kentex
New Member
Hi all...
I can see there's a lot of posts about shyness, and how to overcome it. Here's something that I learned:
This is a story of something that changed me. At the time, I was studying engineering at the university. You probably know that a lot of engineers are geeks, and I was no exception. You know, bad clothing, big glasses, practially no hairstyle - and very shy. When I met people I didn't know, the only thing I could say was 'Hi' or something...nothing else! I hated that, because it was that thing that kept me from ever having a girlfriend. At the same time I could see my frinds (the few I had), having all the fun in the world, with girlfriends and stuff.
At some point, I got the chance of taking a semester in some other country. Honestly, I was getting really sick and tired of my life at home, so I took the chance. And for four months, I moved to another country (Edinburgh, Scotland), where I didn't know anyone. They even spoke another language than my own.
An experience like that will change a person.
When I returned home, it was like the whole world had changed. But it was actually me who had changed. I was much more concerned about my clothes and how I looked. And my personality was totally different.
It's about 18 months since I got home, and I've made so many new friends since then -male as well as female. And because I got rid of my shyness, I've begun flirting - something I would never do just two years ago. Actually, sometimes girls start flirting with me!
Of course this isn't some little trick you can pull off. It takes a lot of time, effort, and courage. But to all you shy guys: I would really suggest that you do it. It works. Really.
Don't expect to return home at Mr.Confident, that won't happen, but it will help you get rid of most of your shyness, and then you can work your way up from there...
Kentex
I can see there's a lot of posts about shyness, and how to overcome it. Here's something that I learned:
This is a story of something that changed me. At the time, I was studying engineering at the university. You probably know that a lot of engineers are geeks, and I was no exception. You know, bad clothing, big glasses, practially no hairstyle - and very shy. When I met people I didn't know, the only thing I could say was 'Hi' or something...nothing else! I hated that, because it was that thing that kept me from ever having a girlfriend. At the same time I could see my frinds (the few I had), having all the fun in the world, with girlfriends and stuff.
At some point, I got the chance of taking a semester in some other country. Honestly, I was getting really sick and tired of my life at home, so I took the chance. And for four months, I moved to another country (Edinburgh, Scotland), where I didn't know anyone. They even spoke another language than my own.
An experience like that will change a person.
When I returned home, it was like the whole world had changed. But it was actually me who had changed. I was much more concerned about my clothes and how I looked. And my personality was totally different.
It's about 18 months since I got home, and I've made so many new friends since then -male as well as female. And because I got rid of my shyness, I've begun flirting - something I would never do just two years ago. Actually, sometimes girls start flirting with me!
Of course this isn't some little trick you can pull off. It takes a lot of time, effort, and courage. But to all you shy guys: I would really suggest that you do it. It works. Really.
Don't expect to return home at Mr.Confident, that won't happen, but it will help you get rid of most of your shyness, and then you can work your way up from there...
Kentex