"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
A quote to live by...
- Thread starter incognito42
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
"Fear is conquered through forced repititions of acts of courage"
So damn true it hurts
And to quote Bruce Lee
"To conquer oneself - A man is born to achieve great things if he has the strength to conquer himself. To see oneself is to be clear of right."
"Bear insults patiently. - There is nothing that will enable you to pursue your course in greater peave than the patient bearing of insult. Patience is not passive, on the contrary it is concentrated strength."
incognito42
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Originally posted by blinkwatt
does anyone find it weird that i have begun to post all of these quotes i find on these forums up on a wall board i have?
I dont think so. I wrote a bunch of quotes down that I saw on here be4.
btw, if anyones curious the original quote is from the movie Adaptation. Not only is it one of the best movies Ive ever seen, but I think everyone on this site could take a thing or two from it
belividere
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It is simple to make something complex, and complex to make it simple.
And sorry but I cant remember where it comes from
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
splinterkb
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- Nelson Mandela (Also in the movie Coach Carter)
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This one is really great...Originally posted by splinterkb
You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.