"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A simple tip on how to not revert back to AFCness

Bilogomja

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We've all been there. We read some posts, get full of confidence from the knowledge we have learned, go out into the real world, apply the tips, and start picking up women one after the other. We later think to ourselves, "Wow, was that me who did that?" Your confidence levels go through the roof, women want to be with you, you start getting the numbers, going to parties, getting laid... and then the sh*t hits the fan.

BAM!!!!!!!!!!

Out of no where it feels as if you've suddenly hit a brick wall. The AFC you thought you've cleansed from your soul comes back to haunt you. Your relationships with women start falling apart, you start sitting in your room doing nothing, you start avoiding eye contact with women, when you talk to them stutter like a broken record, you feel insecure about your image and how others percieve you, and you place that beautiful delicious woman back on a pedistal.

What you need to realize: YOU'RE OVER ANALYZING THINGS WAYYYY TOO MUCH

This is the key to unlock that Don Juan you have hidden inside you. Think about it, everyone once was an AFC (Don Juan's are MADE from hard work, knowledge and experience, they're NOT BORN), so everyone, even the greatest of DJ's out there were once in your position, the one thing that sets them apart from you is that they don't spend all their time over analyzing their status with women. Instead these alphas go out and do their thing without a care in the world. They don't care if they get rejected because they know theres always another beautiful woman around (and plus if a chick doesn't show you any respect or gives you what you want, then shes probably not worth your time anyways). Hell, many DJs seduce women for the FUN of it.

This brings me to my point, STOP OVER ANALYZING THINGS TOO MUCH.

I'll compare this with a child memory everyone has: riding a bicycle. When you were first trying to ride you bike you'd constantly fall over, get scraped, run into trees, etc. (hence the AFC trying to become a Don Juan). Over time, after all the brusies, cuts, scrapes, pain, and perseverance pays off; you can finally RIDE THAT BIKE! (hence, the AFC finally being able to pick up women that he wants, anytime he wants it, and having the confidence to do so). From this moment on you can EASILY get on any bike and just ride it, whenever you want to, and YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE TO THINK ABOUT IT!!! This is the it right here. When you start picking up women, realize that you were once an AFC (like everyone, aka the kid who cannot yet figure out how to ride a bike), but now after practice, knowledge, and experience, you are what it is to be called the DON JUAN, and you will never have to revert back to an AFC (ex. once you've figured out how to ride a bike, you can't really UNLEARN it, your forever able to ride that bike whenever you want to; its not like one day you'll be able to easily ride that bike, and the next day you wont be able to pedal 5 feet straight, NO. It's easy, you can pedal forever, because it's learned, and NO ONE can take that away from you (unless they take your bike away :p, but even in that case you'll still know how to ride bikes so you'll easily able to ride even your friends' without the slightest bit of difficulty)).

So there it is just realize that hey you were once an AFC, but hey face it now your a Don Juan and all the sh*t you learned is forever learned, you can't unlearn it.

If you're still having trouble, just realize picking up, dating, and f***ing women is like riding a bike; once you learn how to do it, you forever have that skill, it can't be taken away from you.
Dont think about how to do it, if you've all ready done it before with ease (hell, who gets on a bike, after they've been able to ride it for a while, and says, "Hmm, how do I do this again?"). S***, if you see a girl you want just go up to her and do your thing, DON'T OVERANALYZE IT, and think negative thoughts, after since you've done it before you shouldn't have to think about it, it should just be an EASY NATURAL REACTION. But if you do start worrying, just preoccupy yourself with something else (listen to some of your favorite music, jam on a musical instrument, work out, etc.) because if you do start worrying/thinking about it/OVERANALYZE things this will just lead to insecurity, doubt, depression, and less than Don-Juan-like traits.

Hoped this helped.
 

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