Hi,
I am 20 and over this past summer met an amazing girl. I met her on vacation and we spent some time together. After we came back to the states, I took her on 3-4 dates and we had a blast, everything was good, we had strong feelings for each other. We texted/called each other pretty much every day. The day I left really sucked, I am in norcal and she is in LA. It has been about 4 months since I have known her and about 2 weeks ago I told her how I felt. She naturally as a freshman told me that "she didnt know how she felt and needed some time". We didnt talk for three days and I finally called her... casual talk for the next couple of days, she didnt bring anything up.
Finally on her birthday (damn i messed up here) I called her and basically said that I felt like I was putting in more that she was and I just wanted to know how she felt. She said that she didnt know but enjoyed my company a lot. I told her basically that the best thing we can do is just be friends right now, as hard as it is. I felt i was getting too attached. And someone would get hurt very soon.
Anyways, we dont really talk for a couple of days. And she sends me pictures of us on one of my visits down to see her ... saying she misses talking to me. I call her the next day thanking her for the pictures and asked her how she was doing, we talked for about 10 minutes. She seemed kinda down, I suspect from this whole thing... Then today I sent her this:
"Hey Jen,
Again thanks for the pictures, they look really nice / funny. Heh good
memories. Hmm... it was good talking to you today, it felt like we hadn't
talked in months. I was a little bummed hearing that your weekend went
****ty, but yeah if theres anything I can do (like let you beat me up) or
something dont hesitate to let me know. I wanna know how your doing and
how your adjusting to UCLA so imma bother you once in a while (;
I guess I have been thinking about it and I guess it does nothing to
apologize but I realize how much drama/**** I put you through these couple
of weeks (especially on your bday). I remember back on my first year and I
wouldn't have been able to deal with it. I was being immature about a lot
of stuff between us and put you through things that you didnt need to be
dealing with in the position you are in. I guess I just want you to know
and thats it, and never hesitate if you need me... Ill be a phone call
away.
Hope everything in your life is going well and ur keeping that cute butt
in shape hehe."
She hasnt responded but it has only been 5 hours.
I guess what I am asking is does this sound like I am breaking it off forever kinda thing?
Was this a bad move considering she just sent me those pictures saying that she missed talking to me?
What can I do now? I would want something with her but know in my heart that the best decision as of now might be just friends.
How do I approach this?
I am 20 and over this past summer met an amazing girl. I met her on vacation and we spent some time together. After we came back to the states, I took her on 3-4 dates and we had a blast, everything was good, we had strong feelings for each other. We texted/called each other pretty much every day. The day I left really sucked, I am in norcal and she is in LA. It has been about 4 months since I have known her and about 2 weeks ago I told her how I felt. She naturally as a freshman told me that "she didnt know how she felt and needed some time". We didnt talk for three days and I finally called her... casual talk for the next couple of days, she didnt bring anything up.
Finally on her birthday (damn i messed up here) I called her and basically said that I felt like I was putting in more that she was and I just wanted to know how she felt. She said that she didnt know but enjoyed my company a lot. I told her basically that the best thing we can do is just be friends right now, as hard as it is. I felt i was getting too attached. And someone would get hurt very soon.
Anyways, we dont really talk for a couple of days. And she sends me pictures of us on one of my visits down to see her ... saying she misses talking to me. I call her the next day thanking her for the pictures and asked her how she was doing, we talked for about 10 minutes. She seemed kinda down, I suspect from this whole thing... Then today I sent her this:
"Hey Jen,
Again thanks for the pictures, they look really nice / funny. Heh good
memories. Hmm... it was good talking to you today, it felt like we hadn't
talked in months. I was a little bummed hearing that your weekend went
****ty, but yeah if theres anything I can do (like let you beat me up) or
something dont hesitate to let me know. I wanna know how your doing and
how your adjusting to UCLA so imma bother you once in a while (;
I guess I have been thinking about it and I guess it does nothing to
apologize but I realize how much drama/**** I put you through these couple
of weeks (especially on your bday). I remember back on my first year and I
wouldn't have been able to deal with it. I was being immature about a lot
of stuff between us and put you through things that you didnt need to be
dealing with in the position you are in. I guess I just want you to know
and thats it, and never hesitate if you need me... Ill be a phone call
away.
Hope everything in your life is going well and ur keeping that cute butt
in shape hehe."
She hasnt responded but it has only been 5 hours.
I guess what I am asking is does this sound like I am breaking it off forever kinda thing?
Was this a bad move considering she just sent me those pictures saying that she missed talking to me?
What can I do now? I would want something with her but know in my heart that the best decision as of now might be just friends.
How do I approach this?