a$$raped at speed dating: I got nothing

[gradeAprime]

Ok, I'm back, this time I tried speed dating. I've done this before, and I've never gotten a date afterwards.

I wanted to do speed dating to take my mind off of work, and figured it would be good for my spirit to speak to a bunch of new femmes, to help open me up. I feel like my game is extremely rusty and I haven't approached in months and been out of it.

I met about 15 girls, 10 were completely unqualified. That was expected; I thought I did ok, I tried to make as deep a connection I could in just four minutes, to separate myself from the other dudes. There were actually two extra girls who left early in protest because they didn't want to wait.

There was one truly 'hot' girl and of course she was macked on hard core, so I decided to spend my time hitting up the other not quite as hot but still good.

I tried to butter up a pair of recent med school graduates, OB/GYNS, and one of them was datable.

Anyways, I didn't get any 'mutual matches' from my chosen girls (the ones that were datable without anti-nausea medication). So just to see if I got anything, I selected 'match' for all the girls, whether I liked them or not, just to see if any chose me. Only two did, one was utterly not my type, the other was 'plump' and drunk (i.e. not my type x2).

Ok, so a couple questions:

Am I doing something wrong in speed dating, or is it just an unnatural place that you can't expect much? In real life, most men don't approach hotties due to inhibitions, but at a place like this, all can get their face time regardless of game.

Are there any techniques for doing speed dating I should know of? Or is the whole thing a waste?

Why didn't the less attractive girls choose me? I tried to be polite and not show that I wasn't attracted; are they just broken personalities-types that can't deal with men, or did they see that I wasn't suitable or that I didn't really like them? I would have thought they wouldn't have been too picky, especially the lady who was a 'bit' older than everyone else and had a 'cougar' pattern blouse on.

As for the two that did select me, I think one selected every dude, and the other I don't know but she is alas, unpresentable.

On the bright side, thanks to my efforts of building up my game and spirits, at least now I feel that I am 'overqualified' for some of the girls, although I still feel like something holds me back, like some kind of inner doubt, from getting the truly eligible hots that are the right age.

 

[Dante420]

no offense but speed dating means u kinda already lost

 

[Desert Fox]

no offense but speed dating means u kinda already lost

so wrong but funny at the same time

 

[Desert Fox]

btw I went speed dating once for a charity thing and got 2 matches, both uglies. I went in there with 0 expectations and got nothing lol. Not a good night, but it was good to get out and if anyone has approach anxiety or just anxiety in talking to girls in general it's a good thing to do.

 

[bluenorther]

I went to one of these programs, and came out thinking, "They shoulda just made it a night for the guys."
At one point, I was next to one man who'd flown backseat in Navy Phantoms, another man who'd bicycle toured Central America.
The most interesting woman we encountered worked as a dog trainer.
I'd say MOST of us are over-qualified for the women we're being offered.

 

[Amazing]

And I was half expecting Dante420 to start this topic!


Your homework.

Go to another meeting next week after you read this.

http://www.tuckermax.com/archives/entries/date/tucker_goes_3minute_dating_hilarity_ensues.phtml#625

 

[speakeasy]

I'll go out on the line and say that speed dating is a great idea.

I tried speed dating a couple times 5 or 6 years ago when it was a new thing. I found the women to be much no different than most you see out in the field. Some uglies, some cuties and some average. I remember this one redhead being smokin' hot, but her ***** shield was high.

I got a couple girls that checked me, but not the ones I had checked.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. It's just one more thing to try out. Don't put all your eggs in one basket and use this as your only way of meeting girls. I think it's a good thing to try if you're in a dry spell and need to get the ball rolling.

Another thing it's great for is guys just starting out that have approach anxiety in the field. This is perfect, because if you talk to 20 girls one after another, you'll shed your fear quick. So speed dating is excellent "therapy" for shy guys afraid to approach. You don't have time to sit there and think about whether you are going to talk to her. That bell rings and you have to move to the next chair and you are forced to talk. Since the conversation is only 3 minutes or so, you can come with several minutes of conversation with anyone.

And I was half expecting Dante420 to start this topic!


Your homework.

Go to another meeting next week after you read this.

http://www.tuckermax.com/archives/entries/date/tucker_goes_3minute_dating_hilarity_ensues.phtml#625

Honestly, I have a hard time believing any of those work with a girl who wasn't completely childish or trashy. I'm all for using ****y and sarcastic humor, but talking about masturbation, and sh*t like that is probably not the way to go as an initial impression.

One thing they are right about though is that the girls all ask virtually the same exact 2 questions. "What do you do?" is ALWAYS the first one. And sometimes they'll ask "have you tried this before?" but not always, probably because they don't want you to ask them the same. Have something interesting prepared to say, because every guy there will answering her questions literally. Girl: So what do you do? Guy: I'm a paralegal working for such and such a firm blah blah... Girl: Oh that's great! Guy: So what do you? blahahahahah.... Rinse repeat with the next girl.