A realization about the nature of AFC

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OK so I don't know if any of you other guys have come to the same conclusion about AFC but I just wanted to express my thoughts quickly.

People love to label things as AFC and lame all the time. For example, they'll say texting too much is AFC. Or being persistent is AFC. Well the thing is that it's only AFC if you make it AFC. That is if you're not a confident person and don't really know what you're doing it'll be bad. If you're insecure and act needy that's bad. Girls can pick up on all this stuff quickly. So if a guy goes and gets a number "the right way" she still won't like him because she can sense that he's a phony and really and AFC deep down. just look at some of the threads posted by "stand". He does some things that might be considered AFC or lame yet he had success. I attribute this to him being confident and non outcome dependent.

So the next time you think that a girl might think you're being AFC. Stop for a moment and think if YOU think it's AFC. It may not necessarily be if you're confident in yourself, don't care, and have built a base for interest in her. That is the mindset I think naturals have. They'll call when they want, not when they think they have given enough time to get her missing him or whatever.

 

[Caferacer]

OK so I don't know if any of you other guys have come to the same conclusion about AFC but I just wanted to express my thoughts quickly.

People love to label things as AFC and lame all the time. For example, they'll say texting too much is AFC. Or being persistent is AFC. Well the thing is that it's only AFC if you make it AFC. That is if you're not a confident person and don't really know what you're doing it'll be bad. If you're insecure and act needy that's bad. Girls can pick up on all this stuff quickly. So if a guy goes and gets a number "the right way" she still won't like him because she can sense that he's a phony and really and AFC deep down. just look at some of the threads posted by "stand". He does some things that might be considered AFC or lame yet he had success. I attribute this to him being confident and non outcome dependent.

So the next time you think that a girl might think you're being AFC. Stop for a moment and think if YOU think it's AFC. It may not necessarily be if you're confident in yourself, don't care, and have built a base for interest in her. That is the mindset I think naturals have. They'll call when they want, not when they think they have given enough time to get her missing him or whatever.

I agree completely.

There are things on this site that simply won't work for some people because they can't pull it off or it just doesn't fit. Sometimes doing things your own way just works out.

When you spend enough time in the field and perfecting yourself, you get your own style of doing things that might not work for someone else.

I think there are plenty of things that universally AFC, but things like texting, when to call, and just the way you act are entirely person dependent.

Repped.

 

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yeah things like calling TOO much in the beginning, buying flowers, saying too many stupid things are always AFC. But the difference is that naturals don't do this stuff, naturally.

Personally, I've been trying to become more of my own person. I have a certain sense of humor that I use, throw in some C&F, some kino, and get her laughing and comfortable then I figure I'm usually good. But what I've learned is that some guys just try to follow the "rules" to the t. That just messes things up usually. Girls can just sense when something is not right.

It's really all about inner game. If you have good inner game and don't take things personally then everything just seems to fall into place.

 

[Smack]

Being a Don Juan isn't about a lack of what's considered AFC behaviours, bur rather a state of mind.