"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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A Successful Relationship is the Final Outcome of SS

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Sure, we need to know all the tactics, and the ins and outs of dating, and how not to be the HATED AFC, and how not to give an Attention Wh0re the time of day she so desperatley seeks.

But isnt an exclusive Relationship with a woman the final goal of So Suave? I mean, Gotdammn, I dont want to go on for the next 5-6 years constantly sarging, and finding myself in boring ass one night stands with women I dont care about. A TRUE relationship, built on MUTUAL Respect, compatibility, and Attraction is the final goal.

If there is no respect, the relationship wont last. She needs to know what you love in life, and support this with all her body, mind and soul, whether it's trips to Vegas, or puzzles. You need to respect her $hit as well, if her life revolves around her daughter, you had better be ready to step into at least a "semi-daddy" role. And you need to respect each other's dreams, desires, hopes and aspirations. She should never want to put you down, or ESPECIALLY be rude and hateful to you. And vice versa.

Compatibility. She loves Hawaii. You love Vegas. You make 2 trips, and enjoy the $hit out of both places because you are in each other's company, whether at the Clubs dancing, or at home watching DVDs, you want to be where she is and vice versa.

Attraction. She loves and wants you. Same as you do to her. Sex is awesome, and you never get enough of each other's bodies. You love the way she walks, and are tickled pink that other men want her, and she's with you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Thats is the final outcome...that is if you can find that type of girl, which is rare. Most American girls ive been out with are materialistic, spoiled, careless, golddigging, heartbreaking, pound of make up wearing, fake tits having, fake personality having, attention wh0res.

But ill be happy for you if you can find a girl that has genuine qualities, aspirations, goals, hobbies, and passion for life, and not a girl just looking to party and shake her as$ and tease all the AFCs at the clubs and let jerks beat up their pus$y till they hit 30 and realize that theyre breaking down and end up settling with an AFC doctor or lawyer to take care of them because they dont want to work...and the sad thing is...that AFC doctor or lawyer is happy with that used up pus$y.

...and dont try to tell me wrong, i see it all the time!
 

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I think this is a good post because it kind of ties into what I've been thinking about a lot lately.

My girlfriend went home to see her family this week, and my buds and I went to the local clubs last night to do a little boozin. There were so many hot girls there, but I didn't see them as anything more than a body and a face, not as someone I would actually want to sit down and get to know. I was single for a long time, but I feel like I've found a great match for me, and it's pretty fulfilling to spend time with her.
 

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Everyone wants something different. Some guys want help to get laid more. Some guys need help with inner game and confidence to build themselves in social settings. Some guys want tips on how to pick up women.

Look, getting a gf is probably the ultimate goal. But if you go around thinking every girl you approach is a potential gf then you're in for a lot of disappointment. To have that mindset is very AFC. DJs take things as they come. If he is happy with the girl he is dating he may want her to be his gf. If not then next (or uncommitted sex).
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ken785 said:
...and dont try to tell me wrong, i see it all the time!
Yes, you're right. BUT it just shows that you've been attracting the wrong types of girls is all. C'mon PUAism is all about being as attractive and compelling as possible to ALL women right? This means that even if you do manage to attract that HB9 all the guys were gawking over in the club, it doesnt necessarily mean that she was YOUR relationship type of girl. Maybe for someone else, but not for you.

BTW: This was a great post jack.
 

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Ken785 said:
Thats is the final outcome...that is if you can find that type of girl, which is rare. Most American girls ive been out with are materialistic, spoiled, careless, golddigging, heartbreaking, pound of make up wearing, fake tits having, fake personality having, attention wh0res.

But ill be happy for you if you can find a girl that has genuine qualities, aspirations, goals, hobbies, and passion for life, and not a girl just looking to party and shake her as$ and tease all the AFCs at the clubs and let jerks beat up their pus$y till they hit 30 and realize that theyre breaking down and end up settling with an AFC doctor or lawyer to take care of them because they dont want to work...and the sad thing is...that AFC doctor or lawyer is happy with that used up pus$y.

...and dont try to tell me wrong, i see it all the time!
Dating in the United States, in a handbasket!!!
 

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Not neccessarily. I get bored very quickly, so thats not what I want.

I want to be able to get the very best women into bed. Shallow? I don't really care. I'm happy enough in my own company and don't need a relationship.
 

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L777 said:
I want to be able to get the very best women into bed. Shallow? I don't really care. I'm happy enough in my own company and don't need a relationship.
Thats what most humans want and lots of money which is why LTRs and marriages dont work any more...
 

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i see where you re coming from and i honestly wish you the best of luck to find that special girl you re looking for.

However, i think that finding the perfect girl has also a lot to do with chance, not just DJ skills, or how you handle yourself during the relationship. the reason why i m not in a serious relationship right now is because i don't want to take that chance...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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drak_ool said:
i see where you re coming from and i honestly wish you the best of luck to find that special girl you re looking for.

However, i think that finding the perfect girl has also a lot to do with chance, not just DJ skills, or how you handle yourself during the relationship. the reason why i m not in a serious relationship right now is because i don't want to take that chance...
Relationships are hard enough as it is.

1. You can get caught up in working, your job, bills, car payments, rent, Health Insurance, ect. Not to even mention if you or her has kids.

2. You need to be able to deal with the "doldrums" of a relationship. Her with a cold, sick, no make up, sneezing and throwing up. Her when she is having a bad day, for whatever reason. The laundry piling up, a boring weeknight at home, watching TV, needing to take the cat to the Vet, ect, ect.

3. Now you need to nurture the relationship, by having fun with her, and keeping an active social life, regardless of Real Life. This can be important or you can both find yourselves bored with each other and the relationship.
 
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