A very pissed off single mom

[MatureDJ]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z3gDyem8H14

 

[insidious]

She needs to channel of that good stuff into my sack.:nervous:

 

[MatureDJ]

BTW, here is an accompanying article about the man's guide to single moms.

http://outcastsuperstar.blogspot.com/2008/03/rough-guide-to-single-moms.html

 

[Jitterbug]

BTW, here is an accompanying article about the man's guide to single moms.

http://outcastsuperstar.blogspot.com/2008/03/rough-guide-to-single-moms.html

That came from this very forum, FYI.

 

[DJDamage]

She should be punching herself, instead of blaming men for her state of affairs.

Her choices in life and her own physical traits have gotten her this far.

I bet it was so fun to be carefree and play guys in her late teen's and early 20's and now that the shoe is on the other foot, she can't handle it. She probably made poor choices with the bad boy who fathered her child and had the whole " marriage and love" ever after fantasy running through her head while being emersed in the feminism idealogy that help changed women and destroy relationships/marriages since the 60's.

She is mad because the power that she had growing up has now shifted to men. Those men who are now in their 30's and are established (whom probably never had a shot at her when they were in their 20's because she couldn't give a damn about them) are finally feeling what's it like to have power in the dating game and are leaving her out in the cold.

 

[KontrollerX]

LOL, damage I'm in the process of copying and pasting the truth that you said here onto her youtube video page.

Should be interesting to see what she replies with if she doesn't just outright delete the comments for being too much reality for her to handle.

 

[ParrotHead420]

This is why I don't want kids, because women change when they have a child and if you don't change to fit the game plan then your ass gets divorced. At least that's what my mom pulled on my dad. According to him, before I was born, my mom was actually capable of having a good time, not having to schedule everything, just going with the flow. Once she learned she was pregnant it turned into constant scheduling of every facet of their lives. And when he didn't get with the program, she divorced him, ultimately making life harder on all three of us. Now I'm not complaining about the way she raised me - I have had a good life and some good opportunities, and my best teachers and role models have been my parents. But I don't want children, if the woman that I eventually meet and fall in love with is going to suddenly change her tune and become a completely different person once the blue bar shows up on the pregnancy test.

I personally believe that every woman who doesn't have the means to support herself and gets pregnant should consider either abortion or adoption, because there is no way they are going to be able to provide a healthy, stable environment for a child if they are unable to focus on a career and do things like, oh, earning money to provide for even the most basic of necessities. But women are not logical, they don't consider the implications, they believe that love alone will keep her and her child alive and afloat, but love and idealism don't pay the bills. I know what I said above may seem harsh to some but in most middle-to-lower-class living situations, a child is something that many people under the $50,000 income bracket cannot afford, and it makes more sense for the parent, for the life of the child, and society in general, if that child were either brought up with loving adoptive parents who would be able to provide them with opportunities in life, or just not coming into the world at all.

 

[DJDamage]

LOL, damage I'm in the process of copying and pasting the truth that you said here onto her youtube video page.

Should be interesting to see what she replies with if she doesn't just outright delete the comments for being too much reality for her to handle.

oh man that's funny.

My guess is that she will delete those comments.

She only has one comment on the youtube page and its read:

"You should never judge, especialy when you don't have any information to base it on"

Really? cause all the hate she spewed on the men in her life were based on her own perceived judgement.

 

[jophil28]

Really? cause all the hate she spewed on the men in her life were based on her own perceived judgement.

You should know by now that women never include themselves or their own behavior in their demands, expectations or criticisms of others.
Being hypocrytical or having personal double standards is not problematic to them. In fact the whole concept of "double standards" rarely enters their consciousness except when a man acts that way and the woman is hurt or inconvenienced as the"victim". Then she is outraged and the behavior is condemned with the usually whining and shaming tactics.
To most women, bad behavior is confined to what MEN do to them.

 

[jophil28]

She is mad because the power that she had growing up has now shifted to men.
.

Exactly.
I see this anger frequently in women my age. They are a mad as a hornet because thier power has dissolved along with their looks, their figure and their market value..

AT least the "cougars" have mobilised in order to compete with the kittens .
Older women and single mothers are notoriously resentful and pissed that older men have gained power, and women of their age, and in their position have little left..

I wish that more older men realized how profound and entrenched this power shift has become.

 

[Bible_Belt]

This is one of the comments to that blog post, which I think represents the other side of the anti-single mom attitude that is common here.

Single Mom said...
I am a single mom. I was abandoned by my boyfriend while pregnant. I'm not looking for sympathy. Your writing made me sick, I couldn't even finish the entire thing. It would not have been worth it, to make me more upset and feel humiliated. It seems you have personal issues from your own past relationships and you need to stop lashing out at others for your own anger. Single mothers sometimes are looking for love just like anyone else, and are no less entitled to love and marriage than childless people. You probably don't care, but I feel terrible about what I read. I hope real men don't feel as you do, I think you are in the minority with your mean commentary.


Not every single mother out there is an evil lying b!tch, I promise. Some of them did get genuinely screwed in more ways than one. The argument against them seems to be that they will trick a guy into marrying them and then change into an evil b!tch. That's the guy's fault first for getting tricked, but if she changes, all he has to do is leave! Marriage is not forever these days, especially second and third marriages. Any guy who would allow a woman to do these horrible things to him without leaving her, like ruin his life over her kids, has mostly himself to blame.

 

[RedPill]

LOL, damage I'm in the process of copying and pasting the truth that you said here onto her youtube video page.

Should be interesting to see what she replies with if she doesn't just outright delete the comments for being too much reality for her to handle.

Everybody go give 'thumbs up' to KontrollerX's (darkpassengerx) comments... just to see what happens.

 

[jophil28]

Not every single mother out there is an evil lying b!tch, I promise. Some of them did get genuinely screwed in more ways than one. The argument against them seems to be that they will trick a guy into marrying them and then change into an evil b!tch. That's the guy's fault first for getting tricked, but if she changes, all he has to do is leave! Marriage is not forever these days, especially second and third marriages. Any guy who would allow a woman to do these horrible things to him without leaving her, like ruin his life over her kids, has mostly himself to blame.

These comments are simplistic and show your inexperience.

I agree that not all single moms are evil lying baitches. That is true.

However, I have personal experience in the form of a brief marriage in the early 1990's to a single mother so I can speak from reality.

The most glaring difference between a marriage to a single mother and a marriage to a childless woman is this - A marriage to a childless women is one in which both parties come together to build a life together, usually from scratch. THis is a new adventure for both founded on confidence and passion (and sometimes little else) .You are her priority, and she is yours. You provide for her needs. and she accomodates you, and yours. Whatever you create is via mutual involvement.

A single Mom has done some ( or all ) of this with SOMEONE else and has a couple of kids to prove it.
So why do single mother enter into second and third marriages. Certainly not for the "good genes". SHe merely want her new husband to proivide for the missing elements in her EXISTING life , be that finances or romance and sex. The guy is merely plugging up the holes ( so to speak) he fills in the gaps and the vacant parts of her life. He is "Gap Guy"
Her first priority will always be her children, followed by her original family( mother and sisters) and then comes her close friends who probably sided with her through her divorce.. These are long established relationships of hers.
Her new husband comes somewhere below her friends and just above her tennis coach.

However a lot of these woman are experts at drawing in men to fill these "roles' with an explicit and implicit promises of her loyalty commitment and undying devotion . THat lasts until just after the wedding and her true agenda emerges.
THis is why single mothers have such a poor reputation- because they are dishonest in their stated intentions BEFORE the wedding.

 

[KontrollerX]

I too don't think all single mother's are "evil lying b!tches" but I copied DJ Damages posts to that woman's youtube video because I think she personally needed to see the "other side".

Also the woman that took offense to the comments on that blog link apparently never heard of adoption.

Its at least an option for a woman who is not equipped financially to raise a child.

Also the court's are completely on the woman's side.

Did the woman who commented on that blog ever think of having the court's force her abandoning boyfriend to pay up?

I know he could dissapear and all but unless you are a professional criminal it can be hard to evade the law forever.

 

[Phyzzle]

That article keeps emphasizing that the family unit IS the mother and child. The stepfather is only a guest.

However, most guys I know who marry single mothers have children of their own with her quite promptly. I can't find statistics to prove it, but I think that the women who find a provider guy to help out her 'real' family are in the minority. Most of these former single moms are having just as many children with the new provider.

 

[penkitten]

i went to the link and what i saw, was sad.
here you have a gal, who isn't unattractive, who seems physically fit, venting to the world her frustrations.

we do not know how long she has been a single mother, perhaps she has not adjusted to it yet. we have no idea what her real problems really are.
we have no idea if she has had enough time being a single mother to take at least half of the responsibility in her relationship not working.

for all we know, she could be in the transition of learning to handle the everyday responsibilites of being a single mother with the financial responsibilites included.

what we saw was her frustration coming out on the internet, how is that unlike some of the threads that happen on this site? here you vent about single mothers, and there she vents about guys who don't have to deal with the obstacles she is finding herself in.

what is offensive in her sad video is the fact that she is completely oblivious that she needs to make changes to herself in the slightest.

most single parents change their attitudes and mindsets within time.
if she never changes hers, she will end up very bitter.

do not let one person's sad woe of the day make you feel horrible or make you feel as if the whole lot is bad.
i for one, have never punched and kicked some bag in front of a video camera to tell the world just how sad i am inside.

i also want to speak up for those of us , who used to be single mothers, then got remarried. i certainly did not do it for the money, or the sex, or to create more children. i remarried because i had met the most wonderful man who i wanted to share my life with and grow old beside. i love and adore my husband and have never felt as if he was some "guest" in our home. he is very much apart of the family. he is my best friend and he deserves way more respect than someone would give their "soccer coach" and should never be treated as some sort of "gap guy". he didn't come along to fill in gaps, that's for sure.
it is hurtful to think that everyone view single mothers or single mothers who remarry as such awful people that take advantage of helpless guys.

not that i can't name a huge list of them that do, and i can understand why one could plague us all... but not all of us are this vicious. please remember that.

 

[3countriesPlan]

I just flamed her.. anyways she really needs to focus on being a real woman instead of acting like a man. T

 

[Warrior74]

penkitten...your right. not every single mother is the same..... but I was thinking on a good friend of mine. And to be honest...he is a 'plug in the hole' guy. He was one of my dj buddys (club dj). He constantly moaned about being tired of being single, he had poor social skills, he dated subpar women and had low self esteem and low standards. She was a good time girl, always in the club, stayed on drugs. Divorced with a child. Hooked up with tons of guys that we all knew. We introduced the two of them thinking that it would probably just be a hookup or fling and six months later they were engaged. He's still the miserable SOB he always was. Except now he *****es about having to run her kid around, dealing with her ex husband and how he never haves time to do the things he loves. He gets pissed when I ask him "well what the hell did you expect?" lol. As if he didn't know what he was getting into. And that's because at first it was all going out, partying hard and lots of drinking, but after the wedding it was domestic bliss in all of its splendor for him. She kept partying while he stayed home with the kid, until he threatened to take his paycheck and leave. Now they both stay home miserable together. She's desperately trying to get him to have a baby with her. She knows if he has a kid, he'll never leave. But to be honest...he's not gonna leave anyway. He'd rather be miserable than alone.

 

[( . )( . )]

This poor b!tch swallowed the whole "have your cake and eat it too ladies".

Put down the "empowerment" sword, back away from the "equality" lie, put some lipstick on, let your hair out, a nice floral pattern dress perhaps, switch off the internet and go make a fvckin sandwich.

Because at the moment I'm only seeing an angry man with nice tits, at least try and give us something thats worth protecting and loving, you retard.

 

[Mr.Positive]

After watching this video, I'd say there's definitely a few red flags there.

1) Uncontrollable anger. Coupled with what appears to be an above average hitting power. Not a good combo for any guy who enjoys a peaceful home.

2) Unaccountability. She actually got pissed at a guy for cancelling because his mother died. Topped with the fact that she doesn't accept any responsibility for the position in life she's currently in.

3) Raging attention *****. Posting on youtube to begin with.

Ya...I'm pretty sure she's not a keeper.

I did enjoy reading all the comments left for her though guys...props!!