"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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A weird theory on plates

Leonydus

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Ok this is going to be short but it dawned on me last night while shooting pool and talking about dating in general. A lot of people say this is a numbers game and that the more you try the better are you chances. Think of it this way:

The fact is that there are more women than men in the world. And If we exclude all the homosexual people (no offense to those that are) and we are still left with more women than men. Therefore we as men are entitled by nature to actually spin more plates than one because girls have this ideal of there is one guy out there for them. Therefore because there are more women than guys, and if there was actually one guy for every girl then there are going to be a lot of girls with no guys :D so who are we to deprive these hot lonely girls, as long as you honest and respectable and open blah blah. As weird as it is, this is just a little twist on the game.

I expect a lot of criticism but like i said, its a silly twist on the game.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Infraction

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80% of the guys go over 20% of the girls.
 

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80% of the guys go over 20% of the girls.
And truth be told, the 20% is the AWs, the fatties and the slyts.

That means technically, you have MORE then just a few plates for your allotment, because 80% of the girls (of course, a higher density of dateable girls..) are not under heavy competation.

Think about it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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afc_2_dj

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Interesting that about more women than men, I think on average over the planet or a large enough area this is true, but from what I've heard certain areas have an imbalance.

For example here in Gauteng there are reputadly more men than women, as the men are more likely to emmigrate here from the costal/rural areas than women, hence somewhere like PE has more women than men [hence more desperate women therefore easier to meet, and this is true I know!]. Dont know if its a scientific fact, but theres always more men in clubs/etc and the women certainly are pickier!
 

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Spinning plates can be justifies in a myriad of ways. It all boils down to not putting all of your eggs in one basket (and making sure that none of the eggs are scrambled).
 

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lol afc_2_dj true true. gauteng clubs are the worst to pick up women. I hardly club nowadays unless I want to pick up a bootycall. Im in midrand so i got groovebar, close 2 home. can walk there and wobble back home. but the female produce is quite scarce but those that do come there are quite nice. Bsides Gauteng women are corrupt, im coming to a conclusion that these women have no idea what they want and spend half the time putting on a show.
 

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Of course everybody should want to spin plates in the dating world....

But I hate when you're having girl problems or oneitis and people say "dude, you gota spin plates"

Well duh, thats like saying If you have money problems the way to solve your problem is to make more money...

The truth is most people on this board can hardly get 1 plate spinning let alone 3 or 4....
 

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Leonydus said:
Im in midrand so i got groovebar ... female produce is quite scarce
I haven't tried that yet, heard good things about it though. The only place I've seen with more females than men is Manhatten Club in Rivonia, but they tend to be gold diggers there! Tho all the strippers from Teasers tend to go after a shift as well! :)

Women here are definitly corrupt no doubt, and dude, no women anywhere in the world knows what they want!!

st_99 said:
But I hate when you're having girl problems or oneitis and people say "dude, you gota spin plates"
Well duh, thats like saying If you have money problems the way to solve your problem is to make more money...
Agreed, its not that simple, if it were so easy to just collect a batch of "plates" there wouldn't be a problem in the first place.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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