A red pill principle that hasn’t been working

[youngprodigy]

ive gotten myself into a LTR lately and I’ve been applying all this red pill knowledge that I’ve learned. It helps me keep attraction at an all time high, and has made the relationship last as long as it has now.

I’ve talked to other girls here and there and slept with a few to keep my abundance mentality. At first this was helpful. Now, not so much.

I noticed that when I **** other girls there’s somewhat of an emotional distance been me and my girl the next time we’re together. She notices it too but can’t seem to put her finger on it yet.

I was thinking that maybe being exclusive is what I need to do to keep it going and spinning plates is just gonna make me lose out on something that has potential.

I’m thinking of still flirting with girls here and there and testing my options, but strictly keeping it physical only with my LTR.

Thoughts ?

 

[oldmanofthesea]

If you don't think that being exclusive will cause you to put her on a pedestal, be too needy, or make it more difficult to move on quickly if she dumps you, then I see no reason not to be exclusive.

It sounds like the distance is coming from you, right? Why do you think this is? And do you think your girlfriend noticing it is helping keep her interested in you, or causing her to withdraw? Does she know you are sleeping with other people? Have you had any exclusivity conversations with her?

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Operate under red pill awareness.

It's not phaghitree to like or love a woman. It's that if you hand her your balls.

Bottom line, if she's not in the mood, some other girl is. The sec she makes sex an ultimatum or exchange due to some Xfactor, it's threw.

Never lose the realization that new girls are turning 18 everyday. And I want to take this time to apologize to absolutely nobody.

Come @ me bro

 

[Dash Riprock]

ive gotten myself into a LTR lately and I’ve been applying all this red pill knowledge that I’ve learned. It helps me keep attraction at an all time high, and has made the relationship last as long as it has now.

I’ve talked to other girls here and there and slept with a few to keep my abundance mentality. At first this was helpful. Now, not so much.

I noticed that when I **** other girls there’s somewhat of an emotional distance been me and my girl the next time we’re together. She notices it too but can’t seem to put her finger on it yet.

I was thinking that maybe being exclusive is what I need to do to keep it going and spinning plates is just gonna make me lose out on something that has potential.

I’m thinking of still flirting with girls here and there and testing my options, but strictly keeping it physical only with my LTR.

Thoughts ?

If you're in a LTR, or a "committed" relationship, AND you're still sleeping/screwing with other women it's not an abundance mentality but a weak mindset on your part. What part of LTR or committed don't you get? Unless the LTR is "open" which can be a gray area and then your gf is also sleeping around--which you didn't state in your OP though.

Men, or more like "boys", that are in LTRs and cheat and sneak around like 16 year olds are weak-minded and beta and actually have a scarcity mentality in that they lack any sort of maturity to actually have a successful relationship. "Boys" like this cheat AND want their gf--because they're afraid of being alone - hardly an abundant DJ mindset. No s*hit there's distance after a fling when you're with your gf. I hope she finds out and dumps your sorry a*ss.

It boils down to integrity and character. Man vs Boy. What are you? So, either stay in the LTR and bang other women and be a douche or break up with her and f*uck all the other women you want.

Good luck.

~Dash

 

[BeExcellent]

@Dash Riprock I'd like your post 1000 times if that was allowed. OP is young. Perhaps he'll learn.

Alternatively he'll lose a girl over this behavior. And he'll never forget that loss because at some point he will realize he is doing it to himself.

 

[AJ84]

ive gotten myself into a LTR lately and I’ve been applying all this red pill knowledge that I’ve learned. It helps me keep attraction at an all time high, and has made the relationship last as long as it has now.

I’ve talked to other girls here and there and slept with a few to keep my abundance mentality. At first this was helpful. Now, not so much.

I noticed that when I **** other girls there’s somewhat of an emotional distance been me and my girl the next time we’re together. She notices it too but can’t seem to put her finger on it yet.

I was thinking that maybe being exclusive is what I need to do to keep it going and spinning plates is just gonna make me lose out on something that has potential.

I’m thinking of still flirting with girls here and there and testing my options, but strictly keeping it physical only with my LTR.

Thoughts ?

I'm not advocating what you're doing but I get that for some men (perhaps most) sex and emotional connection do not overlap.

But for many, if not most women, it does. So when you compartmentalize cheating remember that it only serves to justify cheating in your mind, not in hers.

In this way, you appear to be compartmentalizing cheating by applying some red pill tactic that may work in casual dating and plate spinning, but not in a LTR.

In a long term relationship the other person's feelings, desires, interests and needs have to be considered.


If you really like this girl, try being exclusive. If you really like this girl but can't keep your d**k out of other girls, let her go so another guy who isn't going to hurt her will be able to appreciate her and what she has to offer.

I think, in relationships, we should aim to leave people in the same or better state then when we found them. Just my opinion.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

When red-pill becomes a world-view.....