"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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A situation brought up today by a dream

R1ch4rd

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before you ask dreams do means something haha, their your subconscious mind coming out.

Now a year ago there was this girl what my friends know. It was the day I was least expecting anything. Here is the stuff I posted in a question about a year ago.
"There is this girl I really like. I spent lastnight thinking about her every second, and I woke up in the morning not hungry with butterflies thinking about her.
The time I spent her was good, she hurt herself laughing with me she thought I was hilarious. She said she loved me and hugged my arm and started walking with me and talking though she does it too other friends.
She stared at me a bit, and sometimes she would look at me and just start laughing, also there was a joke my friend told everyone laughed aprt from her, she gave a short sharp one ha laugh kinda thing, then when I say something simple she laughs much harder.
Also when she was laughing she would sometimes lean towards me and try touch me if she was close, she also rubbed some vaseline on my hands she came out of nowhere and remembered my hands were sore from when I said earlier on so she put some on, she also said "you make my legs turn to jelly" I don't know if she was joking but she was looking right at me.
Shes quite a lound girl, not *****y exactly, but shes not shy at all, some say friendly and flirty."

Now the answers I got to that she really likes me, so I fell for it aswell. I brought her a valentines card with a joke what she liked, and my mate was a big mouth and told her I like her and she was like "aww"..

Then the next time we went out with her, I was shy because I liked her alot and out of no where she said "is there something you want to tell me" obviously now I tell her i like her etc etc. But I made a joke of it.
That was the last time I saw her, I text her after saying im sorry for what i said the other day I like you etc.... she never replied.

This all came up because I had a dream about her yesturday night and that I went out with her.
Now I just kinda want to see her go out with her, and I go all happy, warm soft lol when thinking about her.
And now im confident, skinnier, much more good looking person(matured, lost weight etc) and Im much better with girls lol.

I want to see her again, and wondering if that is what my dream was telling, if its good pursuing(it's going to be hard to even see her again, haven't seen her in ages(plus in the dream I had to run after a bus before I got to her lol)


I havent seen her in a Year, my mates normally talk to her, but havent done. She goes to a school down the road, and my mate has bumped into her sometimes, I have to do some investigating to see if they still see her.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Brighty

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Okay...? Go get her? I don't really know what you want us to say.

Dreams aren't some sort of prophecy - if they were, I would have fallen off a really big cliff and titty-fycked Jessica Alba by now (probably not in that order) - you're acting as if this is a sign from God himself that you should pursue her. All you should take away from this is that subconsciously you want that woman, and you want her bad. That's it.


Although I dunno, from the sound of it you were pretty blatantly in the friend zone, but then again it has been a year and you haven't talked to her. I'd say go for it but don't be deadset on the outcome, or else you'll turn her off completely.
 

R1ch4rd

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I will go get her.

The thing is I havent sen her in a year, nor has one of my mates, or this kid who lives near her and sees her going to school sometimes.

I remember in the dream some college being named, and the place it was is about an 45mins drive from where I live, It's in another part of london. Now I still got couple of other people to ask, but she might of moved.


Also today i saw a girl waht looke exactly like her waiting with a friend(i take it) outside my school, and she was looking at me, and i was looking at her. But I was with friends who she's been friends with in ages, so she would of came over.

Man this is quite strange lol
 

I'm in the Mood

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recurring oneitis
 

R1ch4rd

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Yeah it might of been a bit of oneitis before, but if I get same feelings a year down the line, not as dramatic, and not obsessed at all. Now I think it be fun to flirt with her and so if i can go out with her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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