A recovering afc,in need of djs wisdom

[C00lAF]

The title sums up my situation,im a recovering afc learning my ways around and trying to improve myself.
Now...i've read the dj bible and some pick up stuff here and there,they generaly have the same concept of being inlove with my self (wich i am) and not talking to women thru the window of desperation and need,and not thinking about pick up as pick,but rather getting to know a new person,list goes on and on.no ****,these tips helped me alot,and in a short period of time i was that social friendly guy. My question(s) is,why do i forget everything i read about conversation when i talk to women,i just forget everything and start asking stupid close ended questions.2nd i cant keep my eye contact for more than 3-4 seconds i just cant for some reason.3rd how long would i stay in the RAFC zone?.last one,even after ive made friends with plenty of women why do i get nervous when i talk to new ones?.
Ps: thanks pook <3

 

[C00lAF]

Apprecia

You make mistakes, and you correct them with the next girl.

Another thing that is crucial to learn is that it's okay to fail.

Failure is good. You'll get plenty of funny stories out of it (I have loads ).

Keep pushing. If you need any particular help, then that is always available. But I sense that this is a confidence thing for you.

It really is okay to make mistakes, mate.

The guys that don't make any mistakes are just existing within their comfort zone, and not getting anywhere.

e it man,but what do you mean confidence?like my confidence is not solid enough type of thing?.and yeah i have loads of funny stories too XD

 

[C00lAF]

Here is the secret of confidence:

Confidence is simply situational competence.

How are you going to gain situational competence without putting yourself in these positions over and over (as often as possible)?

Hence, you need to be able to accept that you will make mistakes on the road to situational competence.

Ah you mean developing a thick skin against rejection and not taking it personaly?

 

[C00lAF]

Y

That is a huge part of it, yes.

If I told you a few of the bad blowouts that I had over the last few months, you would laugh

I didn't let it effect my vibe. I still approached, still got numbers, still got laid.

I have situational confidence.

A girl the other day rolled her eyes at me in the street. I couldn't believe it - haven't had that in a long time. I was looking to approach and got that!

She was only a 6 out of 10 as well. I have screwed better than her in the last month alone.

That is my ego.

I knew she was a rare exception, because I have approached enough women to understand that the 'eye-roll' very rarely happens. I didn't let it effect my vibe. I just carried on, and regarded her as a ball-buster.

It's now merely a silly story that I use with you to make an example, whilst I screw other girls instead. See how life works?

Yeah you cant catch em'all. Now how long would i expect myself to remain in this srage of rafc,cause im 19 and im afraid its becoming too late for me lol

 

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Yeah you cant catch em'all. Now how long would i expect myself to remain in this srage of rafc,cause im 19 and im afraid its becoming too late for me lol

19 is young as hell.

It sounds like you're shy and maybe you lack authentic confidence. I have to ask... what do you do outside of school and work?

I am a creative type by nature, but for me, nothing instills more confidence than physical training (or performing on a stage, but training is easier to do on a daily basis).

Confidence comes with confidence, so in a way, you either need to fake it until you make it, or authentically build it. In my opinion, do both. To authentically build confidence, I would always recommend sports. Preferably a martial art. Pure lifting will get you the best body and that could help. But a lot of people who lift and don't compete against other men in some sort of competition shoot from confident to egotistical.

Get used to being rejected. Every time you talk to a new girl, try to implement something your game as lacking. This could be as simple as asking more open-ended questions or maintaining longer eye contact.

 

[C00lAF]

19 is young as hell.

It sounds like you're shy and maybe you lack authentic confidence. I have to ask... what do you do outside of school and work?

I am a creative type by nature, but for me, nothing instills more confidence than physical training (or performing on a stage, but training is easier to do on a daily basis).

Confidence comes with confidence, so in a way, you either need to fake it until you make it, or authentically build it. In my opinion, do both. To authentically build confidence, I would always recommend sports. Preferably a martial art. Pure lifting will get you the best body and that could help. But a lot of people who lift and don't compete against other men in some sort of competition shoot from confident to egotistical.

Get used to being rejected. Every time you talk to a new girl, try to implement something your game as lacking. This could be as simple as asking more open-ended questions or maintaining longer eye contact.

Yeah ive been lifting for quite sometime now(im above 6' and 180 pounds),i study vet medicine,i do some voulnteering and all that,and i genuinley enjoy people,one question how can i build authenitic confidence,and how to know if i lack it?