a red flag?what should i do mastes?!

[gherald]

i think i need help on these DJs...please say what you think..and please bear with me.

so i met this asian/italian woman 2 weeks ago while im on my way home from my university...

she's 4 years older than me...im 18 nd she's 22...(red flag 1 i guess)

i noticed that she and her friend are talking about me so, i approach her..they happened to be also from the same universty that im attending to..


We get along well and i invited her to jam with my band sometime and she agreed. We really get along well...use c+f and ive delivered it real good cause it works wonders.ive really seen a great amount of interest in her.

Shes always lookin for me in the universty and tells me occasionally that i look really good...we go out often.she always text me on how much fun she had after we go out.

she gave me a necklace that she said,her cousin give it to her as a gift for her previous boyfriend but then they broke up...(w/c is ti think made up.)

one of our guest guitarist asked her out but she refused and she said that shes not interested in this guy...so i took it again as a sign of interest right?

after that i cut my communication with her for two days.and she really missed me.she texted and called me alot in that two days.so i check her friendster profile and she said that she misses her prince already because she ahsnt seen him for two days...i know that was me..heh...

while we were on a date we met a guy friend of hers...and i found out that she has a lot of guy friend(a sure red flag for me)

i invited her to watch a concert anyway but the concert was a real hell as the featured was late for about 4hrs...but i keep her laughing...

so we had a convo that was quite confusing for me...here's the bit of it that i can remember

i: so tell me about ashley(her ex)?your past realtionships?

hb: my ex cheated on me but i didnt get hurt because i dont really like him...

i: how long does your relationship last?how did you feel when u found out that he cheated on u?

hb: nothin...our relationship lasted for about 14 days...actually we didnt have a relationship, we jsut kinda had an understandin but i didnt know that he misunderstood it.that how the news about us spread.

hb(again): he think that i was interested in him because i go out with him...(a red flag i guess because...well im going out with her and i think that goes for me too..)

i: so how many times have you fall in love?

hb: u mean someone i would die for(culdnt remember)

i: yes?

hb: 1. my first bf(a red flag i guess because she not for keeps i guess...

So the convo continued....

it got around 11:45 in the evening and she said she would go home because her mother is sick...

so we walk to the taxi stop and i confessed that i had something going for her....blah blah...i did see her eyes dilated...and she really was shocked...she said she couldnt say anything and that she would just text me and ride a taxi...


after 10mins she texted me it says:

"im sorry bout the way i reacted earlier,im just really shocked and dont know what to say...because i really liked you eversince we meet"

and stuff...i ignored her so she keep texting that she want me...

this evening she texted me that she loved me...it goes like this

hb: if you dont reply i wont show to u anymore.

i: lets just talk some other time...i just cant feel you.

hb: wht do u min? just tell me if you dont wanna see me anymore..

i: i do..,i really do...i just dont know what i am to you...

hb: that night,i really wanted to hug you real tight...you just dont know...i like you...and im missing you tonight...i did tell u dat i really like to be with someone i love and thats you...

i: lets just talk some other time...and dont be sad anymore...i want you to be happy always...

so she texted me again and again but i didnt reply...

she said "i wish u were always beside me...i know myself that im feelin it too but im finding the right time to say it to you...but you said it first...i really love you...." something blah blah...

to sum the red flag up...

1. she is older.
2. many guy friend(but she's nice...religious and stuff)
3. the thing she said on a convo...i cant explain...
4. she didnt said her feelings to me in person...she did call me but i rejected it...hehe!

what of think should be my nex move...please advice...

 

[kanaka]

First off stop asking about her ex's, why would you dedicate an entire convo to finding out about someone's ex, what are you doing?. You'll only end up finding out what you don't want to know. Its all in the past so forget it.

She has many guy friends...so what?!, i even think this is a plus cos it makes hanging out with her more fun.

The girls likes you and i personally don't see what your hangup is. If you like her go for it cos i can guarantee you she wont be begging you forever.

 

[cordoncordon]

No doubt kanaka, why does this guy keep making this girl beg? He tell us he is really into her, finally tells her, she is totally into it, and all of a sudden the guy is playing hard to get?

I swear some of you guys take this djing to levels way beyond what is constructive and helpful.

 

[gherald]

@kanaka

we were talking about love thats why i hadasked it..btw thank you...

@cordoncordon

did i say im really into her... ^_^ dont really care if i got dumped. i just choose carefully...and thanks also....

 

[Jay Jay]

NOT Red Flags.

So what of she is older if you like her.

So what of she has male friends... sheesh.

So what of she said something weird. Chicks are always saying confusing ****. Just ignore what comes out her mouth and look how she acts.

Dude! So so what if she texted you instead of saying it to your face. You put her on the spot by talking. You put her in a position where SHE had to make things happen. It is your job to make things happen when you are face to face.

Basically that was a RED FLAG BY YOU!!!


Please, bust a move already...

JJ

 

[Cremasta]

With Jay Jay on this... you were on a good thing and then you tripped on your tongue!

Don't get into the serious stuff until it is well established that she can't do without you, even then, hold off for as long as you can... assuming you want something serious with this girl.

She's older, so what? Looking back now, at your age I wouldn't have touched a girl under 25!
She's got lots of guy friends... if any of them were good prospects, she would be out with them, not you.
Forget if she said something a bit weird, if you were half as impressive as you say you were, her head was spinning and rational thought wasn't exactly coming to her easily (mind you, that's fairly normal for women hey?)

Just chill out and make your time with her fun.

 

[amoka]

haha.... all the wh0re have one problem with the past ex: they "cheated" on her. What the hell. 14 days of dating. I bet you could nail this girl in the taxi had you played your game right. Wh0re is always a wh0re. Play safe.

 

[gherald]

now im getting confused...

forget to mention that she flirts with one of my bandmates back then...

it happened when i teased her that she likes me...and she refused...something like that...then i asked her to join me in the cafeteria and she refused and asked for my bandmate to go with her...

that one got me pissed...

well...to all the people that answered my thread,thanks...

masters!lolz...