Duracell_Bunny
Senior Don Juan
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
A run in with the ex after NC
- Thread starter Duracell_Bunny
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
wow whatever u do dont call her tommorow!!!!!!!!!!
what is there to sort out? what i see happening is you calling and this is her signal to turn ur ass into kebabs.... she will be like u dont even trust me blah blah and flip the whole script on ur ass and leave u with no poosy and no dignity
if anything the only reason u should contact her is for a booty call and not just to be friends wtf
what is there to sort out? what i see happening is you calling and this is her signal to turn ur ass into kebabs.... she will be like u dont even trust me blah blah and flip the whole script on ur ass and leave u with no poosy and no dignity
if anything the only reason u should contact her is for a booty call and not just to be friends wtf
cavedweller
Don Juan
I agree..The relationship is over..Forget about her and find another...Just use her as a booty call.
cavedweller
cavedweller
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Duracell.
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Do you know why nothing happened last night between you and her???
Because she KNOWS now that she can just fvck with your mind and get away with it. When she went to your place, her intention NEVER was to do anything.
You erased a WHOLE MONTH OF PROGRESS in just a few hours.
You going NC meant absolutely nothing now because quite simply, you validated her by giving her a hug, allowing her in...
Why were you drunk? You KNOW you had to keep yourself in check.
Buddy, I don't know what to say to you anymore to get the point across. An HB-4 has you hooked in FOR GOOD. No more advice can save you, no one else can ever possibly open up your eyes. I'm sorry DB, but as soon as you pick up that phone and call her, you are digging a MUCH deeper hole.
What else do you need to realize she isn't that great after all???
SHE CHEATED ON YOU.
That's the lowest form of disrespect ever and you know what you just did last night.... you told her:
IT'S OKAY TO CHEAT ON ME. BUT PLEASE, STAY WITH ME.
Yes, my friend, you are a self-sabotager. I'm sorry to say it, but you seem to just want to feed off the drama of the whole thing. You KNOW she's bad for you, and STILL you want to insist. You already heard from the community and what we thought of the situation and we were RIGHT, and now you just go ahead and stab us all in the back with this crap?
I'm sorry, but I can't say that I'm not severely disappointed. I thought you were turning around for the better, but it just feels like a slap in the face. Were we wasting our time? Because you clearly are.
SHE IS NO GOOD FOR YOU.
At this point, I'd tell you to even avoid your local pub, I don't care if it's across the street.
But to be honest, I know you won't. I know you'll continue to do whatever you want until she's left nothing but just an empty shell, an echo of a former DB, a shadow in the light of what was once a man and now is just a puddle of broken emotions.
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DO NOT CALL HER.
Do you know why nothing happened last night between you and her???
Because she KNOWS now that she can just fvck with your mind and get away with it. When she went to your place, her intention NEVER was to do anything.
You erased a WHOLE MONTH OF PROGRESS in just a few hours.
You going NC meant absolutely nothing now because quite simply, you validated her by giving her a hug, allowing her in...
Why were you drunk? You KNOW you had to keep yourself in check.
Buddy, I don't know what to say to you anymore to get the point across. An HB-4 has you hooked in FOR GOOD. No more advice can save you, no one else can ever possibly open up your eyes. I'm sorry DB, but as soon as you pick up that phone and call her, you are digging a MUCH deeper hole.
What else do you need to realize she isn't that great after all???
SHE CHEATED ON YOU.
That's the lowest form of disrespect ever and you know what you just did last night.... you told her:
IT'S OKAY TO CHEAT ON ME. BUT PLEASE, STAY WITH ME.
Yes, my friend, you are a self-sabotager. I'm sorry to say it, but you seem to just want to feed off the drama of the whole thing. You KNOW she's bad for you, and STILL you want to insist. You already heard from the community and what we thought of the situation and we were RIGHT, and now you just go ahead and stab us all in the back with this crap?
I'm sorry, but I can't say that I'm not severely disappointed. I thought you were turning around for the better, but it just feels like a slap in the face. Were we wasting our time? Because you clearly are.
SHE IS NO GOOD FOR YOU.
At this point, I'd tell you to even avoid your local pub, I don't care if it's across the street.
But to be honest, I know you won't. I know you'll continue to do whatever you want until she's left nothing but just an empty shell, an echo of a former DB, a shadow in the light of what was once a man and now is just a puddle of broken emotions.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
teacha
Senior Don Juan
What Kailex said is spot on.
It was her gameplan from the beggining to leave you wanting for more and now if you call her she'll know she got you wrapped around her little finger. It wouldn't even suprise me if she left your place and went to another dude's house (if you know what i mean
) .....women get off on this kind of shit.
haha like a lamb to the slaughter..............
MORAL OF THE STORY: ALWAYS HAVE OPTIONS!!!!!!
It was her gameplan from the beggining to leave you wanting for more and now if you call her she'll know she got you wrapped around her little finger. It wouldn't even suprise me if she left your place and went to another dude's house (if you know what i mean
) .....women get off on this kind of shit.haha like a lamb to the slaughter..............
MORAL OF THE STORY: ALWAYS HAVE OPTIONS!!!!!!
CuriousGirl
Senior Don Juan
If she wanted you back she could've had you, you made it fairly obvious I think. She knows it, but doesn't want you. By all means if you want to find out ring her and see but if she was to reject the idea of getting back together, which I think she may, then you really do need to stick to no contact. You should not have let that happen, with her going into your house. you can't be friends until you're over her, and you're not over her. This no ccontact stuff, irrelevant of the PUA stuff, is for your own good for getting over her.
Although I find it weird she'd talk about missing the intimacy and stuff with you, and also follow you into the bar. I suppose there is the possibility that she didn't want to sleep with you because she didn't want it to turn into a **** buddy scenario, but to be honest I think it's the former, that she just wants to be friends now (which you can't be yet, you really shouldn't). Or she might bbe one of those "I don't want you but I still want you to want me/don't want anyone else to have you" types.
Although I find it weird she'd talk about missing the intimacy and stuff with you, and also follow you into the bar. I suppose there is the possibility that she didn't want to sleep with you because she didn't want it to turn into a **** buddy scenario, but to be honest I think it's the former, that she just wants to be friends now (which you can't be yet, you really shouldn't). Or she might bbe one of those "I don't want you but I still want you to want me/don't want anyone else to have you" types.
Yea, like, one of those girl types?CuriousGirl said:"I don't want you but I still want you to want me/don't want anyone else to have you" types.
She was making sure you were missing her and getting some quick hit validation. You fell for it but i dont blame you, its hard to get dumped.
Rejection causes a crazy rush of emotion in people. She felt rejected that you seemed to be over her and she wanted some reaction out of you. She rejects you by dangling affection and then running away and it leaves you feeling like crap.
Dont get fooled, you dont love her. You are going crazy in the head and being mind****ed by emotions. Best solution is a new girlfriend, you suddenly stop caring.
Duracell_Bunny
Senior Don Juan
I dunno why I wrote some of that, I guess it was major depression yesterday. It's been a **** weekend and none of my mates were available, meaning I had to spend a Saturday night alone.
Don't worry I won't be calling her, I get the hint she don't give a **** about me, apart from that weekend after we split up and that crappy text where she claimed not to have cheated, she has made no effort to contact. For some stupid reason I thought I may have got something out of her. Maybe she does want to be **** buddies, shes crazy about sex, but I woudn't know how to go about that and have clearly blown that out, I can't cvm anyway.
I am activly looking for a new girl. The issue is I want that girl or some plates NOW!
Maybe I should give the whole DJing a break for a couple of weeks. I keep looking for validation in myself but only find rejection. Right now I have no numbers to work with and not one female freind that I can just call up or meet allowing me to practice these random banter/small talk skills I appear to be heavily lacking.
The ex isn't as bad in the looks deptartment as people make out on here, she looks like a 10 from behind or from a fair distance, everything is absolultly stuinning just she has a er... not so much of a pretty face. Its weird as I find her attractive from looking so unique to other women.
I find all other women boring, yeah there proberbly are some ladies of high quality out there somewhere but its that deep report I'm looking for.
So what if I dated a HB8, she clearly made a mistake. I'm after that deep connection with a constant upbeat, random bubbley girl. I'm very open in the looks department (within limits), just as long as they are not overweight and do the best they possibly can with there apperance. Surely thats not too much to ask for?
Don't get me wrong. I hope I don't have oneits, if anything it drives me to find a replacement as I know exacly what I want in a women. But when I'm out there it just feels like pushing a too heavy weight on the bench press. I just can't accept the fact that she doens't want me back, I hear people breaking up and getting back together, having a quick fvck every now and again all the time. I get none of this which makes me ponder over myself.
Don't worry I won't be calling her, I get the hint she don't give a **** about me, apart from that weekend after we split up and that crappy text where she claimed not to have cheated, she has made no effort to contact. For some stupid reason I thought I may have got something out of her. Maybe she does want to be **** buddies, shes crazy about sex, but I woudn't know how to go about that and have clearly blown that out, I can't cvm anyway.
I am activly looking for a new girl. The issue is I want that girl or some plates NOW!
Maybe I should give the whole DJing a break for a couple of weeks. I keep looking for validation in myself but only find rejection. Right now I have no numbers to work with and not one female freind that I can just call up or meet allowing me to practice these random banter/small talk skills I appear to be heavily lacking.
The ex isn't as bad in the looks deptartment as people make out on here, she looks like a 10 from behind or from a fair distance, everything is absolultly stuinning just she has a er... not so much of a pretty face. Its weird as I find her attractive from looking so unique to other women.
I find all other women boring, yeah there proberbly are some ladies of high quality out there somewhere but its that deep report I'm looking for.
So what if I dated a HB8, she clearly made a mistake. I'm after that deep connection with a constant upbeat, random bubbley girl. I'm very open in the looks department (within limits), just as long as they are not overweight and do the best they possibly can with there apperance. Surely thats not too much to ask for?
Don't get me wrong. I hope I don't have oneits, if anything it drives me to find a replacement as I know exacly what I want in a women. But when I'm out there it just feels like pushing a too heavy weight on the bench press. I just can't accept the fact that she doens't want me back, I hear people breaking up and getting back together, having a quick fvck every now and again all the time. I get none of this which makes me ponder over myself.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.