A way of dealing with fear of approach, procrastination and other problems

[Fenderules]

I already posted this in another thread but i figure it was worth being a thread all of its own (plus i spent all the time writing it lol)

anyway this is a good way to get over fear and for you to STOP procrstination.

seriously try it.


This is based off of Tony Robbins personal Power 2 and every time i go through the little workshop he does (i think its lecture 6) i feel greatly empowered by it. The coffin idea i believe was from an old post......perhpas in the bible i dont remeber but it helped alot.


When i went throught this.....i gave 110% and i actually cried at the end. I bursted into tears because i saw sooooo much pain i really did want to have and could get rid of it.

 

[Fenderules]

This is a tony robbins technique......

he uses Chalres ****ens Christmas Tale on Scrouge


lay down and relax.....take a couple deep breaths

now think of the past,


think of a certain situation where you could have approached a girl but didnt. Think of the pain you felt and regrets you have. Maby there was someone special you would have liked to get know better but you never really did because you were afraid. Think of all the things you missed out on or pussied out on.



Now move to the present, and look at yourslef in the mirror? are you happy with yourself? Do you have a healthy body? How is your career? are you succesful finacially? what about emotional satisfied?

now move 5 years....imagine all this pain you have caried with you from yoru past and present 5 years ahead? imagine yourself in the mirror again? are you standing tall? where is your life heading? do you have a girlfiend yet? can you even approach girls? what have you missed on now since you are no longer in your 20's. What oppurtunities did you simply pass on? perhaps a few flings? or maby a college hunny?

Now move 10 years into the future and repat the steps? are you happy with all this pain and fear controlly your life 10 years down the road? what will you look like? did you let yourself go out of shape? How does your face look? do you own a home? are you on the street? Imagine the oppurtunites of not having a wife or home to come home to at night. Feel the ball in your stomach grow with pain.....this is good




Now go 20 years into the future........ What do you look like now? are you worn out since you have carried these stupid fears this far into the future? are you down because all this has taken compltle control of your life? what have you missed.....a family perhaps? children? grandkids? you will neve rhave this because of these fears you have inside you.


Now imagine your DEAD! you just died right now, make sure you lie in dark room with no lights. Imagine your in your coffin at your funeral and people look at you and cry and imagine all your loved ones who say goodbye to you. Do you have any at all? Imagine there is no girl to say goodbye to you.....she does not care because she does not know your. You never approached her.




Now by now you should be crying or almost crying...........or at the very least VERY upseet



Finally imagine that you DO change and you break away from these fears and restrictions. Imagine your lazyness is gone because you decided you were no longer gonna have it. Imagine 20 years from now what you will have. Imagine all the great pleasure you will getting over this fear and all the rewards you have.

Imagine all this and how happy you feel. Are you smiling? are you in the greatest shape of your life? are you turly happy?




now go find that girl!

 

[Alpine]

Yes,

Doing a D1ckens. I did this some years ago. They should teach it in schools.

There's nothing like the perspective of regret to get your arse in gear NOW.

I have to admit, I got a little emotional too. Maybe this is where the power comes from.

A lot of personal power II is on bearshare, I'd say it's a must for DJ's for general personal improvement. If you can't download it, buy it. Definately worth the money.

 

[Fenderules]

Originally posted by fuzzx
Tony rocks... His stuff has worked for me! Its just like sosuave, you have to apply the techniques.

Thanks for posting

yeah exactly except i find it more emporing then a site like this since it covers all aspects of your life. Plus it teaches the fundamental idea that can make you succeed in anything........ not except failure. If you try and do not succeed you adapt and try another way. So even if you mess up it is not truly a failure.... a failure would to be to stop trying after you reach a rut (which is what happens with guys on here as i see....they take their past emotions and carry it with them to future situations)

And of course the ADAPTATIONG is taught 2. Too many guys here use the same things over and over again on this site and thats why they are not making progress. they think they are trying and end up giving up because they figure it will never work.



you can give a million tips in the world but you wont succeed if you dont have this fundamental idea in your head. Look at David D. He was not handed tips to him on a silver plattter like this site does...he had to figure it out for himself.