Early last week I went over to this girl's house that I hooked up with a couple weeks before. We had some wine and a good talk and everything was great. Then, there's a knock on the door, a family member comes in and drops some things off. He is very nervous but is nice to me, I know for a fact he is a family member. When he leaves, she becomes stressed out and worried about something. I think he was in trouble with the law. I said to her, I'm gonna take off and let you be, hope everythin is ok. She agrees and says yeah I'm kind of worried for him. I could sense that she was very worried and took off, everything was good when I left, I kissed her goodbye. Waited three days and never heard from her. Sent a simple text on Friday saying "is everythin okay? how are you? I never heard from her. It's now Monday and still haven't heard from her. Should I call? This is just so shady. Something shady was going on. I think he was runnin from someone. Why did she disappear on me? What's my next move?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
A weird thing happened with a girl and I and need advice...
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Who gives a sh*t, if something shady was going on why the hell would you even want to get involved? Red flags already, thats a big no no.
Anyway, its all speculation but she has your message, she'll call if she wants.
Nothing really complex about this.
Anyway, its all speculation but she has your message, she'll call if she wants.
Nothing really complex about this.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
She is either not interested enough to call back, or she has been drawn into the family member's drama and has no time or energy to see you . Either way it is bad deal for you. Let her go. If she comes back free of the drama with an explanation for her radio silence which is plausible then crank up your interest then, but NOT before.
It is may be appealing to you to offer yourself as Capt N Save a HO here. YOu might believe that if you get involved with her family drama then you can "make a difference" and find a solution to remove the problem. DO not do this.
I could give you myriad reasons why this is a bad idea, but suffice to say it is just a very bad idea.
It is may be appealing to you to offer yourself as Capt N Save a HO here. YOu might believe that if you get involved with her family drama then you can "make a difference" and find a solution to remove the problem. DO not do this.
I could give you myriad reasons why this is a bad idea, but suffice to say it is just a very bad idea.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Run and don't look back!trent81 said:Early last week I went over to this girl's house that I hooked up with a couple weeks before. We had some wine and a good talk and everything was great. Then, there's a knock on the door, a family member comes in and drops some things off. He is very nervous but is nice to me, I know for a fact he is a family member. When he leaves, she becomes stressed out and worried about something. I think he was in trouble with the law. I said to her, I'm gonna take off and let you be, hope everythin is ok. She agrees and says yeah I'm kind of worried for him. I could sense that she was very worried and took off, everything was good when I left, I kissed her goodbye. Waited three days and never heard from her. Sent a simple text on Friday saying "is everythin okay? how are you? I never heard from her. It's now Monday and still haven't heard from her. Should I call? This is just so shady. Something shady was going on. I think he was runnin from someone. Why did she disappear on me? What's my next move?
<<Early last week I went over to this girl's house that I hooked up with a couple weeks before. We had some wine and a good talk and everything was great. Then, there's a knock on the door, a family member comes in and drops some things off. He is very nervous but is nice to me, I know for a fact he is a family member. When he leaves, she becomes stressed out and worried about something... It's now Monday and still haven't heard from her. >>
She seemed "stressed and worried about something". Like... she got caught by a relative being with another man while her BF or husband is away serving in Iraq maybe (and misled you into thinking it was something about the relative)?
She seemed "stressed and worried about something". Like... she got caught by a relative being with another man while her BF or husband is away serving in Iraq maybe (and misled you into thinking it was something about the relative)?