"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A website that seems to celebrate both marriage AND divorce

MatureDJ

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I was looking at this webpage, and it got me thinking ...

http://www.sheknows.com/love-and-se...hy-you-should-have-a-one-night-stand-or-two-1

The primary article is about how divorced women can easily find younger men that will want to have sex with them. On the side there are a bunch of links to articles about the "perfect wedding" and even about engagement pics, as well as other articles about divorce.

These are huge mixed messages. It is almost as if women should be entitled to demand marriage when they want (and of course complain when there aren't enough "good men" around :rolleyes:), while at the same time encouraging women that they should divorce, and how they can have a great time after they divorce. I mean, it looks like women just like the whole cycle of dating, engagement (with the great photos), marriage, and then divorce. One of the side links even purports that women get better at marriage by going through a divorce!

W T F ? :eek: :eek: :eek: :box: :down:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I suppose from a woman's perspective, demanding the perfect wedding AND being able to play the field, divorce, etc, get paid, is the ideal.

Kind of like a guys ideal would be to bang endless 10's without ever committing.

Both genders have their angles. Whoever is best as getting theirs wins.

Date accordingly!
 

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Women profit more from divorce than men do, so it's no surprise they would celebrate it.

I will never marry again, but I do think that relationships do not need to last forever for them to have value. It's like going on a long vacation - you're excited when you start out, you have fun while you're on it, and at the end of it you're glad to get home.
 

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samspade said:
I don't think that's necessarily true. In their heart of hearts I think most women want the perfect wedding AND having all needs met by the same man: resource providing (which the 'perfect wedding' falls under, display of wealth), emotional support, companionship, child-bearing, great sex, etc. Divorce in our modern era is simply cashing out on his resources when other needs are not being met.
I think one of the problems is that a lot of women have an unrealistic view of marriage. They expect it all to turn out to be like some fantasy novel, with non stop romance. Then they find out they still have to buy toilet paper, scrub the dishes, deal with the car getting a flat, the washer breaking down, getting into bad moods, etc. In other words, marriage is just like life, and they blame the guy for it.

That and because they receive cash and prizes for divorcing, they have incentive to file. Since there is no more "shaming" involved with divorce, our modern society is set up to encourage them to file.
 

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samspade said:
I don't think that's necessarily true. In their heart of hearts I think most women want the perfect wedding AND having all needs met by the same man: resource providing (which the 'perfect wedding' falls under, display of wealth), emotional support, companionship, child-bearing, great sex, etc. Divorce in our modern era is simply cashing out on his resources when other needs are not being met. In our gynocentric, women=men society, women want men to believe that playing the field and divorce are part of their ideal scenario, but that's just leveraging so they don't walk away with nothing. A divorce payout is a consolation prize for her loneliness. She plays the field because she has to and still has the attractiveness to pull it off.
Are you on drugs? Are you serious?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've certainly known women who enjoy spinning plates. Especially the AW types. That's not to say all women do, though.

Most women I know settle down with one dude. Of course with hypergamy, they can always dump him if they find a better option, or just get bored.

I don't think being an "alpha" is a guarantee against divorce. A women can get tired of an alpha's sh!t just as much as anyone else's.
 

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If you are a man I do not care how "Alpha" you are the system is against you.
 

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women live for the wedding - its the fun/reward before the work.. and if they don't want to work - you get a divorce. Been there- done that.
 
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