A rule Im going to follow from now on to force myself to approach.

[Cure]

A couple of days ago I came to the realisation that-

A. I need to get my sh1t together and start getting out of my comfort zone with women.
B I need to stop wasting my life of the internet.

To this end, I placed sosuave.com, youtube.com and facebook.com, my three most used websites, in a special folder in my bookmarks.

I vowed that each time I wanted to click on any of those links, I had to match it by making an approach which ended with either a rejection, or an acceptance of some kind.

Thus from now on, I will have to approach women if I want to waste time on the internet.
Today I earned one click, getting a conversation and email close with a chick in the gym, and I used that one click to log on to sosuave, still no youtube or facebook! It was the first close Ive attempted in several weeks.

I wont be back on this site or the others untill Ive hit on at least one more woman.

So, if you are a keyboard jockey, or generally unsucessfull, or just like me you want to approach more and spend less time on the web, join me in my plan-

Open a bookmarks folder right now, put 1-5 of your most visited sites, including this one, in it.
As of logging off, dont click through to those sites again unless you've earn it by hitting on a woman.

Im sure Im not the only person on this site who needs to spend less time in the virtual world and more time in the real world.

Cure.

 

[CaptainJ]

Hah that's a good goal, I like it. Good luck soldier!

 

[Plinco]

A couple of days ago I came to the realisation that-

A. I need to get my sh1t together and start getting out of my comfort zone with women.
B I need to stop wasting my life of the internet.

To this end, I placed sosuave.com, youtube.com and facebook.com, my three most used websites, in a special folder in my bookmarks.

I vowed that each time I wanted to click on any of those links, I had to match it by making an approach which ended with either a rejection, or an acceptance of some kind.

Thus from now on, I will have to approach women if I want to waste time on the internet.
Today I earned one click, getting a conversation and email close with a chick in the gym, and I used that one click to log on to sosuave, still no youtube or facebook! It was the first close Ive attempted in several weeks.

I wont be back on this site or the others untill Ive hit on at least one more woman.

So, if you are a keyboard jockey, or generally unsucessfull, or just like me you want to approach more and spend less time on the web, join me in my plan-

Open a bookmarks folder right now, put 1-5 of your most visited sites, including this one, in it.
As of logging off, dont click through to those sites again unless you've earn it by hitting on a woman.

Im sure Im not the only person on this site who needs to spend less time in the virtual world and more time in the real world.

Cure.

This is exactly what I need to do.

 

[Strategos]

Hey whats up Cure,
I'm going to try my best to keep this short, but my best advice for you is just to 1) Work on socializing more 2) Become outcome independent
I will go into detail about those in a bit, but the way I see the Mystery Method books, Lovesystems books and any other youtube and or material that you read or study up on is that they are all just TOOLS! You use those tools and melt them into your personality. For example, I am a funny guy, and I am overly ****y as hell with much confidence. Most of my openers are just flat out, HILARIOUS! I once opened up a girl successfully with "Well if it isn't the ho who tried to **** my friend earlier." And ended up makin out with her later and almost taking her home that night if not ****ing her later, but I didn't =( Epic fail! lol....Well anyways, I'm getting off topic, ALL THESE MATERIALS ARE BASICALLY TOOLS that will give you the competence to over come any anxieties and you will start to get more and more comfortable and experienced with just dealing with not just women, but people in general.
Let me get into detail about what may help you with just dealing and being more comfy with women my friend. O...and the reason why I am giving you advice is because I use to be the HELLA shy nerd that was AFRAID and FROZE near women, but I still am a nerd =D lol
1) Socialization. Everytime I go out, I talk to EVERYONE when I get a chance. Whether it's the cashier at the store or some beautiful girl I see in the street. I find myself complementing people's clothes, men and or women. Necklace, shirt, what ever. I always have a good positive vibe when talking to people and I always make people laugh and enjoy my company. Now what I want you to do is everytime you step foot outside your house, go into that POSITIVE vibe and start talking to people. Say hi to people and complement them on their piece of clothing. You want people to feel good around you!
2) BIGGEST PROBLEM i had with your article is that you think to much about this. Outcome independence is very important. That basically means, you don't care about the outcome of any situation when you deal with women. And ALWAYS think of it as a WIN/WIN situation. Even if you don't get the desired outcome, you win anyways because now you have experienced one more thing that will make you better next time around! You should never think of talking to women as hitting on them, think of it as an interaction with another human being. You are just saying hi to her and she should feel lucky to even be talking to such a great guy like yourself =) O...by the way email closes must be something from David Deangelo....I never do that, I suggest the same to you brotha. I alway use stealth number closes, never or rarely do I ever ask directly for the number. I would always say something in the lines of, "How am I going to know you are getting home ok tonight?" She replies...."Well, I want to know if you made it home safe, so shoot me up a text later so I know you made it home safe tonight." Something like that. ****...I'm getting off topice again...well yea...be OUTCOME INDEPENDENT because you are a HIGH VALUE GUY, SMART, THE MAN and you are on the top. NEVER PUT A WOMEN ABOVE YOU! She has to validate herself to you and get your approval! She needs you, not u need her! And don't let her beauty phase you because that is the ONLY TOOL she has, and it is up to you as the man to figure out whether she has just good looks or a good personality with the looks as well.
Well anyways man, I hope you learned a thing or two from my response. Just get use to talking to women. As you will see, more and more women will be more and more comfortable to talk to you and next thing you know it, you will have a trail of women around you dying to buy your time!! =) OO, and one more thing, STOP BLAMING the internet brotha, don't go cold turkey on it, just don't be on it 24/7...ahaha. Good luck to ya man, and as always, take care of yourself.

 

[x86]

I would always say something in the lines of, "How am I going to know you are getting home ok tonight?" She replies...."Well, I want to know if you made it home safe, so shoot me up a text later so I know you made it home safe tonight." Something like that.

I wanted to high light this because it is totally in line with my humor.

 

[alexanderson2222]

Well if everyone will follow this than how we will be able to contact more and more people.

Think about it once again.

 

[Demonicale]

It sounds like a great idea, hmmm ... maybe i could modify this alittle ... i will have a think ... but i honestly LOVE the idea.Good work man!

 

[Cure]

well Im back again, after what seems like FOREVER of not using my most used internet sites.
Its weird, I went on facebook and was bored after 5 minutes.. I dont think Ill go on it as much as I used to (like 3 times a day).

Technically, I havn't earned any points in the way I planned to. But last night I got a make out and a number off a friend off a friend. Which did involve going out of my comfort zone and taking a risk, so Im rewarding myself with some sosauve

Being less internet this last week has be absolutly BRILLIANT.

I've wasted a lot less time and being more productive in all areas of life.

Ive also realised the extent of my issues with women, and the extent to which I was using sosuave as a "crutch" of sorts to lean on. I was coming on here instead of taking real life steps to improve myself.
The other day I went out and practiced stopping women and asking random stuff. Im going to keep going out and ramp it up untill Im doing direct street game, which I what I want to get handled.
Andy Yosha of PUA training did a great PDF on direct street game so Im using that as my end goal.

I am adding the following sites to my "banned" list-
London seduction society (included under sosuave)
Last.fm (included under youtube)
because Ive been using these sites to get round my restrictions, which defeats the object.

Ive also met up with a guy from the LSS who I can wing with, which will be awesome.
Overall so far this "tip" as applied to my life is helping enormously.

thanks for the feed back,
@ Stratego's, thanks a lot mate, you are totally right, I do already talk to a lot of people and am qutie socially, but need to keep up the practice and talk to more women in more situations. I needed to go cold turkey on the internet, or at least certain sites, it was nessecary to get me motivated!

If anyone else is trying somthing similar I look forward to hearing your results, but only after you've made a few approaches!

Cure.

 

[Strategos]

lol

I wanted to high light this because it is totally in line with my humor.

Isn't that totally awesome? It works well in night clubs and loud ass bars but I don't recommend it during the day for numerous reasons...lol

 

[Strategos]

thanks for the feed back,
@ Stratego's, thanks a lot mate, you are totally right, I do already talk to a lot of people and am qutie socially, but need to keep up the practice and talk to more women in more situations. I needed to go cold turkey on the internet, or at least certain sites, it was nessecary to get me motivated!

If anyone else is trying somthing similar I look forward to hearing your results, but only after you've made a few approaches!

Cure.

You make a good point Cure. Part of approaching is knowing what environment you are in. You wouldn't approach a women the same way in the club as you would if she was in your class. Anyways, how has my advice worked for ya? Do you see any improvements in your social skills with people in general?
It seems to me you are still having a problem with approaching. Hmmm....what exactly is the issue my friend?
I could give u a classic example of an opener I used that I wasn't really thinkin of, I made fun of a 2 set walking away from me, I said, "Damn, you almost killed me with your backpack" (In a jokingly way) *A little inside joke, I was at my college and a girl almost knocked me over with her backpack* Perfect, I opened and her friend said, "You are really cute, *She blushes* I'm sorry, I had to say that"
You see how that little remark lead to one thing or another just because my little smart a** comment. lol. I call those "Jackie Chan Openers" Using the environment, experiences around the area and or situations that just occurred between or around your female "target". lol. Let me know if that helps, and as always, keep me posted! I wanna see how ya do ^_^

 

[Exhumed]

Awesome thread, I'm going to start following this plan right now.

My inner game is good enough, and I'm attractive and confident enough, it's just a matter of practicing my game a little bit. And I'm improving myself immensely in every area of my life. I probably spend a total of 45 minutes a day on my top 3 websites, so locking them away in a special folder will only help me to be even more productive and successful.

Although I game girls often enough that I wouldn't call myself a "keyboard jockey", this is a perfect idea for me and any "keyboard jockeys" who understand the game well enough but could stand to approach a bit more often and spend less time on the internet.

 

[Cure]

glad you like the idea Exhumed, it seemed sensible to me and I thought it might help out others in the same situation. let us know how it works out for you!

Strategos, I know how to open, what to say, I can flirt, hold conversatios, number close, and Im a pretty socialble outgoing guy, the problem I have, and its a very specific one. Is that when I see a girl I think is hot, there is a wall between me and appraoching her. Its in my head but its there, and what I need to do is smash through that wall, over and over again, at the moment its like breaking through concrete, but with enough practice it will be like walking through paper.

I must admit Ive not been following my rule very well, mostly to do with depression brought about by wallowing in memories of a past relationship, messy stuff.
Im currently on about minus five points.. but never mind.
The pricipal is working.

Last night I earned another point. I was in a club, got chatting to a really hot girl, then she wandered off. I saw her go to leave and unlike me, I actually went over and asked her for her number etc etc.
She asked for mine. I told her it was fine and she could blow me off to my face, she said she liked me but she had a boyfriend, I wished her a good night.
Dont know what it was, I was just in a "zone" last night and it was awesome.
First time Ive been properly rejected as well, and it didnt hurt anything like as badly as I thought, in fact wasnt painfull at all, It was more akward for her if anything!

So.. to many more approaches and rejections.. I think im finally getting this stuff!

Cure.

 

[Strategos]

Like Asian Playboy would say, the best way to over come AA is through doing over 1000 approaches...ahaha. I sure as hell hope it won't take u that much to over come approach anxiety....Like I recommend, if u want to bust those walls down, just A) Look pass her looks, B) Tease her and play around with her. Works charm all the time. U don't want to make the interaction awkward, cuz if and when u do....it would be obvious...Don't let her looks scare u off my friend, and the wall will be like paper =)