"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A real test of indifference?

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So I get a voicemail ill paraphrase, Some guy"hey guy so I m here with hb8ish and and hb1ish, we think you're a faggot because you won't let these girls strip for you blah blah," with girls laughing in the background. I haven't responded it was about a week ago. I had met and numberclosed on the hb8ish in a 24hr popular pizza joint, and made the mistake of calling from there to make sure it was real as they were lingering. I had made up a story about how my wingman was a stripper and I was his agent. Not two days later she texts me into a double date with the four of us(booo). My wingman was hesitant due to his poorly matchup but happily accepted his role(as wingmen we'll go down to hb1 its ohio deal) and we set it up...of course last second she pushes it back 3 hours(hmm strike 1?). I said its too late for him not me(woops)(it was too) and that made it go sideways as I was available and he not, right? Mind you this is all the night of a date that she's trying to be atleast ehrs late for that was her idea to start with, so she asked to resched and I said maybe not now(hinting at strike 1). So immediatly she's pressing me for my dudes num for her hb1 friend, so to speak. I imm told her to not ask me to hook up people and lastly one final time told her He was not interested in her friend. So now I'm spun and disconnect. It was I who had closed this girl and here she is having the balls to press me for my dudes number! Wow strike 2? I'm confused and ignored 2 more blahlol texts and then that voicemail. Some random guy calling me a faggot on her phone. I responded with nothing, indifference. I am asking for some comments on a wierd turn of events. Can a girl get 2strikes in a row bfore a first date? Indifference is normally an empowering strategy but damn
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I've been weird in letting extra strikes slide before a first date because if you haven't met, then you really haven't established much rapport.

Heck, the girl I went on a first date with tonight had two strikes before we even met outside of the initial contact, but the strikes were for very valid reasons and she was apologetic. I'm glad I didn't blow her off because we had an excellent time tonight, and she was calling me back to let me know that before I even got back to my house.
 

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Simply put this Is my first 2 striker, as I've been one hell of an afc ump. She wanted me to wait on her friend, strike 1; and she insulted me, strike 2. Sucks to be her. Not gonna torch the bridges and no bottom dwelling.
 
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