"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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A simple observation about women.....

bmp2cpm

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You know the early phases, where things are good and a woman wants know all about you and spend as much time with you as possible?

Well.....why exactly do you think that is?

In my younger days I would answer something stupid like "It's because it's the beginnings of love and she cares about me so deeply. This is great!"

I'm about to turn 46 and I realize the real answer to the question is "It's because she has identified me as a great source of resources, which she can use for her benefit and if she monopolizes my time, it ensures I won't have time to even talk to another woman. At that stage of "love" she's more concerned about the competition than me. It's a strategy by women to block other women from getting anywhere near me."

And then I wonder if the woman I'm starting to get close to is blocking me from hooking up with even better women?

Is there a female "blocking term" for when women block other women, I wonder? If not, maybe there should be?

What do you think, am I on to something here? Or I am just getting senile in my old age?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The term is "coock blocking" and you're damn right you woman is doing that to you.
 

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Couldn't agree with the above posters more. Everything a woman does in a relationship, especially the nice things early on, are done for selfish reasons. They're meant for her to secure her own future and stream of resources. Early in the relationship she will expect and indirectly demand things from you, such as your attention, time, and forgiveness for her "moods".. things that when later on when times get tough, she will not reciprocate by giving back to you.

A woman does not care about your feelings, needs, or about how much you love her. She only cares about her feelings, needs, and how much she loves you.
Essentially this.

The key to not becoming another fool is to control your mind.

Think rationally. You'll lose as soon as you think she really "cares" about you.

As Brad said, she'll be the quickest to flip when things get tough.

You need to maintain your frame and establish yourself as the one who exerts control.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Always be willing to leave and never bluff. You may end up in a dry spell but you shouldn't fear this.

Fear is why men become passive doormats in relationships.
 

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Women do this to get in your resources and wallet, not your pants or because of love. Love does not exist.

Men win when there's sex.
Women win when they get attention, men's resources, validation, and their ego inflated.

Women will chameleon themselves for a source of riches. If I was a millionaire, I'd never get committed, and I'll be damn if I get married.

If a woman starts to get close, start analyzing why. I'm cautious of any new woman who comes near me. Many are gold diggers. It's never about love. It's selfish hypergamous reasons like kokblocking.

Case closed.
 
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