"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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A REVOLUTIONARY NIGHT

LonerWithABoner

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Tonight I think I had a breakthrough.

I've been reading and thinking a lot about pickups, seduction, Don Juanism, etc. But I was always too chicken to make any approaches. I put a lot of pressure on myself, and I self-intimidated by overthinking. But tonight it was different.

Early on in the night, I say "Damn, I should have taken a pen." My friend says, "you're not gonna need it."

Ha. Ha. Ha.

We're at a junk store. I see this blonde, an 8, and I'm feeling good and positive tonight. For some reason, I don't know why, I just felt good. So I borrowed a pen from the cash register guy and I went up to this 8. I don't think too much about what I'm gonna say, and as a matter of fact it was a rather bland approach, and I could have built better rapport. It was blunt and to the point.

I tap her and say "Hey, what's your name?"

She smiles (a little nervously I must admit) and says "Jillian"

I take out the pen and she sees it.

"I think you're pretty cute and I'd like your number so we can hang out sometime."

She says "How old are you?"

"Nineteen" I lie.

"I'm 15."

"That's okay. Cuz I'm really 18."

She says "okay..." and proceeds to give me her number as I write it on my hand.

Now that I think of it, it's probably a fake number cuz she seemed a little nervous being approached. But after that, I cannot tell you the exhiliration I felt. What a rush...

Sorry for the long post, but it gets better...

I see a chick I see every now and then from my school. We talk for a few moments, then I go to get my coffee and as I'm coming back out i say...

"hey listen, it's cool to talk to you, and i'd like to call you some time. what's your number?"

She says "I have a boyfriend."

Still smiling, I nod and say, "I have a girlfriend. Number."

I still don't have paper, so I present to her my palm, little does she know another number is on the other side of my hand!!!!

Anyway she writes it down. I say goodbye and depart.

I asked for another number that night and got rejected, but I didn't give a Sh1T cuz by then I already had more prospects than the entire year before.

This is something akin to a spiritual awakening. A rebirth is taking place!!!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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indy

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Hey L with a B, good job in grabbing your nuts and just going for it! Isn't the rush you get from it just exhillarating?


Next up you can work on the technique so that you can build her comfort level/rapport and be more certain of getting the right numbers.

But I'm pretty sure that these chicks must've been impressed by your confidence and straight forwardness... you just need to smooth the edges a bit.

Dude, I like your handling of the boyfriend bit... it can be applied to so many other excuses too, I'm going to use this one from now on too.

Her: But I have blah blah blah
Me: What a coincidence, me too! Number? <smiling>

DJ on buddy!
 

Bonhomme

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Good show, man!

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From LWAB's post:

She says "I have a boyfriend."

Still smiling, I nod and say, "I have a girlfriend. Number."

THAT was worth repeating. Gotta remember it!
 

the graphics guy

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Excellent! Here's a variant.

HB: "But I'm engaged to be married in a year and two months!"
DJ: "Yeah, nice rock (pointing to her diamond ring). I've given out a few of them myself. Here's a pen." Started with e-mail addy.
 

Wizdom

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yo man thats great that you able to approach women now...
ya just gotta remember that no matter what you are the cream of the crop, the king, the man, and most importantly the DJ. Don't give off any less. Then what you say won't really matter cause your confidence allows it.

I'm just curious about the
Still smiling, I nod and say, "I have a girlfriend. Number."
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My problem is if you get to know this girl better will she remember you tellin her you have a girlfriend and take that as dishonast.
I guess I depends if she was tellin you the truth in the first place...
Oh well just something to think about.

 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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hannibal82

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LOL : I gotta say , I love the boyfriend response.....thats a definite winner of a statement, have to remember that.
 

BadBoy10605

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Haha yes that response was pretty good. I might just use that now instead of the "well i'm not interested in your boyfriend, i'm interested in you!" bit. Nice Work!
 

De La Soul

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Good job LWAB. Keep it up.
 
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