"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I-am-someone

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I'll just start summing up my situation here...

I've recently moved out of my parents house into another house. There's one girl living in my house, which I rated a 6 physically when I first met her. Now, I've been hanging out with her every day for the last few weeks, and it's turned out we really connect.

We've got sh1tloads of the same interests... stories to tell... she's always interesting... has stuff to tell... we've actually gotten to the point where neither one of us can sit in a different positions, it's like when we're not mirroring eachother we don't feel well... when she coughs, I cough... when I cough, she coughs... we think alike... we eat together... etc etc.
I've met my fair share of women, I know I could get loads of 9's if I wanted to but for some reason I feel an actual mental connection to this girl, and I'm 90% sure she has the same feelings towards me.

The only problem is, she has a boyfriend, and they're both living together in my house. This guy has no idea whatsoever about women and doesn't really know how to play the game. But, I like the guy, and I think he considers me a friend. She and him have had something for 1.5 years, they've experienced sh1tloads of things togethers. One of the most important men in this girl's life told her he wanted to see them together for the rest of their life, a month before he died of cancer.

Now, I feel very attracted to this girl. However, I can't see myself be with her for a very long time. I would love to just have her for the summer or something like that, but I don't really want to commit for a much longer period of time.

This situation has left me feeling rather awkward. I want to move in and take her, but I feel guilty even thinking about it.
I once swore I would never break up any couple. That has been one of my fundamental rules throughout my entire life. Now I'm in a situation, where I'm pretty much being asked to.

To be honest, I don't think they've had sex once this entire week. She's been treating him like sh1t, like she doesn't even like him, while she's behaving more and more like I'm her boyfriend while she's still with her. He's behaving like a little baby, and feels frustrated that I seem to be better than him at almost everything I do. I've given him his fair share of chances to prove himself against me. He just doesn't even seem to be willing to try, he just sits back and waits, or complains about something totally random.


What I want to hear from you guys, is what you think I should do. Assume/realize that I could get every single girl I wanted to. Realize that this is a complicated situation in which everything I do has certain repercussions.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I've been there, it sux. I''d leave it be man. Youre' living there. Sex w/ this broad isn't worth it. If you fvcked her the grief you'd feel later far outweighs the nut you busted, I know.

Go out and bang another,that is the best way to forget a chick.
 

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Yes I agree... leave this alone. Its not worth the hastle. You have no escape except moving if it goes bad.
 

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i dont think shes ready for a relationship yet man
 

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My Definition of a MAN:
-A man is a person who takes what he wants when he wants.
-A man has no regrets
-A man doesn’t apologies for being who he is.
-A man is strong
-A man demands respect and is given respect
-A man does he wants and doesn’t need to ask for permission
-A man has his own opinion and does not change it for anyone
(No im not supporting Rape or Physical abuse of women this is all within reason)

If you are a man you will MAC this girl and if the opportunity arises you will fu*k her then you will choose whether or not you would like to carry on a relationship with her.

If you don’t fu*k her even when your 50 you will think back and say I wonder what would have happened if I did fu*k her.

Would my life have turned out different?

And that’s known as a regret. Regrets are awful feelings and you don’t want them in your life. So if you want her go for her. Her BFs feelings should not mean anything to you. He is unimportant the most important thing to you is you and what you want to do. If you want to f*ck his girl then do it.

That’s my advice.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I-am-someone

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Black, don't regurgitate.

If you don’t fu*k her even when your 50 you will think back and say I wonder what would have happened if I did fu*k her.
Sex is not everything. Taking whatever I want isn't always as easy as it may sound to you. Sometimes, taking what I want means also has downsides. I don't want to be 50 remembering I ****ed up a relationship without really having just cause for it either, now do I?

Now, I wrote this post yesterday night and saved it, posting it this night. Today, I think I should probably do it. I know it will open up a lot of ****. But hey, what kind of a man am I if I can't face up to it?
 

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My point is simply that you should take what you want because you are a man and it is what you were made to do.

Yes of course there is a downside there is an upside and downside to everything but the way I see it in this situation the positives outweigh the negatives.

You were also taking into consideration the feelings of her BF. His feelings shouldn’t matter to you because he is the enemy. If you spend your life worrying about other people you wil NEVER get the chance to live.

Also what did you mean by do not regurgitate?
 

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Ah whatever. I'm thinking too much about this. Let's just let it happen.

I mean you're regurgitating other people's opinions. Start forming your own opinions, it works better imo. This is meant as constructive criticism. I think 90% of the people visiting these boards have done that at one time or another. I'm just pointing out to you that regurgitating other people's opinions, methods or ideologies is not a good thing :).
 

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HaHaHa saying "no regrets" yeh I copied that of the Frank Sinatra song.

I was simply giving and example of how regrets can affect you in latter life. I made the example up. You should stop making assumptions if they are not backed up by fact. Everything I wrote there was off the top of my head and I did not think about anyone else’s writings when I wrote it.

So you criticism is not constructive it’s unfounded.

Yes my opinion was shaped by many of the writers on this site and by others but in no way did I directly use there opinions in forming my post. So I would not consider that “regurgitating”.
 

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Originally posted by Don Rockstar
a man is no a slave to his deisires
keep it in your pants
dont break your own morals
find another....

DONT GET INVOLVED
...I'm warning you,

much love, rock star
If you make a choice to go for her you are not being a slave to your desires you are making and informed decision.

Morals are a whole other subject, if you have a problem breaking up a happy couple then don’t do it. If the couple is not happy I don’t see the problem.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Women will always trade up to the better man, and clearly you are displaying more value than the other guy... but step back and think about your target... your target is a 6... A friggin 6!!!

I personally would not regret any lost opportunities on a 6, nor would I develop any desires for a 6 to be a slave of.

I think its just oneitis coming into play... Your admission that it doesn't seem long term shows that you are only going after the closest perceived SURE THING on your otherwise empty radar screen...
 

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Leave it alone.

BRO'S BEFORE HO'S!

I don't understand why I haven't read that phrase even once since I've come back to the forums...
 

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He never said the guy was his "bro". You never fu*k your friends girl thats a given.
 

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Originally posted by I-am-someone
I'll just start summing up my situation here...

I've recently moved out of my parents house into another house. There's one girl living in my house, which I rated a 6 physically when I first met her. Now, I've been hanging out with her every day for the last few weeks, and it's turned out we really connect.

We've got sh1tloads of the same interests... stories to tell... she's always interesting... has stuff to tell... we've actually gotten to the point where neither one of us can sit in a different positions, it's like when we're not mirroring eachother we don't feel well... when she coughs, I cough... when I cough, she coughs... we think alike... we eat together... etc etc.
I've met my fair share of women, I know I could get loads of 9's if I wanted to but for some reason I feel an actual mental connection to this girl, and I'm 90% sure she has the same feelings towards me.

The only problem is, she has a boyfriend, and they're both living together in my house. This guy has no idea whatsoever about women and doesn't really know how to play the game. But, I like the guy, and I think he considers me a friend. She and him have had something for 1.5 years, they've experienced sh1tloads of things togethers. One of the most important men in this girl's life told her he wanted to see them together for the rest of their life, a month before he died of cancer.

Now, I feel very attracted to this girl. However, I can't see myself be with her for a very long time. I would love to just have her for the summer or something like that, but I don't really want to commit for a much longer period of time.

This situation has left me feeling rather awkward. I want to move in and take her, but I feel guilty even thinking about it.
I once swore I would never break up any couple. That has been one of my fundamental rules throughout my entire life. Now I'm in a situation, where I'm pretty much being asked to.

To be honest, I don't think they've had sex once this entire week. She's been treating him like sh1t, like she doesn't even like him, while she's behaving more and more like I'm her boyfriend while she's still with her. He's behaving like a little baby, and feels frustrated that I seem to be better than him at almost everything I do. I've given him his fair share of chances to prove himself against me. He just doesn't even seem to be willing to try, he just sits back and waits, or complains about something totally random.


What I want to hear from you guys, is what you think I should do. Assume/realize that I could get every single girl I wanted to. Realize that this is a complicated situation in which everything I do has certain repercussions.

Alright, I am answering your post without having read what anybody has said before.

If you only want her for the summer, then you are selfish piece of garbage, and I hope you drawn in a pool of semen.

With the greetings and compliment out of the way, what are you afraid of? If you connect that well, are you worried that she is not a "9"? Guy, how many times are you gonna find somebody who you connect with on different levels.

If you really wanted her, etc. then her male friend who died of cancer would probably preffer for her to be happy, even if it was without her current boyfriend.

But since you say you don't want her, then just let it go. Go find yourself a girl who is a "9" overall, including looks, and personality.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If you don’t fu*k her even when your 50 you will think back and say I wonder what would have happened if I did fu*k her.

If you go around f_ucking women who have a man you may not live to be 50.
 

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Originally posted by Black_Italian
He never said the guy was his "bro". You never fu*k your friends girl thats a given.
But he did say he liked the guy. That phrase has a broad understanding. If you like the guy, you don't go and try to ruin his life.
 

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Originally posted by Bible_Belt
If you don’t fu*k her even when your 50 you will think back and say I wonder what would have happened if I did fu*k her.

If you go around f_ucking women who have a man you may not live to be 50.
Austarlia isnt full of murderes with guns who kill you for saying Hi or sleeping with someones Gf. Plus not many people are willing to do anything to me anyway.

Originally posted by runnincircles
But he did say he liked the guy. That phrase has a broad understanding. If you like the guy, you don't go and try to ruin his life.
oh please man what did he say afterwards that the guy trys to beat him in everything he does and he fails so hes jelous. They are in competition an may the bettrr man win.
 

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Originally posted by Black_Italian
oh please man what did he say afterwards that the guy trys to beat him in everything he does and he fails so hes jelous. They are in competition an may the bettrr man win.
Seriously, he needs to just back away from this. Cmon, he lives with this guy. There's several things wrong there. How does he know what this other guy might do if he gets angry or jealous enough? It's not like he has to break into anything if he wanted to take some demented revenge on I-am-someone.

But anyways, it's not for us to decide. There's no point in us arguing, it's I-am-someone's decision.
 

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Im generally not afraid of anyone (im not talking myself up that’s how it is) so that why i say to fu*k her but if you afraid of retaliation then you should probably stay away.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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