A Situational Problem

[FlaStorm]

Thanks for reading my post. First let me tell you my situation. I am in a bartending class to get my certificate. The first day (yesterday) I saw an attractive girl around my age walking in with another gentleman. I didn't think anything of it because she was walking in with another gentleman. As the class started she parted ways from that man and sat next to me. We naturally started talking and I realized it was pure coincidence that she walked in with the other gentleman. I thought she was interested in me, I even asked her out to lunch (during our half hour break) for the next days class. She accepted and we went to lunch with no problem during the lunch. She happens to be a year or two older then me and she is single. Before we got back from our break I asked if she would like to see a movie later on, and she responded with maybe because she had a dog lesson and would most likely be tired but gave me her number to call. I called a little later then she told me to, as to not be too anxious, and she of course was too tired. I asked if she would like to do it another time maybe later this week and she seemed a little hesitant, stating some reasons that could be fallable or concrete. I do not know what to do, as the class is only a two week course and I do not have much time to gain more interest from her. She really intrigues me as a girl that I could see myself with or having fun with. Please let me know what I have done wrong and what I can do to gain interest from this lady. Thanks and have a nice day!

 

[MidnightResistance]

OK AFC boy, listen up!

1) PARAGRAPHS! Use them or no one reads your post
2) You were too desperate with this chick. She gave you her number. This is your cue to say "I'll call you when I get a moment." Then not call her until 2 days later.
3) You've blown it.
Be a man and walk away...go sit with some other people. Otherwise she may use this as an opportunity to turn you into one of her 'weak male' friends.

 

[green69]

Those 'excuses' she gave you are not legit at all. If she was into you, but happened to be REALLY REALLY tired...she would counter offer and set up another day to go out. And you proved it when you asked her if she wanted to see a movie another day, and she was all hesistant. She's trying to blow you off. Only thing you can do is move on.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Know the signs of rejection:

1. Hesitation
2. Saying she's busy a lot
3. No counter offer
4. Saying Maybe
5. Any other excuses besides Yes

How you should act upon this rejection depends on what level of a man you are.

 

[Black_Italian]

Man i got this girl who works like crazy im talking 12 hour shifts on fridays. I call her friday night and shes like im so tired i say lets go out. Shes like ok. So even if a girl is tired if shes into you it wont matter.

Also like the other guy said you get the number call 2 or 3 days later HAVENT YOU SEEN SWINGERS?

And what was that sh*t you said i only got 2 weeks its not enought to build intrest all you need to build intrest is 5 min. If you know what your doing in 5 min she will be ready to have your children.

This girl is a lost cause to you now move on.

You got alot to learn try reading Double Your Dating by David DaAngelo

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by FlaStorm
...asked her out to lunch...
...we went to lunch with no problem during the lunch...
...I asked if she would like to see a movie...
...she responded with maybe...
...called a little later...
...she of course was too tired...
...I asked if she would like to do it another time...
...seemed a little hesitant...

Sounds like there WAS a problem during that lunch...you just didn't notice it.

Sorry, man. Doesn't sound good. I'd keep looking.

 

[FlaStorm]

Ok thanks guys...

I guess she is a lost cause as you say. No sweat off my back right?

In my new profession I will get to try all of the DJ techniques. Should be interesting to see what works. Thanks again.

 

[Black_Italian]

Barmen get alot of roots.