CuddleJunkie
Master Don Juan
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I followed Heartiste's advice and finally read Mystery's book. The routines are...kind of cringey, but the model is solid, and it has opened my eyes on a couple of topics AT LEAST. I will certainly re-read it in the future, a lot to dig out from it. I just felt like offering my experiences in two points that I didn't have clear in my mind, and that I understand better now.
Comfort:
It has happened to me many times, and I am sure it has happened to you too. You meet some girl while out, and you start soft-bullying her through push-pull, through physical game, or she just perceives you as high-status and flirting between both of you starts! ****, doesn't it feel so well to know you are attractive? The giggling, the hand on your chest, all that attention you get...you almost understand why women have orbiters! So you get lost on it, minutes pass by and you keep on busting her balls. A friend comes to take her: "we're leaving to x", and she's gone! "oh ****" you think. What just happened? Well, you didn't build any connection between the two of you, and so she really didn't have any reason to stay. Sure, she felt well, she was getting aroused and interested but...you just were another emotion on the night! Another notch in her attention belt if you will.
What to do:
We just have to be aware of the windows of oppotunities she opens up for us. When a woman feels attraction for you she will try to build rapport. She will ask you personal questions...and you should see this as the beginning of the comfort building phase. So cool down on your panty wetting skills and get to know the girl...and let her imagination run wild about your past through sharing cool stories.
Qualification:
Same initial situation as before, but this time this girl really interest you. There's no need to use the "me toos" a la @bradd80 (read his thread http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index....to-mastering-the-don-juan-way-of-life.197705/ if you haven't already). Comfort just happens naturally. But you are such a jerk that you don't let her KNOW that you like her on some level, you don't qualify her. And so, when you try to make some kind of close...she freaks out and backs off. Later in time you find out how she felt like a slut, or how she was afraid of you being a player and just wanting to add her to your sexual conquests. This has happened twice to me, and it really, really, really sucks.
What to do:
Not telling her that you think she's cool because she draws amazing paintings or whatever cool stuff she does is just being afraid of her rejecting you! Really, you are just afraid of it, it's not being cool. So when you are building comfort and she certainly gains some compliment on her behaviours, let her know. Don't go overboard of course, but let her feel that she's special.
So this is all my DonJuan brothers! May my mistakes serve you as learning!
Comfort:
It has happened to me many times, and I am sure it has happened to you too. You meet some girl while out, and you start soft-bullying her through push-pull, through physical game, or she just perceives you as high-status and flirting between both of you starts! ****, doesn't it feel so well to know you are attractive? The giggling, the hand on your chest, all that attention you get...you almost understand why women have orbiters! So you get lost on it, minutes pass by and you keep on busting her balls. A friend comes to take her: "we're leaving to x", and she's gone! "oh ****" you think. What just happened? Well, you didn't build any connection between the two of you, and so she really didn't have any reason to stay. Sure, she felt well, she was getting aroused and interested but...you just were another emotion on the night! Another notch in her attention belt if you will.
What to do:
We just have to be aware of the windows of oppotunities she opens up for us. When a woman feels attraction for you she will try to build rapport. She will ask you personal questions...and you should see this as the beginning of the comfort building phase. So cool down on your panty wetting skills and get to know the girl...and let her imagination run wild about your past through sharing cool stories.
Qualification:
Same initial situation as before, but this time this girl really interest you. There's no need to use the "me toos" a la @bradd80 (read his thread http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index....to-mastering-the-don-juan-way-of-life.197705/ if you haven't already). Comfort just happens naturally. But you are such a jerk that you don't let her KNOW that you like her on some level, you don't qualify her. And so, when you try to make some kind of close...she freaks out and backs off. Later in time you find out how she felt like a slut, or how she was afraid of you being a player and just wanting to add her to your sexual conquests. This has happened twice to me, and it really, really, really sucks.
What to do:
Not telling her that you think she's cool because she draws amazing paintings or whatever cool stuff she does is just being afraid of her rejecting you! Really, you are just afraid of it, it's not being cool. So when you are building comfort and she certainly gains some compliment on her behaviours, let her know. Don't go overboard of course, but let her feel that she's special.
So this is all my DonJuan brothers! May my mistakes serve you as learning!