not a liability.

The author sounds very narcissistic and threw a tantrum once all eyes were not on her. Your mom is a wise woman and knew value was more than skin deep. Modern women have lost this mindset. That don’t make women like they used to.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

saddle her own horse

I assume you ment this literally but from the way you talk about her, its both literally and figuratively. She sounds like a great mom.

Thoughts?

Just another article with female cope. Its not the first, it wont be the last.

 

[The Duke]

I assume you ment this literally but from the way you talk about her, its both literally and figuratively. She sounds like a great mom.




Just another article with female cope. Its not the first, it wont be the last.

Yes literally and figuratively. My mom was a bad ass.

 

[Gamisch]

Yup. 22 might sound young, if you're already on the wrong trajectory it will be difficult to adjust towards the right path.

Doing art is fun and free, but around that age the first (reality) checks are coming in. Rent, insurance, lifestyle a small debt here a little fine there...some horrific stories from ex students now working at H&M instead of having that fancy gallery where yoimu can sip whine and get rich...

Meanwhile, she KNOWS that there are two types of women; those who (happily) settle and those who won't. Good girls being scooped up, and everyday she gets closer to being a leftover.

She discovered she ain't nothing special at all, and the sooner she let's that fact sink in the sooner she can adjust accordingly.

 

[BaronOfHair]

"This transition, however, takes the biggest toll on women everywhere. As a woman ages, society places a time bomb on her. The less youth she possesses, the less value she serves"

No, honey... Gals who are Grade A pains in the rest of civilization's ass stop receiving leniency, once they're no longer young and beautiful, have dog sh-t in the way of talent ala. Megan Fox, Amber Heard, etc etc

Same way fellas get no respect, when we fail to comprehend the gist of the following words: "Children face inward, wallow in their own selfish needs. MEN face out, take action on the needs of others" ( https://www.reddit.com/r/Sonsofanarchy/comments/ute4ln ), never partake in a mission larger than ourselves

 

[zekko]

Notice how the author is happy when the world is centered around her:

I'm sure it is difficult to be a woman in the performing arts. I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to be center stage, because those are the biggest and best parts to get. If she wants to reach the top of her profession, those are the ones to go for. Aging must require a lot of adapting to new roles. Going from playing the lead when she's young and pretty, to then getting the mother's roles, to being left out altogether.

I'm sure there is a big identity shift from going to an object of desire to something less so. I've always thought most women handle this better than I would expect. Ideally, they rachet down their expectations and live a more mellow life. But I can't feel too sorry for women romantically. Most of the older women I know don't stay single for long, they usually get snatched up fairly quickly.

 

[craider]

If society believes you have no value to offer beyond your looks, who are you to argue?

Sounds like this woman has self reported and needs to focus on bringing value to other people's lives outside of sexual satisfaction, if she plans to be recognized for it. Perhaps improving her acting skills will land her a role on Broadway or something and she can be recognized that way.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

Really its a matter of perspective. I was raised to value intelligence, achievement, social graces and character. Looks were NEVER emphasized in my home growing up. We were expected to bring much more than that to the table.....and looks were considered a fortunate but fleeting blessing (in some instances a liability.)

To such a degree was this true that I literally did not realize I was pretty until my very late teens/early 20s. And then I was like Damn. Why did nobody explain this to me, lol?????

I can shoot straight, ride (yes and saddle my own horse), cook, be a good listener/advisor and all that stuff, but I was raised that way. Anymore it is becoming a lost skillset, which is too bad.

While I am grateful that I was blessed with beauty, I have always known more is required to have longevity in relationship.

Men as a general rule would not be able to handle that kind of pressure as regards aging and looks. Lucky for men, women look at more than just appearance.

 

[Alvafe]

if with 22 she is already like this in her 30 she will kill herself

and its not society who value her youth, its the very woman who know most of her value for men in how pretty she is, and since most woman if you remove her beauty is a hollow annoyance of childish behavior most men only tolerate because of they libido, is not wonder when she is not longer pretty men not only ignore then, but run from then like the plague

 

[tesla8520]

My mom knew her role, could cook like Grandma, clean, run a family and home, keep her emotions in check, look pretty, fix stuff, work her nursing job, saddle her own horse, build treehouses with her kids, and figure out whatever else she needed if my dad was away making money.

From my own experience, you can find a good woman.
But it's really hard to find one with all the package, and that single quality written in bold.
That single quality it's the pillar of her worth.

 

[viking22]

Expiration date differs significantly by profession.

If you're an actress or a model it is clearly a much lower age than if you're just a regular woman. But even then it is in terms of career opportunities and being able to attract the top 1% of men. The days when at 30 you were considered an old maid are long gone.
Women (and men) with good genes, good self-care, some cosmetic treatment etc. can remain attractive well into their 30s and 40s.

 

[LTG71]

“Men as a general rule would not be able to handle that kind of pressure as regards aging and looks. Lucky for men, women look at more than just appearance.”

If you were born winning the genetic lottery, then you have no idea what it is like for those who did not. If this were reality, the “Chad” persona would not exist and guys under 6ft would not have any concerns. Saying women don’t have appearance standards for men is some classic gaslighting.

 

[BaronOfHair]

@BeExcellent "Really its a matter of perspective. I was raised to value intelligence, achievement, social graces and character. Looks were NEVER emphasized in my home growing up"

Yeah, gal who wrote The OP admits she "grew up in the performing arts" and "relishes being center stage"... Her true thoughts could've been scribbled out on an index card:

"In the very near future, folks will be fawning less over me, and instead jerking it to some chick who's a mere decade younger than me... I'm less than thrilled by this"

Female equivalent of the typical pro athlete(I.E. NOT Tom Brady or LeBron James), who's brooding over what to do, once his 5/perhaps 10 years in the league are up

 

[BeExcellent]

“Men as a general rule would not be able to handle that kind of pressure as regards aging and looks. Lucky for men, women look at more than just appearance.”

If you were born winning the genetic lottery, then you have no idea what it is like for those who did not. If this were reality, the “Chad” persona would not exist and guys under 6ft would not have any concerns. Saying women don’t have appearance standards for men is some classic gaslighting.

That's not what I'm saying. You guys assert that ALL that matters in a woman is looks. Its very shallow.

If ALL women cared about was looks in the same way men care about looks (to the exclusion of everything else?) No. The average dude would lose it and feel totally hopeless, especially the poor guys who are short, fat, bald and not handsome. Y'all all want Victoria's Secret models but if you look in the mirror y'all are not going to be on GQ's cover anytime soon.

Of course women care about appearance. But to a woman its just a piece of the puzzle, not the whole puzzle.

That is what I am saying.

 

[BeExcellent]

@BeExcellent "Really its a matter of perspective. I was raised to value intelligence, achievement, social graces and character. Looks were NEVER emphasized in my home growing up"

Yeah, gal who wrote The OP admits she "grew up in the performing arts" and "relishes being center stage"... Her true thoughts could've been scribbled out on an index card:

"In the very near future, folks will be fawning less over me, and instead jerking it to some chick who's a mere decade younger than me... I'm less than thrilled by this"

Female equivalent of the typical pro athlete(I.E. NOT Tom Brady or LeBron James), who's brooding over what to do, once his 5/perhaps 10 years in the league are up

Correct. In essence you have to get over yourself. The girl in the article is not a special snowflake, the journeyman pro athlete is not a special snowflake and so on.

The problem is that so many people have blown so much sunshine up the ass of people like OP or the 5 year pro athlete....that cold hard reality is a bytch slap in the face when that reckoning comes.....the world does not care. There are no special snowflakes.

Only after realizing that can you surrender to building a quality existance, by first getting comfortable with yourself, and your own strengths and weaknesses, can you work toward positive results in your own life.

 

[LTG71]

That's not what I'm saying. You guys assert that ALL that matters in a woman is looks. Its very shallow.

If ALL women cared about was looks in the same way men care about looks (to the exclusion of everything else?) No. The average dude would lose it and feel totally hopeless, especially the poor guys who are short, fat, bald and not handsome. Y'all all want Victoria's Secret models but if you look in the mirror y'all are not going to be on GQ's cover anytime soon.

Of course women care about appearance. But to a woman its just a piece of the puzzle, not the whole puzzle.

That is what I am saying.

Men are far less picky. The average guy would be happy with an average girl if she treats him well. The old phrase, “doesn’t matter how hot she is, someone is tired of her sh!t” exist for a reason. At the end of the day, looks fade and you need to find a partner with substance and not just some cute ditz.

 

[BaronOfHair]

@BeExcellent "The problem is that so many people have blown so much sunshine up the ass of people like OP or the 5 year pro athlete....that cold hard reality is a bytch slap in the face when that reckoning comes.....the world does not care"

The world cares about what services each of us provides them. For the girl who wrote The OP's sake, she better be a strong actress alongside simply pleasing to the eyes. She's going to end up another Megan Fox rather than a Julianne Moore otherwise