So, I've been stalking these forums for a few weeks now as a guest to try and figure out a situation I had recently been dealing with, In my stupidity I had developed a terrible case of oneitis and began to obsess over a girl, I had acted like a complete AFC and her interest level has dropped from a ridiculously high peak, she wasn't even that great looking, maybe a 7, and I had begun to worship her terribly.
I came to the forums multiple times wondering what the issue was - I thought I had done everything right, I had been a nice guy, a gentleman, and I still didn't understand why I couldn't win her. And then it clicked, after reading the advice on these forums, that I shouldn't have to win her.
No, I shouldn't be making all the effort to win her, because that makes me appear desperate and needy, instead, I should be the prize, I should be the catch, she should be working for me, I had become AFC and put women on pedestals when they shouldn't be.
I now realize the way of my mistakes, the lack of confidence, I now understand the Don Juan philosophy - Any girl should be approachable for the simple fact that if you are rejected (And her interest level should never fall to that level) there is always, always, more girls that you can fall back on, and a Don Juan should rightfully use this to promote his sense of confidence.
Don Juan is not just a title, it's a mindset, it's a mindset that puts the focus on the individual, we should strive to improve upon ourselves, and all other pieces will fall into place. It's not just something that applies to romance, the true Don Juan strives to excel in all areas of life, and in doing so, he will no longer worry about the smaller/exterior aspects of his life.
So what are you doing sitting here and reading this? Get out there and focus on yourself, exercise, socialize, get a promotion or a better job, increase your self-value and while you work on yourself, your market value will increase!
That, is what it means to be a Don Juan.
I came to the forums multiple times wondering what the issue was - I thought I had done everything right, I had been a nice guy, a gentleman, and I still didn't understand why I couldn't win her. And then it clicked, after reading the advice on these forums, that I shouldn't have to win her.
No, I shouldn't be making all the effort to win her, because that makes me appear desperate and needy, instead, I should be the prize, I should be the catch, she should be working for me, I had become AFC and put women on pedestals when they shouldn't be.
I now realize the way of my mistakes, the lack of confidence, I now understand the Don Juan philosophy - Any girl should be approachable for the simple fact that if you are rejected (And her interest level should never fall to that level) there is always, always, more girls that you can fall back on, and a Don Juan should rightfully use this to promote his sense of confidence.
Don Juan is not just a title, it's a mindset, it's a mindset that puts the focus on the individual, we should strive to improve upon ourselves, and all other pieces will fall into place. It's not just something that applies to romance, the true Don Juan strives to excel in all areas of life, and in doing so, he will no longer worry about the smaller/exterior aspects of his life.
So what are you doing sitting here and reading this? Get out there and focus on yourself, exercise, socialize, get a promotion or a better job, increase your self-value and while you work on yourself, your market value will increase!
That, is what it means to be a Don Juan.